How it came about. Life in the 1500's You're gonna love this. The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn't just how you like it, think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about the 1500's Most people got married in June beause they took their yearly bath in May, and still smelled pretty goodby June. However, they were starting to smell, so the brides carried a bouquet of flowersto hide the body odor, Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting married. Baths consisted of a big tub of hot water. The man of the house had the priviledge of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the children. Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty that you could actually lose someone in it. Hence the saying don't throw out the baby with the bathwater.
Houses had thatched rooves, thick straw piled high with no wood underneath. It was the oly place for animals to get warm, so aall the dogs and cats and other small animals(mice and bugs) lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof. Hence the saying It's raining cats and dogs.
There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house either. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where the bugs and other droppings could mess up uornice clean bed. Hence a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection and that's how the canopy came into existance.
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Sometimes pork was obtained, which made the family feel quite special. When visitors would come over, they would hang up there bacon to show that the man of the house could"bring home the bacon". They would cut off little pieces to share and everyone would sit around "chewing the fat"
Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got themiddle and the guests the top or "the upper crust".
Lead cups were used to drink ale or whiskey. The combination would sometimes knock the imbibers out for several days. Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would eat and drink while waiting to see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.
England is old and small and the local folk started running out of places to bury people, so they would dig up the coffins and take the bones to a bone-house and reuse the grave. When reopening these about one in twnty five had scratch marks on the inside. They realised they were burying people alive, so they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin, up through the ground and tie it to a bell. Then someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the graveyard shift) to listen for the bell. Therefore someone could be "saved by the bell" or was a "dead ringer". Whoever said history was boring?
Thank you for your kind words. I am a analyzer by nature it enables me to examine myself and make changes when I see I need too. I have a questioning mind. My dad often told me that I could ask more questions, then ten wise men could answer.
Yes I was priveledged to have met such a good looking sweetheart. It proves they are out there they really are. He had been 8 years alone and when he told the staff in the hospital that he was engaged they were stunned!. They thought he was married as he often talked about his sons. Ha someone kept him for me as I found out that other's would have grabbed him. Great sense of humour too a very dry sense. Very tolerant of me. When ever I would do something that others would notice, he would tell people. "Well that is Jenny for you" And just grin.
Now don't make me cry again okay? Told you it makes me look soooo ugly for you guy! Thank you!
This grieving business is strange I don't intentional remember aniversities, I don't want to remember. Forgot his birthday in February. I don't know why this past week I have been close to tears most days. Really don't know why. I am as a rule not a cry baby. Oh well since my plan is to stick around for at least 30 more years, it is save to say that 50 years from now, no one cares, not even me.
Thank you Summer. The last 4-5 months there have been a parade of guys. Some met personally, other's only on email etc. I could tell you a lot of stories, some I can't believe myself and a lot I just don't understand. The how come's and the why's of so much of what has been going on Of course I have asked myself what did I do wrong? Having read enough of the same happenings by other's on here men and women, I am no longer looking at me all the time for having been at fault. Next!
What makes it worth for me I think it that I found him and I walk everyday over what I call his grave. I really am dealing with this not too bad try not to dwell on it.
Ohhh the English language at times, Not worth but worse It surely was not worth it!
Thank you Curvy your a sweetheart I am very sorry you lost such a great mam. You were both the richer having known each other and so was I.
What makes it worth for me I think it that I found him and I walk everyday over what I call his grave. I really am dealing with this not too bad try not to dwell on it. It is the odd time that for no reason that I recognize, the tears come. A few minutes and that is over again. I believe that when there is someone else in my life that it will be eassier to move on. Too much time alone right now. Not very conductive for peace. Someone said that when you have started to remember the good times.you are healing. This is the place I am most of the time. Right Curvy no one can replace what we lost but I am not looking for a replacement this would not be fair. The men that I have met so far are all very different from what I have known. That is whay I said to get used to sooo many different personallyties does get to me. Yeah the ones I have met are all very different even from each other. I am not a butterfly, just wish to find that one special one for me and be done with this whole dating scene. The wish of most who are on here right?
