Of course you do... as long as you don't generalise your preference as meaning that's how 'women should be'. Saying you prefer such and such doesn't mean all women should be like that. At the end of the day only 1 woman need be how you want (as long as you meet her) ... what should you care how the rest of the women are ...
Yep! Whatever the question, the answer is always love
There is a difference between choosing paths/experiences for oneself and not loving or judging or attempting to change those who chose different ones ... at all times I can choose who I want to engage with and choose who I don't without being judged or pigeon holed. All of my reasons and perceptions are as valid as anyone elses's. And all of the reasons and perceptions of others are as valid as mine. And who is anyone to decide that their perception is more 'accurate/valid/real/spiritua' than any other?
I think we should have this conversation again when you have experimented or experienced with the 'vibrational component' ... although someone who is not HSP (highly sensitive person) will not be aware of vibrations to the same degree as someone who isn't. Your son is still experimenting which is brilliant. Will come a time when he may decide which experiments he'd like to repeat and which not and he may discover he has a preference. Not our of judgement but out of being aware of what brings him more joy. We are the creators of our own reality. He may opt to create particular realities ...
Well imagine having that vision/awareness/sensitivity all of the time without a strong dose of anything...
And I forgot to mention another thing that alters on contact with another person is their smell. I also have a highly sensitive sense of smell and prefer the smell of my lover to be familiar to me ...
Weirdly enough I never swear in Spanish, my mother tongue because we never swore at home (apart from my Dad) and so expressing myself with swear words is not part of what I do in Spanish. And so when the occasion warrants such language (in my opinion) I usually swear in French, my 2nd language or English, my 3rd language! In French my swearing is a bit more limited than in English. My husband had a colourful language when he was pissed off and so I have a rather varied list to pick from in English. I was a very good student at picking up new vocabulary
No always about codependency or jealousy.... Some people are so sensitive to energy and vibration that when their partner spends time with someone else they feel the change in vibration and it's very disconcerting ... it's like having intimate moments with someone else 'by proxy' ... those same sensitive people might prefer to chose who they get intimate with including 'experiences by proxy' ...
My bother is short. All his girlfriends for the last 15 years have been at least a head taller than him. Before that he always has shorter girlfriends. He told me at was about a mindset. He thought he should only go with shorter girls till the day he saw a taller women he really liked and invited her to dance. To his surprise she accepted and that was the turning point. He realised he had set his own limitations in the passed for no real reason... Now the only criteria is whether they like one another rather than height.
I'm petite yet my last husband was 5'11 and I have had boyfriends as tall as 6' ... some tall guys like petite women.
Absolutely stereotyping is never cute and although I agree that culture is different from family values, in some cultures 'family values' have different content and boundaries where it seeems the culture influences the family values being taught within the family.
I could see that even as a Spanish person growing in France. Our own family values and my friends family values were different because our culture influenced the values we were taught in our family.
I know what you mean. Not sure where the boudaries of 'family values' would be. You'd need to be sure they're authentic before making irritrievable steps .. Yes my own life is pretry free because I walked away from controlling partners ...
I had an Asian friend. We were colleagues. She was a science teacher. They lived with her husbands parents. As well as her job and bringing up their child, he was expected to serve his parents hand and foot and look amazing at all times. Usually it's the husbands family who are 'in charge' BUT if her mother is a widow and she has unmarried sisters and/or younger brothers, they might become your responsibility...
Not irrelevant when you've just told him one of your family members just attempted to take their own life. It's thoughtless and cruel. Emotional thoughtlessness and crualty are never irrelevant ... Nobody knew apart from him and when I pointed out his thoughtlessness, he made excuses for himself instead of apologising ...
I have much clarity about the quality of my life right now and the person I would meet would have to enhance and expand my life rather than shrink it, as well as making my cells jinggle
RE: Women's expectations from men
Of course you do... as long as you don't generalise your preference as meaning that's how 'women should be'. Saying you prefer such and such doesn't mean all women should be like that. At the end of the day only 1 woman need be how you want (as long as you meet her) ... what should you care how the rest of the women are ...