I was looking for a definition, personal and individual for each woman who answers, of a "wonderful" man. I don't expect to be able to define the ideal man...
I do not get involved with or allow myself to feel anything for a man who is separated. I did that once and after a few months he returned to his wife though he had told me adamently in the beginning that the marriage was definitely over.
When a man is single, divorced, or widowed, to me, he is available...otherwise, no.
Hmmm...each woman is giving her personal, unique definition of a wonderful man....we are not seeking to define the ultimate wonderful man.
I know of one man, without a doubt, that fits my definition perfectly, and I imagine the other women may have a specific person in mind too, even if it a father, brother or friend, the type of man they hope to find for themselves.
A wonderful man is smart and has a good sense of humor; he is decent, honest, and ethical. He is thoughtful and open minded, fair and reasonable, kind and loving. He is a thinking person who observes the world around him and develops an awareness of it rather than just reacting to it; someone who reads, studies, and assesses not to validate preconceived ideas, but to understand and to learn. He is someone who is smart enough to see the humor in life and as well to be moved by the anguish and to accept it. He is someone who has dignity of soul because he is aware that the soul is meaningless without dignity. A wonderful man is someone who would be an equal partner in a relationship, someone whom I could count on and respect.
He wrote a couple of collections of stories as well as Catcher in the Rye. He was not a prolific author, but the the quality and sensitivity of the work he did produce is highly regarded, and not as any kind of popular fiction. He did not want to function in the larger world as a 'famous' author because he felt it would inhibit the work he produced...which, ironically, came to not much....but he also did not want to discuss ad infinitum the work he had produced but preferred to let it speak for itself. The fact that such a major issue was made by journalists out of this man's desire to be left alone only serves as an example of the vulger-like attitudes of modern journalists.
Sorry, guess I don't get the joke....I don't see Salinger as a 'celeb' mystery or otherwise. As a literature major in University I studied and wrote papers on his work. He is (or was I don't know if he was a great artist. The fact that he chose to be reclusive had to do with his 'take' on things in respect to the large world, and the way he felt he could function or not function as a 'famous' author. He did not become a recluse to gain attention for being a recluse. He didn't need to seek any kind of notoriety to increase or inhance the reception of his work. So, I guess I don't see the joke. Sorry.
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