Laughing at myself here! Talk about different lifestyles!! When I met my wife, soul mate/marriage were the farthest thing from my mind! At the time I was dating a bunch of different ladies and enjoying the hell out of it. After a few dates with her, tho, things started to change and next thing I know I'm only dating her and can't think of anything else! Never would have guessed! Guess thats what I was trying to get at more so than actually actively find a spouse. Happened to me; can happen to anyone.
Pretty much exactly what I've been saying. You CAN'T make love happen no matter how hard you try or want it to be. It just is and it can hit you anytime, anyplace, anywhere. Stress, you say you were actively looking when you met your wife. That may be - you were actively looking for a woman. But were you intentionally looking for someone to marry?? That's my point. We all enjoy companionship and interaction but for that "special" person to enter your life you have to be open, willing to let it happen, and then anything is possible.
Hey Stress! What's happening bud? Okay, if you're in total shutdown, nothing is going to happen mainly because YOU won't let it. But, I think if you're open to the idea of having/starting a relationship it can happen when you least expect it. You were married before so lets go there. Were you actively seeking a wife/mate when you met your ex? My guess is not. But something made you two gravitate toward each other. I don't believe you can force a relationship to happen just because you want to find someone. If you meet someone, maybe even a casual conversation at a friends house, sometimes two people just (for lack of a better word) click. You hit it off right away. So now you go back for another look because you keep thinking about her/him. You enjoy just as much as the first time. And it just builds. Suddenly it hits you that you love this person and want to spend your lives together. You weren't really looking for this to happen, it just does.
Know exactly what you mean. Never had a problem when I dated before back in ............... okay, know what the problem is! Lol! Forgotten more than I remember!
Nope, you're wrong, darlin! What I believe is that you can't actively go out and make any type of relationship happen. I think it just happens and that you really don't have a lot to say about it. I never went out actively looking for a mate, but when I met my wife, I just knew. So how do you meet people anymore? On the net; don't much want to be a "lounge lizard." How do you get to know them? Writing,emails,pen pals. Where it goes from there is anyones guess.
Yeah, can see where kid preference could be a big deal. Then again, how did that person really feel when he/she answered that particular question? Maybe not sure, or felt he/she might be limiting their possibles with a negative or positive answer. I take all the profiles with a grain of salt. I enjoy talking to all sorts of people and the way I see it, who knows? Worse case scenario, I make another friend so its win/win for me.
The way I see it, the 2nd item is the easiest to get around. How can anyone PLAN on having/starting a relationship? Yeah, I think some aren't ready but that usually comes through in their profile writeup. If not there, shortly after you start writing/talking. But I don't believe you really have much of a choice as to how you feel about someone. If you click, you click. Then everything they wrote in their profile really becomes moot. Think about how it was when you first filled out your profile. Had no idea what the questions were or what the options to answere were. Picked the one that seemed most appropriate - not necessarily correct just closest. Think maybe that happens a lot.
RE: The Bar Is Open...................It Is Always Ladies Night.......................
Sure! And text him your new picture!!