Didi7 Forum Posts (1,342)

What do you do when.....?

DL, I agree. I, too, know the art of being silent. However, they often mistake my silence for weakness, and take me for granted. Hence I feel the need to get 'loud' sometimes...that's the only time they pay attention.

RE: Do we get what we give?

No, we do not always get what we give.

For example, there's such a thing as "unrequited love" - you love, but the other person/s persons do not reciprocate.

Due to how persons may have been socialized, their personal experiences and preferences, and even the mood they may be in at a particular time, the response that they give for your kindness and respect (or even your un-kindness and dis-respect) may not be what we'd like.

CHRISTMASTIME

Got it.

RE: Best breakfast I make for the homeless

With such a breakfast, who wouldn't want to remain homeless (or at least pretend to be).

RE: would you work in the gun industry?

It is simplistic to believe that without guns, there'd be no wars. Before there were guns, there were wars - hand made spears, machetes, clubs, rocks, etc - was used as weapons. So, sadly, getting rid of the guns would only lessen the rate and expanse of the killing.

What do you do when.....?

What do you do when your younger siblings speak to and treat you as though you're their younger sibling, or their child?

My 2 younger siblings (42 and 54), often use a tone of authority towards me that is very bothersome. Sometimes I've "let it slide" other times I've "put them in their place". This morning I had to do just that with my younger sister (i.e. "put her in her place", again).

If you've ever had this problem, how did you deal with it?

CHRISTMASTIME

"Fitmas"...?

CHRISTMASTIME

'Free' might be even better....

CHRISTMASTIME

It may be a "plague" for you, Track, but it's a pleasure to hear for many of us.

CHRISTMASTIME

It's the 1st day of December!!!!! Wow, where has the time gone?

RE: Do men and women know what they want from each other?

DL, I think that might be a bit unhealthy, and could negatively affect the quality/dynamics of your future relationships.

Just sayin'...

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

I agree. Some changes aren't even planned, but can become unconscious or reactive, due to life experiences.

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

Very true, Orzzz. Some things/habits are easier to change (and maintain), than others.

Would you date a person with a disability?

Profound words indeed.

RE: What kind of person is a humanitarian?

A 'human' with an 'itarian' heart/mind.

Would you date a person with a disability?

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

What (usually) can’t change:
While people are generally capable of change, there are some aspects that are less likely to change.
*Core personality traits - While personality does continue developing into adulthood, core traits tend to remain relatively stable throughout life. These traits, known as the Big Five, include:

-openness to experience
-conscientiousness
-extraversion
-agreeableness
-neuroticism

These key elements of personality tend to evolve in smaller ways instead of changing completely. Someone who’s fairly introverted in early adulthood, for example, probably won’t swing toward extroversion. Instead, they might work to become more social by seeking out and cultivating important relationships.

People who do want to make changes in personality may find it most helpful to address beliefs and coping mechanisms associated with specific personality traits, not the traits themselves." (www.healthline.com)

Would you date a person with a disability?

Aah yes, I see and agree.

Would you date a person with a disability?

Would you date a person with a disability?

Wow DL, maybe you were just too young at the time.

Would you date a person with a disability?

I think that it's our respect and compassion (not really our pity), that persons who are differently-abled want. My brother has often spoken out (actively and loudly) about their needs, to all who he thought needed to hear, even our Government officials. He does not consider himself a "poor soul", nor does he encourage others with disabilities to think so of themselves. But he (and others like him) is human, with the same need for love and companionship, as we ALL have.

Perhaps it is the "elite" who are also "poor souls", since many still can't find themselves a DATE.

Would you date a person with a disability?

This makes me think of my brother's situation...

Would you date a person with a disability?

Good to know Track.

Would you date a person with a disability?

Nice, but would you date him JT?

Would you date a person with a disability?

I agree with your comment, but only partially. Not all physical disabilities are "manageable", and not all mental disabilities are impossible to manage. There are person who, once they take their prescribed treatments, are able to date (and may even get married).

Would you date a person with a disability?

"It depends on how it will affect your own life.
It is very nice to say disability don't matter but it does.
Like it or not in restricts you in some way."


I agree with you Ten.

Would you date a person with a disability?

My bad, I thought you were being sarcastic, however I see now that you may be saying that indeed a person with disability is really the one doing the hard work (not the one that's "able-bodied"). Am I right?


And, btw, I will use 'differently-abled' if that would be better for you. (My brother and I use 'disabled', but that's probably because we're a bit old-schooled).

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

Bod, what were the findings? Please share.

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

Hi Ten, I got the first part of what you said (and agree with you), but the last part is a bit confusing...

Do people ever really change, or do they just go through phases of being themselves as they go throu

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