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RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

(cont) for example, training in using computers and the various programs that got with it, courses in medical reception or simply in re-entering the workforce for starters. Its not about telling the single parent to giddy up and start applying for jobs with no preparation.

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

It's not so easy and simple. And yes, life does get in the way at times. However, real systems are in place to make it work for those who are motivated. I've been directly involved in the past as per above, and know others involved now. Many programs are in place, and there for the taking.

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

There may also be good quality family day care in the area, which is very affordable as the family rates are low. They are heavily subsidised for low income earners.

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

There will always be a percentage of unemployment. I hae worked with long term unemployed. And I can tell you, unless the person has a severe mental illness, most people got off the treadmill. We even had a dentist of all people, who had a family and claimed he had been unable to find work in his specialised field of dentistry. Guess what? After his protestations, he did comply and attended retraining courses, sent out tons of applications at the Federal govt's expense. He soon landed himself a fantastic job interstate and couldn't thank us enough!!

OK, the above eg does not involve a single parent, but had he been, whcih he could easily have been the case having been ltue, same scenario.

There are systems in place, retraining programs to attend, skills training course paid for, assistance with resumes, postage paid for applications, help setting up work experience with firms, and so it goes on. And if you have a disability or are in a special group for the day(single parents are definitely one of them!!), the govt and its contracted organisations will be there to assist the most motivated out there.

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

It's incredible what a nation of DIY'ers we are!!...pretty soon, we could solve the entire u'e scene with all the new hardware stores springing up around the nation. We have one Bunnings store in
Munno Parra, an outer northern suburb, traditionally housing the lower income earners - it boasts being the largest in the southern hemisphere!

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

Do you really think this is the point, whether you or I would work in an abbatoir? Where possible, we make choices as to which work we will do based on education, experience and interests. But work, we do.

I'm talking about those people who don't want to work and where, given the option of a working in an abbatoir or nothing, they choose nothing. What's more, choose to do nothing for years on end, taking lots of money off the tax payer and providing a welfare mentality role model for their children.

Personally, I would stop all animal slaughter, certainly the slaughter of pigs and cattle. We just don't need to keep killing these animals. But alas, I doubt that these folks are exercising a conscience vote by refusing to work at the local abbatoir.

RE: A ustralian Skeptics Forum

Of-course it was. Daggy starred in it....He kept calling out, 'Makeup!!!'

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

That's an age-old excuse for many people, tony.

Here in SA, the abbatoirs in Murray Bridge has had to import workers from China because they couldn't attract anyone to the jobs!! And you know what? That whole countryside is littered with long term unemployed who have several kids in toe and figure they get more money on the dole as a family, than if they had to go and work for the same money. Get them off their butts, I fully agree with the new plan. To think it's only happening because it will help to get back into surplus!

I can hear the uproar already!

RE: Single parents to be forced to work....

Great idea, at long last. The benefits are there to assist while the child is a pre-schooler. Even then, if the single parent(often the woman) part-time family day care is a cheap, available option before school starts.

What a rort where up 'til now where single parents perfectly able to work, sat on their laurels until the child turned 16. I know one woman (a widow) who hasn't done a day's work in her life and refused to, even when her children were at school. She managed to get herself on the disability pension. Nothing wrong with her other than poor education. Both her children are gainfully employed though.

I thought it was 7yrs old as the cut-off, near enough anyway.

RE: Another silent poll (Wicca) do you belive or other)

I can't comment on the phases of the moon in the above context, but it seems to be an interesting enough question, given that the moon does figure in many natural events, such as with timing of menstrual cycles (where no contraceptive is involved) the tides, farmers planting at certain phases and avoiding others, and so on.(oh, and always pub brawls on full moon!!)

RE: Help to quit smokin' ideas..............

You will do it, Phoenix.

Your daily mantra..'I am a non-smoker...'
You said you once had no ciggys for 3 days.(The list of 1000+ toxic ingredients such as rocket fuel, glue, toilet cleaner, arsenic...will also soon leave your system. I think cloves might be about the only non-toxic item!) Well done. That's how long it takes for nicotine, 3 days, to leave your system. After that, it's pure habit, no longer chemical addiction.

What helps for you to take control is that each time you think of turning to a cigarette, turn your focus and attention to doing something positive and constructive, such as having a drink of water, calling a friend, going for a walk, even just taking a few slow deep breaths....Set up your environment as a non-smoker, get rid of ashtrays, make it hard to get to your ciggys...you know the drill.

