eyesthatknowwhy Forum Posts (1,405)

Does it mean you are a "bad" mom if you decide to not have your kids live with you?

Absolutely, just because a mother decides that her kids will not be living with her, especially older children, does not mean she is turning her back on them, will not be there for them. In fact, with technology as it is today, parents (regardless of gender), can be in touch with their children everyday.

RE: What irritates you?

I hear you...it's just some legal stuff that has to be finalized. I am just questioning decisions that I have made and am making, never to sure about it, I have yet to make a decision that turned out right, so to speak. completely I mean, something always comes back to bite me in the butt.

RE: What irritates you?

uh huh - guess it's one of those kind of days that my to do list is
1. just get to the end of the day

Just think it is the weather (heat) and this stomach bug - I am the biggest baby when it comes to being sick like this. And you know ...just stuff...most of which I really want to put where it belongs, the past, but keeps rearing its ugly head. Tomorrow will be a new day and it'll be better. One thing for sure, I have found the perfect way to drop a few pounds

RE: What irritates you?

Ya, would rather use a man than be used by a man ... alot to think about...kinda think that I am better off, a better person by myself.

RE: What irritates you?

That's me as well, busy doing stuff and sitting down now and again - I can't drink any more liquid of any kind today-stomach upset from trying to stay hydrated I think. No more storms, they may be cool for some, but really put me on edge and keep me awake and I do admit that an overtired, hot me can be very irritating to say the least.

RE: What irritates you?

It is so fing hot here, too hot to do much - and then it will storm, hard and loud...warning and all...from one extreme to the other - Hey, on a good note, price of gas dropped here by 4 cents a litre, it is now 10 cents cheaper than diesel!!!

RE: What irritates you?

Sounds like you had a brutal ride home from work today K, hope the rest of the night is better Are you sending s storm here tonight?

RE: What irritates you?

It's just as irritating driving in traffic...what irritates me today is the age old "what do you think the signal lights are for; decoration?" Perhaps it would be easier if we could all read each others minds, but since I don't have this talent, it would be rather NICE if drivers could have the consideration to let us know what their intentions are. The signal light lever is not an option, it is there for a purpose...

Does it mean you are a "bad" mom if you decide to not have your kids live with you?

I think that there is a bit of misunderstanding; this post was purely a result of conversation some of us girls has on the weekend - not about anyone in particular, really. Just throwing it out there.

My youngest is 13, so I don't look at it as I would if he was 5, like a friend does. There are so many different variables. I believe tha tone should take a hard look at their logic as well (as KDH sugested). Anyways, it is good to hear the opinions of many. Funny how no men seem to have an opinion on this one

RE: Morning drop-in

morning all. Another hot and humid one I think.? Not alot to do, just the usual, time off work, so will try to get this blessed bottle collection to sarcan today - taking up too much room in the trunk! Have a great day, and give a smile to someone who doesn't have one!!

RE: Morning drop-in

Hi, not meaning to butt in on your conversation-just wanted to say good for you There are never gaurentees with anything, but hey life is too short and life is for living, so take a chance. It just may work out and if it does not, then atleast you are not left wondering, what if. Try going on all those travel sites for seat sales and such. Maybe he will want to help pay for your trip out to

RE: Morning drop-in

Love the "mug" may I borrow, don't like raising a mug of beer in a.m? Hellishly hot here as well, and HUMID! These storms are starting to get somewhat scary. Too hot to cook, too hot to eat....almost getting too hot to think....

RE: Association of Spiritual Doctors and Holistic Healers of Canada(ASDHHC)

Hi. I agree with you K, 110%. There is a time and place for everything, and in my humble opinion, this forum is not an appropriate venue for such.
Guess it is an individual choice however and if people choose to contact him, all the power to them. Maybe he has just been reading the various forums and for some reason or another has decided that one or two or a few may be in need of a little extra help

RE: Songs

Does it mean you are a "bad" mom if you decide to not have your kids live with you?

Just asking for a bit of feedback, from cross sections - "if" a mom, who has been dedicated for her children's lifetimes, decided to say, pick up her life and regroup, live for herself for a change, sending them to live with dad fulltime: would that make her a neglectful or "bad" mom? This is purely hypothetical

RE: How someone treated their parents. Is that how they ended up treating you?

