Big_John: I enjoy the International Forums because 24 hours a day new areas from around the world join in and participate in the dialogue. Plus many of your ladies are beautiful.
I totaly agree John ,I mean take the OP ,she is one of them.....
Sorry JD, He is not right. I know, b/c I am A NUCE girl ns I was NEVER attracted to nor had a BAD boy.. We all should not be painting, each other with the same paint brush.
jashcd: Answer is girls always like hurt them self they need to weep so we cant do any think let them to do that bro ..............
its true always nice guys never get nice girls always get .........some .............
Erm, with all due respect, this is NOT true. If these are they kind of girls you have found then, I am sorry for you, you have been looking in the wrong places.
What about the quiet girl that knows the answers to the Questions in class, b/c she studies, while all you "Nice" guys are out dating the ones that break your hearts.
She is the one you never give another glance to, even when she has let you know she is interested, you embarrassedly looked over your shoulder to see if anyone else saw and rush her off.
How do I know? I was one of them and still am a nice girl. QuoteReply
I have talked to guys w/o a pic, when they emailed me. . . but, after some time, when they did not post them here, it tended to make short work of the friendship, it just kind of died down..
Erm, with all due respect, this is NOT true. If these are they kind of girls you have found then, I am sorry for you, you have been looking in the wrong places.
What about the quiet girl that knows the answers to the Questions in class, b/c she studies, while all you "Nice" guys are out dating the ones that break you hearts.
She is the one you never give another glance to, even when she has let you know she is interested, you embarrassedly looked over your shoulder to see if anyone else saw and rush her off.
How do I know? I was one of them and still am a nice girl.
It depends upon the person same as us. I have friends from Pakistan.
I dated a Pakistani many years ago. He was always quite nice and respectful. The reason I never went any further,was b/c I was NOT ready.
I had just Lost My Late ex Husband when he wanted to discuss getting back together. (We had been through a divorce and then He was killed soon after in an auto accident). I was not ready for anyone .
I was wise enough to see that and step out before we became deeply involved. He is a good person and has since with his family become American.
I think, there is a difference if people are willing to compromise and learn to live in their New Country with New people and New ways of doing things. if so, they will find a happy medium within their own beliefs and the new beliefs they can accept. If they can do this then they will, for the most part, have no problems.
If not, and they only expect others to adopt their ways, there will be trouble for any person of ANY Nationality.
Many of us are from Old World peoples that had to learn this and ACCEPT it.
After all, anyone that moves, permanently, to a New Country knows that with in a generation, many things will be different for their children, weither, they have them, adopt them or bring them along.
They KNOW the changes will be drastic and things that applied in their Countries of origin, will NOT apply any longer, in many cases.
People that move freely have, for the most part, thought this through and accepted it. Others that may be were forced to relocate, will in time accept it as their descendants make the changes. They may not be happy about it, but they still know it will happen. The ones that do not often are rude and seemingly mean b/c they feel threatened by the changes they either never thought through or never intended to have. JMO
Another possibility, could be that they became that way out of defense, from treatment received as such here, when the OP opened with a valid concern, given something that was said.
In my observation, this treatment comes from the other side of the fence b/c the Natives of the Country have no ability to compromise, themselves and feel threatened and for those from a Country like USA, NZ or OZ, they have forgotten what it felt like to be not accepted.
It is too bad, that Humans do not inherit these memories in their DNA. If we did, we would have far less wars and intolerance than we do.
Op I am sorry some one said such a hurtful and hateful thing. Know that I, for one, do not accept nor believe in things, the way you were addressed. My apologies on behalf of the insensitivity of one of our fellow CSers
LOL, it is to taste. She made it with a bit more Mayo than Mustard, but the ratio was probably ~60 to 70% mayo.
Um, it does not take much probably a cup of sauce for a small, maybe 2 quart pot of asparagus.
so `~ 3/4c of mayo, 1/4c of Mustard,(more or less to taste).
Occasionally, she would add ~2tsp of sugar, but not not usually.
I AM having trouble with telling this.
