I think it honestly depends on the ability of both parties to be able to still communicate with each other publicly. Some don't take things as well as others. It's the same in the real world. But even in the real world, for me, if things don't work out, I try to remain friends. Many factors play into the reason couples don't work out. It sometimes also depends on the maturity level of individuals. And some are just not good at handling rejection. This is JMO.
Doc & I went public with our 'cyber-romance'. We got a bit of jabbing from some. But over all the response wsa positive for us. When we stopped 'cyber-dating', people found out & again, the response was generally positive, with both of us staying friends with each other, as well with others who viewed us as a couple. Admittedly, I come on here more than he does anymore, but we're both still welcomed by many on here. So, for us, going public really wasn't a bad thing.
I was thinking about that last night. Within the first 5 minutes, I knew I wanted to leave! I spent the next 1/2 hour pretending to be interested in his rambling on & on about himself & trying to figure out how I was going to get out of there.
OK, we agreed to meet at a place that I was familiar with & where people knew me. Sometimes that's a good thing, but that time, it wasn't such a good thing. We met & I had told him that my daughter had accidentally texted me something mean that was meant for someone else who she was apparently having a problem with. We sat down & he immediately took over the conversation, not letting me even get a word in edge-wise. All I could do was sit there & nod, as he went on & on... & ON about himself. And it wasn't just bragging about himself. In the process, he was putting everybody else down! He started bashing his ex-wife (which to me, is a no-no... because if he'll do that about her, he'll do it about me too). He was bashing people he worked for & with in the past & the present. Then he got on the subject of politics (another no-no). He leaned toward me & asked if I agreed. I told him I'd rather not talk about it. And he almost yelled at me, "So you agree with them?" I said back very sternly, "No, I said I don't want to talk about it right now!".
I got a text from someone I knew who was there at another table & said it was my daughter. Then I got a text from my friend (I'd told her earlier that I had this date) asking if I needed her to "give me the 'emergency' call. Again, I said it was my daughter & that I needed to call her & excused myself. I came back & told him I needed to leave, because my daughter needed me. He proceeded to talk & I reminded him that while I was sorry, I really needed to leave. He walked me to my car, gave me a kiss on the cheek, & I jumped in my car & sped off. So far, I haven't heard from him.
This may have been done before. And if so, I apologize. We've all had those "dates from he**". C'mon people... fess up. What's the absolute worst one you've been on?
Your Dominant Intelligence is Musical Intelligence Every part of your life has a beat, and you're often tapping your fingers or toes. You enjoy sounds of all types, but you also find sound can distract you at the wrong time. You are probably a gifted musician of some sort - even if you haven't realized it. Also a music lover, you tend to appreciate artists of all kinds.
You would make a great musician, disc jockey, singer, or composer.
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I dated a guy who HATED when people would call me that! 
You're crazy!!
RE: Pet names.