sweetowen Forum Posts (8,850)

RE: MIA

RE: MIA

John & I are just good friends. I've had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful man in person. He'll always remain close to my heart.

RE: MIA

I'm game if you are, John.

It's not you, it's me...

The first time, there were a few factors. I had a best friend that I did everything with. A relationship kind of wasn't extremely important to me then. Also, one night, he & I met up with my best friend & her guy at a local establishment. We were talking & I tried to always include him, but he excluded himself. He ended up getting up & walking out. We, in NO way, excluded him. He did apologize for that, but I'd been hurt by that. And I guess the spark just wasn't strong enough then, either.

I truly WANTED the spark to be there & thought, with time, it could be. It's happened to me before & I really fell hard for that other man. But he, apparently, wasn't willing to wait. I do love being with him. But perhaps we're just better off being friends.... now I may have even blown that.

RE: MIA

You know I always miss you!!

I'm smiling... on the inside...

It's not you, it's me...

This line sounds so cliche, but I actually had to use it this past weekend. I was dating a terrific man (our second time around) for a few weeks. He treated me like gold... taking me out, emailing me, texting me, showing me attention, telling me he thought I was beautiful. He even bought tickets to see A Chorus Line at the local theater (it was a traveling Broadway troupe) on Saturday. Not just any tickets, but GOOD tickets.

This man is handsome, financially secure, well rounded, just has everything going for him. Everybody was very happy for me & I was happy for myself.

Unfortunately, I wasn't feeling as strongly for him as he was for me. He confronted me about it yesterday & I was truthful with him. I told him I like him & love doing things with him, but I'm just not ready to move onto the next step of being more intimate with him. I tried to explain that I must be 'messed up', because he's wonderful. I know I hurt him & I feel awful for it. Apparently, I'm not very good at telling people that I'm the dud here, not them. I really don't want to lose his friendship! We were able to remain friends the first time we broke up & I'd really like to again.

I texted him yesterday & told him he's wonderful & I'm an @$$hole & that I'm really sorry. He asked how long I would've left him waste his time & resources on me before telling him how I felt. I didn't reply. I just don't know what to say right now. Should I just let it go & give him some time? Should I try again to explain that I really DO care for him & DID want more than a friendship, but just couldn't? How can I convince him my intentions were not completely materialistic & selfish?

RE: MIA

Well, we're all just really glad your back

Any big plans for the weekend?

What is everybody doing this weekend? I'm taking my father to the local casino tomorrow, during the day. Then I have a date to go to the local theater & see a show tomorrow night. Sunday... I have to work... But hey, the money's always nice!!

What are your plans?

RE: 1980's Music Only!

Benny Mardones ~ Into the Night

RE: 1980's Music Only!

Awesome song, T!! Great choice!

RE: Tickets

Maybe he's just thinking of questions to ask, instead of some of these other silly threads.

RE: Tickets

I'm luckier at winning radio contests. I've even won 2 stints (was a co-DJ) on the radio & a trip to a week-long concert in Ohio called "Jamboree In The Hills".

RE: Say Something Nice

You too sweetie!!

I'm seeing my first theatrical show tomorrow evening. Should be fun!

RE: exs are they relly friends or not

Yes, I try to remain friends with all my exes... except for my ex-husband. That will never happen.

In fact, I just recently started re-dating an ex-boyfriend.

RE: Every go back through your old threads?

I totally agree. I don't like it! Where's that HAPPY Ambrose??

RE: Position

Third baseman

Coming out of the dark

The last few days have been glorious here. It seems spring may finally be springing. Of course, that makes for much lighter moods in many people. They seem much friendlier & more approachable.

I know I'm one who suffers every year from the "winter doldrums". Spring is absolutely my favorite season, with summer coming in at a close second.

I also find that I seem more receptive to love & new relationships at this time of the year. I'm just curious if anyone else has noticed this about themselves. Or is it just me?

RE: Every go back through your old threads?

Oh yeah!!! I remember that one! It was beautiful

RE: Every go back through your old threads?

Had to do with number of partners...

RE: |Why do people in good relationships post all their details on here?

Many of us have become friends on here & we just want to share our good news with our friends. When we hurt, we share. And they're there to boost us right back up again. So why not let people know when things are going good for us, as well?

RE: So, what's for lunch today?

Why not? We women do it all the time!

By the way... I've actually got 2 here, but I'm only eating one. Want the other one?

RE: Say Something.... No Need for Names!

*more

RE: Say Something.... No Need for Names!

The weather just could NOT be any mroe PERFECT!!! It's sunny & 61 degrees. Not even windy out there! LOVING IT!!!

RE: So, what's for lunch today?

I brought in a Red Baron french bread pizza for lunch. YUM!!!

RE: How was your day?

I had a date last night... Had a great time!!

RE: How was your day?

RE: Is Flirting All We Have Here?

Hey there MF Long time no see!

RE: Is Flirting All We Have Here?

I can think of 2 men who are pretty big flirts. But they're both my friends.

RE: How can a person profess love when they haven't even met?

It hurt, no matter what. Yes, I chose to let him in. And would again. We're still friends. He's a nice man. The distance was just too much for us. And our lives got in the way. But regardless, while I can't say I was 'in love' with him, I cared deeply for him. And I'm sure he did for me.

Let me ask you... whether or not you're responsible for your feelings, can't you hurt over someone else? You can't possibly say you never have.

RE: How can a person profess love when they haven't even met?

I believe you can fall in love with the 'image' that you've painted of them in your mind. I was getting to know someone very well online & grew strong feelings for him. And when it didn't work, it hurt. But I honestly can't say I was 'in love' with him. I think I would've had to meet him first & see if the physical chemistry was there, as well.