My Mom was one of those cooks that just KNEW what and how to do some thing. She almost never used recipes.
I am Technical and I need to know Precisely how much, etc.
My one Sister had to translate for me and Mom as my Mom said she just KNEW and could not say how much b/c it was "a little of this or a bit of that or just a pinch etc, measuring spoons and cups were alien in her kitchen!!!!
But she was an INCREDIBLE cook, and I miss her
I am not a bad cook, am actually pretty good, Not like my Mom, she was phenomenal, BUT measuring cups and spoons are NOT alien in my kitchen!
Obviously, I addressed how I feel about much of this in my original post. I agree with this, from, well, an Old fashioned sense of Belief and Principals, in part. Also, in part the safety factor, in Much of Today's World, unfortunately.
I, also, completely agree that the Girl does have a responsibility to help, their Guy, when he relocates to her Country or visa versa.
Although, I had not thought so much along the lines, of the Guy being responsible for everything for the Girl if she relocates. However, given what I do understand, of your Culture, where Family is concerned, I can see it.
I would like to say, though, this decision to do this and to accept this for either Partner, would have to be made after the two have ensured they can and most likely will be committed, with a Deep Trust along with the Love for each other.
This would come after time spent getting to know one another in person and not, IMO, right from a first meeting.
Really i am very happy to listen your an excellent words and see your thinking and experience ,anybody did not brief me before like you. Cj,You have clear all about yourself i appreciate your valueable remarks about a relation and no doubt that you have write the matter of fact,i think many of CS users are here in the search of partner and many are only for time pass,so those peoples who are in the search first of all they should make a media conversionn as you said chat emails phone etc as they can know each other well and after it they have to think about a relationship becoz relation is not a game to play,it is a way where the companions have to walk a long long way ,for me forever.
Ali, you ask good questions. I am happy to offer feedback when I feel I can help another to understand.
Your Questions make me think.
When I think, I not only draw on what I know but research that which I am triggered to think of, when I read a question.
The research also helps me to see other things I had not thought of and to incorporate that into my responses or to help me ask other questions.
Truly, I feel that when one of us asks serious Questions, it opens a very valuable arena for all of us to learn from each other.
To me, this kind of open dialogue, is quite possibly the most important thing, we as Humans, can do, to insure the future for our Planet, corny as it sounds.
As you said, there are those of us that are serious to find a LifeMate and others that are here to perhaps learn or make friends but not be serious in finding a LifeMate too far from them, and others that are only here for the fun.
I am looking for my LifeMate so, age and Nationality do not matter to me.
So, to utilize the Telecommunications Media we have at our disposal, gives us an advantage over our Ancestors, in terms of finding out possible compatibility before meeting .
There is no reason, two people cannot come to find out if they are compatible with all we have to use, before they meet.
Yet, meeting is the most important thing as well. This does not mean once though, for a lucky few, it could be. For the Majority of us, though,this would involve, many in-person meetings, to find out if the PERSONALITIES of the two are compatible.
i think many people move too soon on the first part and start living together before finding out the second part and this leads to problems, JMO.
Relationships are NOT a game as you said, they take commitment and work. They need to be based on a solid friendship and not only to Love each other as friends, but for that Love to Grow even Deeper into Being in Love with each other, which in turn leads to a much more solid Love and Commitment.
This is something, I have said on this site before. My Parent taught us that these four things are crucial to the survival of the Relationship and the determining factor in the success of a future Marriage between two peoples. This I do believe in, having seen the success of my Parent's Marriage by them Practicing what they Preached.
However, after She and Gary fell in love, they decided that the USA had more opportunities and She came here. They had discussed Him going there, but things just weighed out more for here..
Claudya, That IS the most truthful post, which would apply to many, unfortunately. You have defined the problem very accurately. It is too bad that many will never recognize it in themselves.
My education got interrupted b/c of medical issues. I am now just turned 50 as of March 12th. I am still finishing, no matter the negativity of others. I f I can do it, with all my problems and Handicaps, and learning disabilities, ALL of you can!!!!
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