People mostly do what they believe is the right thing to do. If they believed something they were doing was wrong, they wouldn't do it. Let me see if I can simplify this... Suppose that person A believes the right thing to do is paint everything blue, so he starts painting everything blue. Person B finds fault in what person A is doing, 'cause a stop sign, for example, is supposed to be painted red, yet person B painted it blue. Person B does not find that fault, 'cause he believes it is supposed to be painted blue.
So, we all have our own rule books, and each of us thinks our own rule book is correct. We judge ourselves based on our own rule books, not someone else's.
There's also the fact that people are just plain arrogant. I often see atheists say that anyone who believes in God is a complete idiot. If you point out to them that Einstein, who was considered the smartest man in the world by many, believed in God, their reply is that Einstein was an idiot. The possibility that they are wrong, is not something they seem capable of thinking. 'Course, people who believe in God are every bit as arrogant, and every other type of people as well.
We laugh at lemmings, for walking off a cliff to their deaths, yet we people do the same in so many ways. We laugh at ostriches for sticking their heads in the sand when danger approaches, yet we people do the same in so many ways. We are literally on the verge of extinction, because we all have our heads stuck in the sand. Yet, when someone tries to tell them that there's a solution, that can save us all, their response is to try to change that person's ways, try to correct that defect in that person which makes him try to save us all.
I've seen this in people, and I don't think they are the exception, rather I think they are the norm.
I would say normally it is the fault of the one who decided to break up, or the one who had an affair. Often one person tries to make it work, and the other does not try at all. People expect love to just happen, as if by accident, and then when they break up, it is also something that just happened, by accident. I think the relationships that last are the ones where both people choose to commit to making it last.
Many people say it is wrong to break up, and stay together no matter how miserable they are. Others say it is wrong to stay together, and be so miserable. No one seems to be saying that what is really wrong, is to not love the person they are with, as they promised to do in the marriage vow. The moment you tell yourself you no longer love that person, is the moment you have broken your marriage vow.
If you believe you can not control whether or not you love, than taking the marriage vow is a lie for you. To take the marriage vow, without lying, you must believe you are capable of choosing to love that person your whole life. You must believe you are in control of whether or not you love.
Having a lasting marriage is not about choosing the right partner. Some couples are very similar to each other, and others are complete opposites, and others are somewhere in between. There is no evidence that shows any difference in success rates, for when opposites marry and when similar people marry. So it is not about the right partner at all.
What matters is whether or not both people make the effort to make it last. Whether they abide by the marriage vows.
So, there's a tiny little bit about choosing the right partner. Most important is choose someone who will abide by the marriage vow, in choosing/committing to love for life. Obviously, that requires an honest person. Then there's other important factors, such as both need to agree on whether or not they will have kids. Rural/city living preference might be important. If your heart is set on living in a commune or something, you might want to make sure to find someone who has the same goal.
It has been predicted the whole world would fall for a pharmacutical scam in Rev 18:23. Note the Greek word "pharmakeia" is translated into sorceries. Rev 18:23 "...for by thy "pharmakeia" were all nations deceived."
Keep in mind, in every scam, it always appears to be real. Any excuse you can come up with to say it is real, is what you would do in a scam.
People are dying, yes, but people were dying before. Some people get really sick, true, but how do you know they didn't get sick from changes in the way they were cared for, such as making them wear masks 24 hours a day, which was completely is unheard of before, or from the placebo effect, or other factors?
Stop thinking that you are so smart, that you can't get scammed. That is what makes you easy prey for scammers.
Look up Rev 18:23 and see for yourself. The King James version is best for this, because it is translated word by word, so you can look up where exactly one word (sorceries in this case) comes from. You don't need to say "this is about Covid" or "this is not about Covid", both are arrogance. You need to consider the possibility. Keep your mind open, so that truth and wisdom can enter. That is what is important. That is how you learn.
My theory is that the fear of commitment kicks in when they meet a nice guy, and that keeps them away from nice guys. That does not kick in when they meet a bad guy, so they often end up with bad guys. I think often, out of getting lonely and desperate, they just go with the bad guys.
I think it is only a small percentage that actually prefer the bad guys.
You can disagree all you want, but that don't make you right. However, no one actually knows what God's opinion is. All we have, is what people have said or written. Nothing more. Most people have no clue of how God thinks about anything. The most scholarly on God's word, have below average level instincts on what God thinks. Typically, listening to regular people will probably get you closer to the truth, than listening to the scholars.
I think it is mostly about lack of love. People are becoming more and more selfish, which means less and less love for others, including their spouse. They are more judgmental, and have less respect and understanding of their spouses. They finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, rather than working on the relationship and making love grow over time. It is the kind of thinking that allows for someone better to come along, and then divorcing that one and going with the better one.
People just don't want to simply be happy with what they've got. They want more and better, all the time. Many people think cheating is ok, as long as the other person doesn't know about it, but you know about it. That is all it takes. Cheaters don't actually love their spouces, and that is where the problem comes in. If you want true love, you have to start by being true.
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RE: Why is it so easy to find fault in others?
People mostly do what they believe is the right thing to do. If they believed something they were doing was wrong, they wouldn't do it. Let me see if I can simplify this... Suppose that person A believes the right thing to do is paint everything blue, so he starts painting everything blue. Person B finds fault in what person A is doing, 'cause a stop sign, for example, is supposed to be painted red, yet person B painted it blue. Person B does not find that fault, 'cause he believes it is supposed to be painted blue.So, we all have our own rule books, and each of us thinks our own rule book is correct. We judge ourselves based on our own rule books, not someone else's.
There's also the fact that people are just plain arrogant. I often see atheists say that anyone who believes in God is a complete idiot. If you point out to them that Einstein, who was considered the smartest man in the world by many, believed in God, their reply is that Einstein was an idiot. The possibility that they are wrong, is not something they seem capable of thinking. 'Course, people who believe in God are every bit as arrogant, and every other type of people as well.
We laugh at lemmings, for walking off a cliff to their deaths, yet we people do the same in so many ways. We laugh at ostriches for sticking their heads in the sand when danger approaches, yet we people do the same in so many ways. We are literally on the verge of extinction, because we all have our heads stuck in the sand. Yet, when someone tries to tell them that there's a solution, that can save us all, their response is to try to change that person's ways, try to correct that defect in that person which makes him try to save us all.
I've seen this in people, and I don't think they are the exception, rather I think they are the norm.
Tony