Despite the ridiculous examples listed above, the guy's kinda' right. The first thing a person usually tests another person is how much they respect each other. If a man is willing to bend over backwards for a woman, she has very little chance of respecting him. And it's likewise going the opposite way. There are certain tests in a relationship - psychologically proven - but they do, in fact, go both ways. We test each other, and I think we need to test each other to find out if we're actually right for each other or not.
If you look at "God" not as a person, but a concept, it might make a little more sense. I think that "God" isn't necessarily an individual, but a universal force - sort of like gravity. Look into quantum physics and compare much of what they talk about to religion. It's kinda' eerie.
Too often we think of marriage as a fairy tale. A girl meets her "prince charming" and the guy meets his "princess" and they think getting married is the pinnacle of their relationship. The "happy ending".
What we as a society need to realize is that marriage isn't a fairy tale. It's a commitment to hard work, understanding, and devotion to another person. I believe couples freshly getting married don't really consider the "...for worse" "in sickness" "til death" parts of their vows when they're both pie-eyed for each other.
We need to understand that a marriage is a "happy beginning" not a "happy ending" and we need to start treating it that way. Marriage is a huge commitment, and an everlasting responsibility.
I'm not going to say no offense...but I think the reason you're still single is pretty self-evident in that thread.
I mean...good lord
And I don't think women are picky so much as guys aren't picky enough. Try turning down that girl who'll take anyone home sometime. Have some standards, for pity's sake!
Anyone remember telling those "and then..." stories around the campfire. You know the ones where everyone goes around and adds to the story. At the end you can find the most bizarre things.
I say we try it. Half because of the the endless story possibilities, half to see how many participate. Might be fun.
"I was walking down the street the other day when the most peculiar thing happened to me. I was just passing by Marjorie's bakery, you know, on Main Street, when all of a sudden a bag full of something dropped out of nowhere.
I was astounded. I picked up the bag, opened it, and then..."
Alright, who's next? You know this is gonna be fun.
People who don't curse (along with people who don't drink or smoke, or at least one of the three) make me pretty uncomfortable. Some of them are repressed walking time bombs waiting to go off any minute!
Well, I've been working alot lately and have been stressed to my absolute max, so I'm basically a wellspring of negativity right now. I'm trying to soak up every ounce of recreation I can get in my off hours, and with a day off very close on the horizon, I guess I'm feeling better now.
This here's the home stretch.
By the by, does drinking and smoking heavily release negativity?
That's a tough question, actually. I love where I am, I like my job, and I have plenty of friends and family here. It would be difficult for me to leave all that behind just to gamble on love one more time.
Long story short, there's only a very slim chance I'd ever relocate.
I've had two relationships that started online. My advice is to be incredibly wary when it comes to the person you are speaking to. Many of them misrepresent who they really are. And I'm not talking about the 18 year old girl who's actually a 45 year old prison inmate. I mean, in my own experience, a woman so insecure about herself that she pretended to be everything I wanted until a month into our actual relationship.
And she did relocate for me. If you asked her now, she'd probably tell you how much she regrets it.
Being a caregiver is something I've tried to get away from many times in my life, but somehow I always find my way back. I'm currently working as Dietary Manager in a nursing home, and it's probably one of the more fulfilling jobs I've ever had. But I know what's it like, looking around and knowing that death has kind of taken up permanent residence in a place. We deal with it all the time, and I pray I never "get used" to it.
It gives you a sense of your mortality and the inevitability of aging. But you can either let that fear get into your head, or you can let that knowledge make you live every day to it's absolute fullest. If we know it's going to end someday, then live every one of them like it's your last.
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apparently expressing my opinions on being a "good guy" got me kicked off that list!
RE: How and Why Women "Test" you.
Despite the ridiculous examples listed above, the guy's kinda' right. The first thing a person usually tests another person is how much they respect each other. If a man is willing to bend over backwards for a woman, she has very little chance of respecting him. And it's likewise going the opposite way. There are certain tests in a relationship - psychologically proven - but they do, in fact, go both ways. We test each other, and I think we need to test each other to find out if we're actually right for each other or not.-jack