to be honest ''is that good enough example?'' ...NO- that makes me a turd? makes me someone of a group that is ganging up on you? I f you don't want to be pleasant and join in with the forum in a pleasant way, then i can only assume that you don't want to be a part of it, and in my view that is a loner- not an insult, just an observation.
the only contact i have previously had with you to my knowledge was a thread where i asked if it was appropriate that my ( separated) husband walked into the house at any time of the day or night, unnanounced, therefore allowing me no privacy and you accused me of trying to keep my children from seeing their father and using them as pawns. since you didn't bother to read any of the other threads that expained how much we have both tried to make things good for our chuildren, then i would consider that rude.
and BTW- i have not seen other contributions from you other than 'dropping in now and then to be rude to people,' so what am i supposed to base my opinion of you on??
I can understand the point some have made about IM'ing someone if you want to say hi, but i can only make this point from my own personal opinion---- there are a good few people on here that i would like to say Hi to, but i don't really feel i know them well enough( some maybe YET) to have a complete individual conversation with. i want to say 'hello, and i like seeing your input on the forums, but i either don't know you well enough for a long chat,' or do not want to give the impression that I am 'interested' if i am not. so to say a quick how are you, on a thread is sometimes enough for me to let them know I have noticed they are there.
as I said before, the subject matter of the thread would influence me ( i hope, though i may have been lax in the past, i don't know) as to whether i would think that thread appropriate or not. eg.Thread'' My mother just died, I am feeling so low'' is not a thread I would answer a 'Hi, how you doing?' with ''great- had a hot date last night'
It appears to me that some people have a problem with people becoming friends here...I really don't get what that is about- if you don't want to make friends and meet possible dates, then why are you on a dating site?????
Of course there are going to be people that call each other by first names, if they know them- And the 'regulars' have always been friendly to newbies that i can see- certainly were when i joined- having said that- i didn't come here and set about insulting large portions of the members right off the bat( some have deserved it since, but i'm selective ).
I do note that the ones that are rarely here and then come on saying how rude and judgemental everyone is....the only posts i can remember them making on any of my threads were insulting and illinformed . I hope BB comes back- she is a kind and genuine person and one, above most, who would welcome the new blood wholeheartedly
the close freinds i have IRL- weren't that the first day i met them. freindships have to grow, and it's the same here- you have to earn that by joining in, and being respectful and freindly if you want people to be the same back to you. my 3c!!
ha ha- not at all- that was our response as kids if my brothers insulted us!! slap them over the head after saying 'tell me if this hurts'!! don't go away again LM!! how are the horrors darling little pupils??
just leave it- no room here for nastiness- a joke should be taken as such, and a slightyly overzealous reply should be taken as such too.
the written word leaves no room for interpretation, so don't react so quickly to either what you think is a horrendous comment- it may just be a joke that you didn't get, and similarly, if someone reacts badly, try to assume that that person has taken it the wrong way and explain yourself nicely.
# remember this is a dating site, and people are watching how you react to things- if you react instantly and badly- how do you think you are coming across to someone who may just be watching the conversation, that might be someone you secretly have your eye on??
also i have a friend who runs a fast food outlet- he won't hitre irish any more because every sat/sun morning they call in 'sick'. it is true that a recession will get people back to caring about doing a good job- (not saying there aren't many that will do that anyway- (but hopefully they will be the last to lose their jobs in a recession) and unfortunately , the Irish and same in scotland , have given themselves a bad reputation compared to the foreign workers)
My hours have just been cut to 10 a week!!!! apparently people don't get so sick during a recession
haven't seen you with the beard so can't comment TG!! Minx- I find you only get beard rash the first time you kiss him, or if it's been too long since the last time- either way ....it's worth it where have you been hiding anyway?
if it's anice muted pink then guys- go for it!! I always thought my ex looked hot in a pink shirt- but agree the shade is important ....'whispering' rather than 'flaming' pink
another MIA- remember the girl from Galway- the american girl- bagan with an E...sorry i am awful with names.. i know she left, but thought she would come back. And Mr Wright?? sad folks disappear- maybe they found love
RE: Serious or fun?
to be honest ''is that good enough example?'' ...NO- that makes me a turd? makes me someone of a group that is ganging up on you? I f you don't want to be pleasant and join in with the forum in a pleasant way, then i can only assume that you don't want to be a part of it, and in my view that is a loner- not an insult, just an observation.the only contact i have previously had with you to my knowledge was a thread where i asked if it was appropriate that my ( separated) husband walked into the house at any time of the day or night, unnanounced, therefore allowing me no privacy and you accused me of trying to keep my children from seeing their father and using them as pawns. since you didn't bother to read any of the other threads that expained how much we have both tried to make things good for our chuildren, then i would consider that rude.
and BTW- i have not seen other contributions from you other than 'dropping in now and then to be rude to people,' so what am i supposed to base my opinion of you on??