I think she might get that. Everyone makes mistakes and I think she was just trying to figure it all out. jmo...since she opened the virtual can of worms, she might as well go fishing.
By stepping into their world of drama, which does touch her, of course, she has let herself open for more pain and hurt, through them.
The girls are the pawns. No man is worth the drama. I know from personal experience. By telling him good bye, they'd all be better off. That is in a perfect world though. There are kids involved etc...
Not only is he hooked on drama, it looks like he gets off on manipulating people, and does a good job at it-so he must have had some practice or some good solid training.
Understandable all the way around. If anything, I would suggest a heart to heart talk with just James, explaining to him, not only how it effects you, your daughter, his baby to be and his other girlfriend. Trying to make him see what damage he is causing, without being confrontational. He is responsible for the bad blood, as well as the drama. He is the one that needs to stop the cycle. Maybe you can help, maybe you can't. There's only one way to find out.
I was in a check out line at Big Lots. I forgot when I was in there for, but they were talking about it. I thought surely they had gotten it all wrong or it was some sort of joke. A very surreal feeling came over me. ( I hadn't heard anything - they were talking about it hitting the Pentagon) I came home, popped on the t.v. and there it all was.
Well hunni, this is just my opinion, but you are arguing with the wrong person. The other girl doesn't lie to your daughter, the other girl isn't cheating on your daughter, the other girl isn't using your daughter. Why give the other girl grief--it sounds like she is just as taken in by this person as your daughter is. She can be as nasty as she wants-but she is believing lies-and that's just sad. I feel sorry for both of the girls.
When that has happened in the past, the first thing I wonder is what I did to make that person leave me. To me, that's what cheating is, a form of leaving. What was my role in it? As for the op's question, it depends on the person, either I say goodbye or try to find a way to make it work. It pretty much works out the same way. The reasons are still there as to why they cheated, because a lot of times, they don't even know. So, my mind takes the road of wondering all the time, and that is no way to live, no matter how much you care for the person. So, in the end, he cheats-the relationship is OVER.
That is what makes America well America. Every nationality comes here to pursue whatever type of dream they may have. Thus, the Statue of Liberty and what it represents.
I am proud of who I am and what I am. Who I am only starts with a certain nationality and a color. It's not the middle or the end of who I am. What I am has nothing to do with color or nationality.
I am proud that America has come such a long way in such a short period of time. In my lifetime, I have witnessed the race riots AND seen a black man become president. To me, that is amazing. We have a long way to go with people's ignorance about race, but we certainly have come a long way.
RE: How far would you go?
He is welcome to come here. About the furthest I'd go right now, is to pick him up at the airport.