Oh, meet him, for god's sake. What's the harm. But you don't need to run down any isles right away. (ooooo, those first few weeks are some good stuff sometimes!!)
Nan, If all that you say is true, it would seem that you have extended the olive branch about as much as possible. It looks like he wants to be friends as long as you don't date, which looks like using friendship as a means of control which isn't friendship at all. If he were really your friend he would be happy and supportive if you found someone that made you happy. This is clearly not the case. Maybe he still loves you and holds out hope of reconciliation? Have you sent mixed signals? Avoid that. You seem like a nice girl and it's probably painful for him to let go. The fact that you haven't filed for divorce might be giving him reason to hope you might get back together. If your not going to get back together, you might have to go ahead with the heavy lifting of the divorce. I know it's terrifying, It hasn't been that long for me. Can you go on like this until your children are grown? It's your life, and it's short. You deserve to be happy. Do what it takes to get there if you can. Hope I helped. Bob
No kidding Jan, I don't get it. I think you might have got the picture on here. I'm really laid back, almost too a fault. I rarely raise my voice. I've given up doing it in person. Scares the crap out of me. Oh, yes, you flirt partner anytime. (eyebrows go up and down.)
Listen if your going to tear up my lawn, a little something needs to happen before hand. It's only fair. I mean grass seed costs money. ( no s@#t, though. The turf was flying. She was yelling something out the window.) None of them have got my fishing rods, thank god. THAT would be serious.
The guy pays on the first date. period. I don't do "coffee" dates. If I think enough of her to take her out, we're going OUT. I'm with Ken, the guy always pays on a date. The old fashioned thing is a bit of a two way street though. I want to be cooked for not to long into things. Some home cookin' for this guy please.
I could make something up better than a bumpkin carpenter from Maine. My profile is accurate. (I'm on the phone if this sounds a little vague, but you get the idea.)
This is all a little shocking to me. I've never had a experience where someone misrepresented themselves. Then again, I haven't done a lot of dating. Lucky I guess.
If you can back burner this thing until she's out on her own, I think you should do that. A situation like that can be emotionally charged and downright dangerous. Is it worth it?
It's all part of the charm in my little corner of the world. I'll teach you. I'll have to stand really close with my arm around your waist, just so you can get the rhythm.....of the cast. You can hardly tell it from slow dancing.
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RE: Is Taking It Slow That Important?
Oh, meet him, for god's sake. What's the harm. But you don't need to run down any isles right away. (ooooo, those first few weeks are some good stuff sometimes!!)