All the best in your efforts..

RE: Sign up ... sign up ..... ! hahaaaa ......

Hi smoky,

I just read exerpts of your son's book on Amazon. Why don't you write a review on there, no need to id. yourself as his mother :)

It's great to see a YA book without foul language. The obvious liminal quality right from the start gets my attention immediately, with mention of walking at night, and 'mist' mentioned a couple of times on page 1... It reminds me of Neil Gaiman's 'The Graveyard Book', where Bod wanders around at night so as not to be seen.

Pass on my good wishes to your son. Will get hold of it it once I have some free time in a few weeks.

A very proud mum you must be!

Revolutionary treatment of MS on the horizon - spread the word

Apart from diabetes, this probably keeps you healthier than most people.

RE: Herd Mentality

It's neither good nor bad. It's what the forums are for, right?

I'm glad the three of you agree, because I just checked with 'Harvey' and he says..

RE: Herd Mentality

Yes, it is one of them. Many forms of defence abound, especially around here...I agree with you, the operative word being 'believe'.

For example, a person with paranoid schizophrenia may fully believe that the person in front of them is about to kill them 'cos the voices tell her so. From their world they act in self defence and attack the other, knifing that person in the chest(it happenedhere a few years ago). Now we know that the person who was knifed was not an actual threat, but only perceived to be by the mentally ill person.

On a much lesser scale of perceived threats, is what goes on around here all too often ...Blame the other is the name of the game. They emotionalise, dramatise, catastrophise, and any number of other 'ises'

RE: Cuspys words that Rhyme

soakin'
(in a warm bath)

RE: The Big Bang theory???????????

I think a bunch of Italians, deep in an underground lab, far away from cosmic rays, only weak amounts getting through, are examining the possibility that there is indeed another explanation to the Big Bang Theory.

They have been able to challenge the speed of light and found that there is something that can travel faster(mind you, the teeeeeniest amount). Only very few places where they can test this, because of the cosmic rays contamination, so it does restrict its study a bit.

RE: LET'S SPEAK NICELY TO EACH OTHER...

What possible bearing could my presence or absence for that 'week or so' have had on the date of the thread? ... Your statement implies that somehow my presence could have meant it was a recent thread. How so, Merriweather?
(merely a rhetorical question, no need to reply...it could some kind of coded 'inhouse' language, a bit like high school)

RE: Opportunity knocks should I take it?

Hi Lookin,

We are all different, and I can appreciate the noble and romantic direction you're coming from about children and raising them. I don't think there is one of us who didn't put our children first. But that doesn't always translate to being to to them at the hip, no matter what age they are.

Children know when you care for them and love them, and it doesn't have to be that you are there 24/7. How many children have abusive parents who go to sleep and wake up terrified? Having the parent there 24/7 is actually detrimental and do better to be with caring strangers...It's not the quantity of anything, rather always the quality which counts.

RE: Herd Mentality

RE: Opportunity knocks should I take it?

So true about role models, much to be said on the topic. My son who had no father around other than school holidays when he went over, has grown to be a wonderful young man, independent and confident and right now overseas for a good part of this year. Many examples of this as you said.

Unless you sign up to be shot into space, AA, if you ensure your son will be safe in a secure environment, then seriously consider spreading your wings. You can turn this into something exciting for the two of you.

Perhaps AA could broach the topic by asking his son how would he like a free trip overseas, ermmm, twice a year. Oh, you do? Well, son, here's the thing, it's like this...

RE: Should Irish unemployed be made to do community work etc for their benefits?

Similar schemes are here in Australia, too.

I think that wording has a lot to do with a person taking up unpaid work. Work experience placements sound more appealing to anyone who is unemployed than voluntary community work.

More importantly, if the person targets the companies that appeal to you, then many times, after completing the work experience period, a position is sometimes created. At the very least, you would gain a great reference to add to the previously light on, resume which would be well received when applying for paid work elsewhere.

Another big plus is an increase in confidence and self-esteem after a period of long term unemployment.

RE: Herd Mentality

Even when posts are written respectfully, yet speaking your mind, someone will inevitably retaliate out of the blue, with a personal attack, or some other abusive comment.

Others still, after reading into your post, feel driven to muster support from farway places ... Many here read stuff into posts that just is not there, projecting their own irrational insecurities onto the poster, fabricating stuff out of thin air. ...Drama queens .

Then of-course there is the forum police who pop up now again when they feel the need to restore their sense of online world order.