My guy stands in line at Wal-Mart while I quickly get a few more items. When finished shopping, I walked up to him and said; "Hi handsome are you here all by yourselve?" The woman in front of him jerked her head back in disbelief thinking I am picking this guy up. It was funny just seeing her expression.
Ha Mercedes not sure many others woudld agree but am glad I got at least one fan. My dad would often tell me that if everything was a good as my mouth, he would never worry. Oh boy now I am really in doggie doo doo. Oh well been there before
May she the odd time even be allowed to crawl on your lap? He would be reading the news paper and I would come out of bed still a bit groggy and would just crawl on his lap for just a few minutes. He loved it! This was not an everyday thing.
When we met we both knew we had met the one. We told this to each other about a week later. We were really acting like two 16 year olds First thing I remember him saying to me was when I touch your skin it feels like my own. It always seemed to me that his mission in this life was to make sure his Jenny was happy. He was easy to love and do things for. He was surely not spoiled as he would be surprised when I handed him a cup of coffee in the beginning. No one ever did this for me he would tell me. What? Are you kidding me? Very generous this was special for me as my first was a real miser. Hugo would often tell me that I was soo cheap I sqeaked. (too cheap to buy oil lol) So one day I said I am, am I? I am going shopping and went alone. He knew something was up as he knows I don't like shopping. I bought $200 dollars worth of clothes. Proud like a peacock I told him I just spent $200 dollars. Is that is all, he said. I could go on and on about him. Loved by many. In a letter send by a specialist to our family doctor it said; This very likeable man........ You know Mercedes I believe that when two people do for each other whatever they can, how can you go wrong? It goes wrong when one is a taker and does not give back.
Depends Darren I never felt choked or needing space with this man. We enjoyed each other and never felt the need to do things alone. As I said you can be in the same room, yet each do your own thing.
You made this very easy lady as you did as you said it mostly by yourself. You really do have a lot to be grateful for and proud of. You never realized this? Your boys are showing you this in many ways. Which son leaves notes under his mom's pillow or send flowers to her work? This they do because they want the people you work with to know what they think about their mam. Wow! They know the sacrifices you have made, that you did it alone, and the greatest thing is that they appreciate you! Honest how many women raised 7 boys who turned out the way they did. Quite a accomplishedment especially in this day and age.
30 minutes needed to unwine that is not asking very much. Like I said my late husband and my last relationship where in leaving each other alone, a total opposite. For sure is someone ruins a outing then yes if that happens alot it is over. Hope you find someone that is not that way next time.
So you got a few more daughter in-laws coming up maybe. For your one son, time heals a lot and if and when he finds the right one he will change.
You would enjoy this little kid. She is two years old and can not yet talk. She can name 123 countries that she can find on the world map. Google; "Lilly the world map reader"
Ah that never last long. As I said crying makes me look ugly and who wants to look ugly eh? Don't even know what sets it off really. It does not happen too often thank God. I am okay! Thanks
You know I always wished for a large family but unfortunately could not get any. You really have many reasons to be proud of having raised a fine family. Look around there are not many who can claim this.
When I was married I had plenty of space and never once did I ever have to ask/require it. My late husband just knew from to time I needed to do my own thing whether it be doing some traveling or just being around some different people.
Now since he's been gone I feel like I have to much space.[/quote]
Yeah I know what you mean. When I first met my husband I told him that I had no clue how I would take to living with someone again as I had been living alone for 20 years. He told me to do whatever I needed too do. Well I took to it like a duck to water, never ever felt the need to be alone or go away. I was 48 years old when we met and we acted like two 16 year olds.
