Well, at least you're getting comments, which means that you're doing something right to attract people to look at your profile.
My thoughts:
What's with the cropping on the photos?
Don't they have charity shops in Cyprus where you could buy lots of clothes that will fit you properly for almost no money? Would you like me, or someone else to post some clothes to you?
Some of your self description comes over as negative. Are you a glass half empty or half full kind of person? Coming over as negative is fine, as long as that's a true representation of who you really are.
Also, there's no such thing as a perfect profile. We could take the Cecil Northcote Parkinson approach to profile ads where you list every negative aspect about you, with the idea being that exactly one person will contact you with a view to getting to know you better. That one person would be exactly the right person for you, as if they're happy to put up with all your negatives then they positives will be enough to make them love you.
Or you could take the traditional CV approach to your profile, where it's basically an advertisement for you, designed to get as many positive responses as possible, from which a process of natural selection then takes place.
And above all, this is only a free international dating site. Don't expect miracles. Maybe you'll meet someone here. Maybe you won't. Life goes on.
Thinking about the clothes thing, I'd be thinking "If he can't organise his clothes, that means that he's hopeless at organising anything. If he's making some sort of joke about this, why doesn't he take photos of himself in properly fitting clothes? Maybe because he can't organise some proper photos?..."
I think there are some great positives about your profile, You are tall, dark and handsome. You just need to find someone who's been to have their fortune read...
Yep, as Divinechaos has already quite rightly pointed out, your profile could be improved a lot Tobias.
You could just cut out all the "I'm looking for..." bit and just leave the $150,000+ annual income bit in
And you could also just start talking to all the groups with women in, or single women that you see you in your everyday life - in a friendly non-threatening, non-creepy manner. And just see what comes from that. It's not like this site is the only way in the world to meet women that might be interested in having some sort of relationship with you.
My favourite song is "Let it all hang out" by Jonathan King. I also like Gary Glitter and Michael Jackson. My favourite TV programmes as a kid were It's a Knockout and Jim'll Fix It. My favourite footballer is Frank Ribery... How old are your children?...
I find lambs very sweet and cute looking. Doesn't stop me eating them. I was once at a farm in the middle of nowhere when they butchered a pig. Its' squeals as they killed it were tear inducingly sad. I still helped them to eat it. As already mentioned. Rabbits are sweet and fluffy. Sweeter and fluffier than Guinea pigs. I still eat them. Snails. They're not sweet and cuddly, but they are pretty harmless. I've eaten them too. And frogs. Sole, those funny looking flat fish that live on the bottom of the sea, harming no-one. I ate one of those this week. Horses. Lovely animals. I've eaten them. Cows are sacred to a billion people. Not sacred enough for me to not eat them.
I'd eat guinea pigs too. If I didn't, all the dead souls of the lambs, pigs, rabbits, snails, frogs, sole, horses and cows could turn around and say to me: "Hey you ate all of us without a moments thought for our suffering. It's not fair that you spare this guinea pig now." They'd be right.
I would choose the wonderful relationship to last a year.
Why? If I was in a long term so so relationship I'd be asking myself why is this relationship not so wonderful? How much good is this relationship doing to myself and my and my partner? Would we both be better off with someone else, or better off single?
With the wonderful relationship that lasted a year, that would leave both of us free to then find a wonderful relationship that would last the rest of our lifetimes from then on. The question did not specifically say that a condition of the wonderful relationship was that there would be no more relationships after that. If that were to be a condition then I'd have to think about my answer again...
I don't think there's anything crazy about wanting to marry a beautiful young lady who has a good job and is into sports. Seems quite logical to me. Talking about marriage and children is a bit premature in an introductory letter as at that stage there's no way of knowing if you have compatible personalities or not. Maybe these guys just aren't very good at writing introductory letters?
And as for meeting up with people who live in foreign countries? Well that's no big problem. All they have to do is hop on plane and come on over.
Once you've had your first relationship, you'll find the 2nd one much easier to come by as you'll realise it's no bid deal.
There are millions of women in this world who would love to get attached to a guy like you. Young, single, with a good job and living in one of the worlds most interesting cities.
Be yourself and don't worry and someone will come along sooner or later.
In one way, this is such a sad story. In another way it's a happy story because it has a relatively happy ending.
Poor woman. What a big big disappointment.
People can be so complicated and hard to read.
There's a lot of bad people who are the most charming people in the world - as long as they are getting what they want. As soon as they're not getting what they want, you find out what they're really like. Or you get people who put on an act. An act which they eventually drop when they let their gaurd down.
Thankfully, most people in this world are basically good. There's more fish in the sea for this woman - if she ever feels like going fishing again.
In the long term, the best thing for you to do is to find a woman who is: younger, richer, cleverer, more beautiful, more witty, more charming, more loving, will stick by you longer than your ex wife, and have lots of wonderful children with her.
In Italy a couple of weeks ago they were telling me that they'd had a cool summer. Cool for them was 25c.
Probably something to do with Icelandic volcanoes chucking loads of ash into the air, plus El Nino, plus a bit of bad luck about the direction from which our weather's been coming from. Or maybe the North Atlantic Conveyor Belt's not working properly due to global warming?
This means that I'm taking my usual precautions: ie driving defensivley and looking before crossing the road - as always.
I prefer to focus on the biggest risks and dangers in life - and to take take sensible steps to minimise them.
Stress and worry are major causes of premature death. So I try not to worry about things that I can't control and things that are extremely unlikely to ever happen to me. A positive outlook is healthier than a negative one.
Other people are quite welcome to worry about these things. That's fine by me. I don't worry about other people being self-destructive by worrying themselves into an early grave.
And there's a lot to be said for jetting off to the tropics or southern hemisphere in winter. To turn winter into summer for as long as the holiday lasts.
Maybe the birds have more sense than us when they migrate with the seasons?
On Saturday I'll be chucking some camping gear in the back of my car and heading off to Calais. From there I'll spend a few days driving through France, Belgium, Germany, Switzerland / Austria and on to one of Italy's finest campsites. Where I'll spend a week lazing about on the beach before meandering my way back home.
Nothing booked, apart from the ferry. Another one of those make it up as you go holidays. I'll be checking the weather forecast on Friday evening and may ammend my plans accordingly.
I love arriving in France with a full tank of fuel and the prospect of lots of places to explore plus the feeling of complete freedom on where to go.
I love the Alps for their breathtaking scenery.
I love swimming in warm-enough sea on stinking hot days.
For sure, package hotel holidays can be great. And cruises too. With these holidays you gain some comfort at the expense of some freedom of movement.
It'll be great to forget about work for a couple of weeks.
There are nearly 7 billion people living on this wonderful planet of ours.
Most people will conform to statistical norms.
For age differences, most relationships will have an age gap of less than 10 years. Statistical bell curves and all that.
Amongst the billions of relationships, you will get a relatively small number of 50, 60, 70, 80 year age gaps.
That's fine by me. Every adult should be free to do whatever they want as long as they're not doing anyone any direct harm.
For my tastes, it would take a very exceptional woman who was 30 or more years older than me, for me to fall in love with them. I'm sure that there is such an exceptional woman out there somewhere, but there's a high chance that I will never meet her in the right sort of social circumstances.
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RE: eat well
Whitehorse, how much of a risk from Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease would you say that there is from following your diet?