G, you are making perfect sense...we all do, just a different way of expressing it you know. Have to switch gears again, so to speak, young lad just returned home from visit with other "parent"; think I am in for a bit of a rough ride this week with him...started challenging within 5 minutes of walking in the door. I am not ocmplaining, I am just as responsible as others for this child's behaviours - I let it happen for way too long; never too late though!
There are no word to express how hard parenting can be, especially reasonably good parenting. There are so many influences etc. on different ends of the spectrum; Guess we all have to do the very best we can every day.

RE: Morning drop-in

G'afternnoon all! I missed morning role call as well, got busy sorting and dusting and vaccuuming - and the morning just flew by.
Start of a new week...hope it will be a grand one for all!
Hot and humid here in Sask. sure we will be in for some nasty storms.

RE: How someone treated their parents. Is that how they ended up treating you?

Now a question comes to mind. How are your relationships with your kids going? We are setting up their future relationships with their partners in life. Are you teaching them how live on their own at some point.


Okay, I think you are fishing, so I will bite! Morning :) I think that the "how did we/them treat our parents relate to present relationships does have weight,but you have to remember that so many things have changed and take into conderation the dynamics of every family, good and bad..IMHO, I beleive it all comes down to choices, we treat others as we choose to and they allow us to as they choose to.
Kids, well my kids ahave been getting some big doses of reality, because I am changing my role in the "family unit"; with the support and encouragment of others, a few of my precious ones, are not sure how to respond to a mom that is holding her own, growing a spine, saying no. As hard as it is, allowing them to manipulate me and emotionally blackmail me is not happening. There behaviour and my reactions are results of environment and dynamics - but all that can change, it is a conscience choice. But breaking the cycle and patterns is part of moving on! How they all react is owned by them, I don't own their behavious and choices.
As a mom, I became embroiled in the caretaker role because of certain issues...and put the role of mom ahead of being a person. All changes are hard, but the end result will be worth it and we will have healthier, respectful relationships because of it. Oh, my daughter Brit is getting married soon, and her and I are good.

RE: What irritates you?

Awww...I do feel some type of strange pity for your plight, Kid. When I moved a few monnths ago, the computer desk was a children's table and the chair was a little wooden one about 10 inches off the floor, sit too long and the legs seize in that crooked weird postition - would have to roll to the floor and crawl 4 awhile until everything had sensation.

RE: Morning drop-in

Morning all (it's coffee), and yes I just got up had a late night; looks like a beautiful day - as opposed to yesterday with torndoes and major storm cells....ahhh, the predictable summer weather of the prairies, what would we do without it? Fall off out toes...

RE: Songs

Ladder? Where were you climbing to?

What doesn't irritate you?

I am so happy to hear that, honestly. I know how hard it is to give something to somebody "who has everything".

RE: Songs

TEARS
RUSH
A lifetime of the seasons
And all of the days
All of the reasons
Why I've felt this way
So long
So long

Then lost in that feeling
I looked in your eyes
I notices emotion
And that you had cried
For me
I can see

What would touch me deeper
Tears that fall from eyes
That only cry?
Would it touch you deeper
Than tears that fall from eyes
That know why

A lifetime of quetions
Tears on your cheed
I tasted the answers
And my body was weak
For you
The Truth

What doesn't irritate you?

So glad to hear that; cuz you know without blood flow, things could start falling off

What doesn't irritate you?

With Glenn Miller leading the way

I think I need to get a life...gotta go see a man about a dog, or a dog about a man-need to do something, cuz....what are putting the river

What doesn't irritate you?

I am going to ---- my pants K, holy.....the scary thing is I can see it all, with Kid in his caboy hat!

What doesn't irritate you?

I know that.. thought of that after I posted - oh, oh, this is going to give somebody something to talk about..., Yeah here in PA we get Edmonton's leftovers, so to speak

What doesn't irritate you?

No, don't think so ...just think we have the same kind of sarcastic "edge"; however, Edmonton to PA - we drink the same river water!!! Don't mean to gang up on you or anything

What doesn't irritate you?

just had a visual, elmer fuddish like character with a pink moustache, sneaking around the bush of BC "where is that nasty cwicket..." sorry brew, just couldn't resist and he's wearing a kilt!!

What doesn't irritate you?

Well said!!!