Sounds like you sure raised a great bunch of guys. You must have been a good mom, and they show their appreciation. So many don't. As you told elsewhere they are all succesful that is in this day and age quit something for sure. None on drugs or abusing alcohol? Some legacy you left lady.
Enjoy this little girl they grow up much to fast. Is she your only grandbaby so far? Did you inherit 7 daughter's in law? What do they say; When you have a son you lose them to the in-laws but having a daughter you gain a son. Something to this?
Thank you. I suppose we all feel this way eh? The last week I have felt really down and miss my sweetheart so much. What made it worse I believe is that he died unexpectedly. It leaves you with guilt and regrets. He was only 61years old. 7 years younger then me. Crying easy even right now. I know I shouldn't as my mom used to say it made you look ugly. I think she was right.
Everytime I use the word sweetheart I have to smile as he used to give me cards and it would say; to my sweatheart. Lol I did not say a word for years.
She is talking at one year of age? I love kids at the age they start to talk and to ask questions. Hey you had 6 sons, I have a friend who had 7 girls. That must have been fun eh? I think boys are easier or not?
So just send me one more and let it be the very last one pleazzzzz! In these last three years I have met several personal and quite a few on line. I am very flexable and adjust easy, but I so wish to find my last man and be done with this dating, to me it sucks big time.
Wow that is a darn long time to be alone girl, 17 years. You still would remember how to do "it" lol? What made the differents for you too most likely is that you were surounded by family? I have no kids and my two step-sons never called me again after their dad died, (mother's influence) eventhough the oldest lived with us for five years. I lost my husband three years ago last January. Not having spend it all alone but today there is no one again. NEXT!
See I never felt like it was too much togetherness. We worked together too in the last ten years of and on. Not all couples can handle that either.
It may be different with the next person coming into my life. I have also changed some as the last few years I have made cyber friends. Difficult to tell how it would be next time.
Did have to let the control freak go as he would watch me all the time. When on the computer he would say things like; You don't need those people anymore you have me now. Remarks like when I was swimming he would be on the treadmill and could watch me. I saw you give that guy your flirty smile. Lol I never knew I had one. So this I do not need someone controlling. There is a big differents between these two situations.
What kind of a relationship would that be Dawn? I like to share, like curling up to watch a movie together. Another time we would be in the same room but doing different things. One would be reading, the other doing a jig-saw puzzle.
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How it came about.Life in the 1500's You're gonna love this.
The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn't just how you like it, think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about the 1500's Most people got married in June beause they took their yearly bath in May, and still smelled pretty goodby June. However, they were starting to smell, so the brides carried a bouquet of flowersto hide the body odor, Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting married.
Baths consisted of a big tub of hot water. The man of the house had the priviledge of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the children. Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty that you could actually lose someone in it. Hence the saying don't throw out the baby with the bathwater.
Houses had thatched rooves, thick straw piled high with no wood underneath. It was the oly place for animals to get warm, so aall the dogs and cats and other small animals(mice and bugs) lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof. Hence the saying It's raining cats and dogs.
There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house either. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where the bugs and other droppings could mess up uornice clean bed. Hence a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection and that's how the canopy came into existance.
Enjoying your education?
Sometimes pork was obtained, which made the family feel quite special. When visitors would come over, they would hang up there bacon to show that the man of the house could"bring home the bacon". They would cut off little pieces to share and everyone would sit around "chewing the fat"
Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got themiddle and the guests the top or "the upper crust".
Lead cups were used to drink ale or whiskey. The combination would sometimes knock the imbibers out for several days. Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would eat and drink while waiting to see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.
England is old and small and the local folk started running out of places to bury people, so they would dig up the coffins and take the bones to a bone-house and reuse the grave. When reopening these about one in twnty five had scratch marks on the inside. They realised they were burying people alive, so they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin, up through the ground and tie it to a bell. Then someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the graveyard shift) to listen for the bell. Therefore someone could be "saved by the bell" or was a "dead ringer". Whoever said history was boring?