Selenite, I don't think that a clinical definition of NDE could replace or override the 'feeling' of being near to death. So,...it's about their perception, I think.
What's more important physical health or mental health?
As some others have said (e.g. Track and DeeDee), I believe that both are important, but not sure equally. The mind is the most powerful part of the whole body - it controls almost everything that the body does (according to Science) and is irreplaceable. However, with organ donations, prosthetics and robotics, many body parts could be strengthened or replaced. So, if I had to choose, then I'd want to have mental health more than physical health.
According to Bonobology.com, here are a few reasons why a spirited chat can turn into a heated argument -
*Ineffective communication: Perhaps you communicate in a way that the intended message doesn’t get across. An aggressive and hostile way of expressing oneself can cause damage over time. It all boils down to “how you said it” matters more than “what you said”.
*Unintentional attacks: Unintentional attacks can get misconstrued as intentional. This sets off a cycle of hurt in motion where the partners take turns to hurl accusations and allegations. The end result? Every conversation turns into an argument.
*Deep-seated insecurities: Insecurities (e.g. trust-issues, envy, poor self-esteem, etc) can creep up to burden the conversations.
*Anger issues: If a person turns every conversation into an argument, the reason can be underlying anger management issues. Inability to rein in anger, losing temper at the drop of a hat, and frustrating emotions all over the place, all lead to a messed-up conversation.
*Suppressed emotions: Displaced negativity forms another evil nexus between suppressed emotions and frequent squabbles. The stressful emotions that did not find vent elsewhere, make their way into your conversations, leaving you caught up in arguments.
I really enjoy good conversation with good people. That’s one of the things that I like about CS forums, and blogs too. However, (both offline and online) sometimes persons can be a bit antagonistic, or become offended to the point where obscenities are exchanged and the topic gets seriously side-lined.
But I believe that a ‘spirited’ conversation can be fruitful and civil, if both parties exercise respect and a willingness to consider other points of view than his/her own.
Is it easy to tell the difference between a spirited conversation and a heated argument? What are the signs?
According to 'christmasfm.com', these Are The 7 Best Things About Christmas Day: Opening presents. ... The fun of seeing what everyone else got! ... Eating Christmas dinner. ... The brilliant TV films! ... Munching on chocolate all afternoon. ... Flaking out for the afternoon with nothing to do! ... Playing charades/cards/Monopoly with your family.
I don't think this list was well thought out though... Better things than some of these, are missing.
Sorry for the late response jac. As for your account, the mere fact that your heart had stopped, and you saw "death lights" too, says to me that you were very near death. Thank God that the nurse responded quickly.
So funny, Iyyov. You're lucky that your mother understood you were delirious when you 'cussed', or you might really have been 'near-death' when she was through with you. lol!
Well Gal, for the first one, you were just 'near-hangover' , for the second one, you 'nearly-hung' your poor friend , and for the third one, you 'nearly-blew up' the school lab , but I don't think that any qualifies as you having a 'near-death' experience.
As for me, whilst I've had quite a view 'near-accidents', the only time that I recall having an incident that brings 'near-death' to mind, is when I had almost drowned. I had invited a young neighbour to the public pool for a swim, and when I asked if she knew how, she said "yes". However, whilst I was swimming in the deep end of the pool, I noticed that she was struggling and immediately went to her aid. Although I had already had some life-saving training, I seemed to have completely forgotten the rules because within seconds I had be pushed under by her frantic flailing. Though I tried to free myself, it seemed impossible and not having taken in enough air into my lungs in the panic, I had almost nothing left. I had even resigned myself to die if need be, because I certainly wasn't about to let her drown on my watch. Just as I had done so, I heard voices and felt her release her hold on me - a Lifeguard had finally seen what was happening, and intervened.
I was just so relieved that she hadn't drowned; I wouldn't have survived having to tell her family....
That happened to one of my brothers when he was a child. I'm not sure what's the attraction that boys seem to have to electrical outlets, but I've heard of others having such incidents.
I could relate. When we were young we felt invincible and didn't understand danger, nor risk. Our adventurous nature kept us interested and engaged in trying to do 'the mostest'.
Fruitful conversation vs Useless argument
Good points Rohaan, thanks for sharing.