You know, I go through this same dilemma every time I start a new relationship. If I like him, I let myself fall in love too quickly and scare him away. If I try to hold back so I don't get hurt, he's thinks I'm being aloof and am not interested.
So I'm in a simialr situation right now. I wanted more of a commitment and he wasn't there yet, so it pushed him further away. It hurt, but I have decided not to worry about a commitment at this point. If it was meant to be it will be. In the mean time we will hopefully become good friends and are still both free to explore opportunities with people who lives a lot closer.
Last night I went to dinner with a new customer. I accidentally spilled a glass of water on him. It was really embarrassing, but this morning he went out of his way to joke and laugh about it so I wouldn't feel so bad.
I am not skeptical in that I believe romance can "feel" real and sincere. But I am a pessimist because I have yet to see it last. It is usually most present in the beginning of a relationship, and usually absent in the later states. Perhaps that is its true purpose, to coax one in to falling in love until the relationship is deep enough to be self sustained. Some folks just take it to the extreme and for the wrong reasons.
Reality can be tough, and that's often when you find out just how strong the love is. If it is just a romantic fantasy, it evaporates quickly.
I think there is a difference between being a romantic and performing romantic acts.
In the first case, the idea of love seems to be as important if not more so, than actually being in love. In the second, it is simply a way of demonstrating your thoughfulness for another person through words, gestures and acts of love.
I have occassionally wondered if the endless romantic remains that way as a way of denying reality and the hard work that a long term relationship really takes.
I'm not referring to the people that inject a little romance in the relationship on occassion, but more the ones who think life and love is an endless love poem. The folks who are wonderful in the begininning of a relationship, sending flowers and poems, holding hands, stealing kisses can also be the ones who bolt very quickly as soon as real life creeps in, like unexpected deliveries, overdue bills, lost jobs etc.
I completely agree. We cannot know everything and should not discount things that we do not understand as false, simply because it is not yet part of our perception of how the world works.
I believe that someday the existence of ghosts, spirits, ESP, etc. will be understood and accepted.
I think you raise a very good point in that if you don't want to see or know, then you cannot. The mind will not allow you to experience things that it cannot accept as reality.
Someone else once told me something very similar about opening the door. Believe it or not, that's how I view the Ouija board. In and of itself it is nothing, just a silly game that some toy manufacturer pumps out.
However, if we believe it is some sort of a door or avenue for the spirit world to enter or travel, then it will be. We create our own reality.
The message had to do with a new guy that I was working with and who had an interest in me. He was involved with drugs and was trying to get me involved as well. I was 16 and he was in his early 20's so I was flattered that an "older man' would take an interest in me. He was also good looking and I was in a bad emotional state after losing my father so young.
I had never spoken to anyone about him. That board told my brothers this guy's name, what he was doing, and what would happen to me if I got involved.
I believe it was my father trying to protect me. Even though it was really freaky, it helped me heal to think that my father was still there keeping an eye out for me.
I've had a few strange and unexplainable experiences in my younger days.
One time was soon after my father passed away when I was sixteen years old. My brothers were goofing around with a Ouija board with their friends one night. When I got home from work that night, my brothers were clearly upset, faces white as a sheet. They were convinced that something had spoken to them from the board and it was trying to warn them that I was in danger.
Under ordinary circumstances, I would have laughed it off, but they told me things that this "entity" had told them. Things they had no way of knowing about me. The more they spoke, the more freaked out I became. I had told no one of these things, how could anyone have made this up?
I don't know who, what, how this message came to be, but I took the warnings seriously and made some changes in my life that day.
I've 20 people on their way over to my place for a BBQ. House is clean, food is prepped and the beer is cold. When all is said and done, going out for some fun with a new friend. Doesn't get much better than that!
Accept the current stituation, the past leading up to this point, your part in it, his part in it, all of it. Just accept it, learn from it, and try to move on
I went to San Antonio many years ago. It was beautiful. I would like to go back.
Been to South Beach Miami twice. There's a huge latin fesitval on Calle Ocho every March that I believe is the largest in the country. It's amazing!
Would like to go to a few more places in the US like the Grand Canyon, New Orleans, San Fransico, and would also like to visit Ireland and Europe-Spain, Germany, Italy in particular. Just need to find the time to do it all.
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RE: Which Moon Woman Are You
Oh, waxing moon for sure. Just look at my pics, don't I look virginal