Funny, the lurking thing you keep coming back to, that's a bit how a mature relationship can materialize. Keep one eye open so to speak, assess things, don't let yourself be fooled. Falling in love can be more calculating than chess.
I think the "finding love" thing is a bit overdone. It isn't as if it's something to be dug up, though many people do, It's just sort of created. Not to rag on your post, I just caught that finding thing, it's become the standard of explanation.
I had to leave for a few hours, but I've taken the time to read the last few pages of posts, and thank you all for agreeing with me welcome to the dark side
I'm kidding, obviously, but I'm referring to the "rest of my life" kind of thing, it takes patience to communicate, physical strength to keep your personal life and your life with that person run smoothly, mental dexterity, it's a constant changing and growing. Eventually, there are limits to where you have to push yourself beyond your capabilities, unless you stop loving.
So, in your mind, consciously pushing yourself to do something is negative, but sort of coasting through something else, even if it's more difficult, is positive, as long as you can coast and not think about all the steps needed to be taken?
Since when did dating here and IRL become....
Good night all, and thanks