Sorry to say, daggy, this place will never change because people are people and onliners, another breed again.

Revolutionary treatment of MS on the horizon - spread the word

Discoveries keep happening, and yes, where we have hope and a positive attitude, there are many chances of staying healthy. I spoke to someone yesterday who has a recurring thought of "I am dying". Well, that's not going to help staying well of-course. Sometimes it can be as simple as altering the words we say to ourselves. Often there is way too much negative chatter upstairs. So for starters, this woman just needs to replace the above words with say, "I am healthy" and immediately she would be feel much better and more likely to stay well and fall ill.

By the way, there is a cancer vaccine available now which will be commercially released by 2020. It will prevent most types of cancer, and works by seeking out and destroying cancer cells, which at present the body treats as normal cells because of the way they disguise themselves.(apologies if I have already mentioned earlier).

At least for yourself, you can exercise a lot of control in the positive direction. Some diabetes can be reversed completely by changing one's diet. Dr. Barry Sears, a biochemist who wrote the book, 'The Zone", and discuss this at length, so if you like to read about eichosonoids, he's your man.

RE: what do you want to say ?

I am lost for words

RE: Opportunity knocks should I take it?

I just want to add, that of-course, you would want to know that your son would be well looked after and be secure even without you being there. I'm not sure if he lives with you right now. That is your first priority.

One thing I want to add...I raised a son and I can say that they do start to lead a really busy social life from their early teens onwards. It's important to have a father around (though mine did not as he moved interstate) but your presence and interest can easily continue as said by others too, by skype. It also gives him something to brag about to his mates to have some high flying dad. Kids do like that ya know.

My son has a female friend he's known since his early teens, and whose father works in Hong Kong. He flies her over regularly to spend time with him, has been able to help her out financially, buying her a good, reliable newer model car car, supplememnted renting of a flat in a nice area, as she is now a single mum and earns only a meagre wage. They have always remained in close touch...Being away from your child is not how most of us want it to be, but in your present circumstances, it is an extraordinary opportunity which presents.

Hope the above helps, but in the end, your decision has to feel right for you.

RE: Opportunity knocks should I take it?

Firstly, don't worry, you would be working very long days and they will get their money's worth from you.

Secondly, you wouldn't have to stop watching him grow into a man. You would be able to hang with him anytime on skype. More than likely, also fly him a couple of times a year to meet up with you. Imagine that opportunity for your son. He would be given a dedicated airline steward for the entire trip and be kept completely safe as a minor travelling on his own.

You seem really excited about the opportunity, and why wouldn't you be? It's the rare time in one's life when such an opportunity arises.

It's not a life sentence anyway. If after 12mths, if you really prefer to be back in Brissie, then quit. At this stage of the game, you have everything to gain, and nothing to lose. Your son has lots to gain too.

By the way, isn't it the case that salaries in the Middle East do not attract income tax???

All the best!...Oh, and if you ever want to show me around the Taj, let me know.

RE: Hi Everybody

Some sure do, daggy. I know first hand, being the gossippee (the one being gossipped about)... Discussions behind my back about me owning my little place in Italy, that I'm such a braggart because of it and so on and so forth. No need to add more...So somthing in which I have strived to achieve, having been a single parent raising a son on my own, some people have turned that into something I am supposed to be ashamed of. Horrid attitude.

(sorry, Martia, am I sounding too abrasive for you? If so,must be the sandpaper I've been using on the wooedwork.)

Hope all is well in your world.

RE: Hi Everybody

Hi Martia,

Hope you get some relief soon. I've been staying up painting 'til 1.30am some nights. Not sure how come I'm not stiff and sore. I think it's actually doing me good, shock, horror.

As for the rest, jeez Martia..what can I say other than not surprised at the dynamics. All pretty predictable, really....Folks flying from across the globe to pass judgement, fake profiles accusing others of being fake, even others professing to be experts in personality profiling, and so on...Online behaviour is alive and well. Interesting innit?

(not sure why I'm posting on CS at all. It's not as if I have nothing to do but spend hours on skype gossiping about others' lives, like some on here (no, not you,lol)...anything but!!! )

Take care. I think we have successfully screwed ali's maiden AU thread so I'm outa this one...Take care and be well.

RE: Hi Everybody

For ali's sake, kristia, please tell us what you have learned, about 'some people on here. I do know 'some' people here do spend a lot of trheir time gossiping by email and skyping each other about others' lives on here. I am not one of them and have never such an interest