It does happen in Brazil and I´ve seen it so often I don´t believe they´re innocent victims or naive at all. For lower class and even not so unfavoured it is "normal" to be supported by a man, and they are encouraged by their mothers, aunts and gradnmothers to find "the best deal" on their little flower. They actually think all they need to do is make a baby and live on child support for the rest of their lives. I know a few who are actually factories: 4 or 5 children from different fathers, and guess what, they DO make a living on it, and they DON´T want to be married. They just want to know they won´t have to study or work at all. Now how naive is that?
On the other hand, I´ve seen girls really strive, and reach hig education levels, have their own jobs and even support their parents, coming from low class and difficult conditions.
I´m sorry. I don´t believe in culprits and victims. Everyone gets what they go for and live how they choose, even with difficulties. I´ve been through many of them myself, and I didn´t try for a free ride.
I just think it´s pathetic. I thought it was pathetic back when I was 18, I think it´s pathetic now I´m 34, and I will probably think it´s pathetic when I´m 80.
I remember when a girlfriend´s parents got divorced and I was 19 or 20. Her dad all of a sudden started wearing clothes that didn´t befit him, talking slang he didn´t exactly know the meaning of, and try to mingle in with her friends. It was ridiculous, she knew it, everyone felt uncomfortable and she was so embarassed and ashamed she stopped hanging out for MONTHS.
I was completely grossed by his behavior, as I am of drunks´, and I don´t think he ever realized how totally ridiculous he was. Oh and my parents were friends with this couple too, and they too thought it was ridiculous.
I guess a man is just as mature as the woman he´s with...
Moving out is not an option, it´s my place. The friendship´s already lost and I don´t want it back. I just want out of this situation...
Thanks everyone for your friendly, caring and wise messages. I would like to reply to thank you one by one but I can´t at this moment, so please forgive me for that.
Neither. Flatmate, 20 years of friendship which seem to be going down the drain. And at this point, I hope it does, I´m sick of the BS. I just want to be at peace.
Something that´s been going on in my own home and where I have a lot to lose by remianing quiet and a lot to lose by fighting. I´ve been avoinding conflict to see if the problem will just go away, but I´m running out of patience, I seem to be the only one caring about making things easier, and the lack of respect on the other person is beggining to get to me as defiance. Just can´t win.
Thanks! I´ve been doing that. But I´m at the edge, I can take no more, and I know it´s not a wise thing to do to engage in conflict. What´s the wisest thing I can do?
You know, when someone is pushing your patience to the very edge, and you´re avoiding conflict as much as possible, so that it all ends as quickly and with the least splashing possible, so you can get on with your life... How much pushing should one take, knowing that if they react the problem will be there much longer and have greater effects?
Aries don´t work in teams or consensus! Readi: there´s only ONE right way, and it´s not yours. Gosh, how unbearable is that? I´d hate me if I weren´t me.
I´m a sheep. What difference does it make to me whether the winning wolf is BAD or NOT SO BAD? I just can pray they´re more hungry for rabbits at the moment, but I can be 100% sure my time will come.
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RE: Men over 40 looking for 18 year old girls???????
It does happen in Brazil and I´ve seen it so often I don´t believe they´re innocent victims or naive at all. For lower class and even not so unfavoured it is "normal" to be supported by a man, and they are encouraged by their mothers, aunts and gradnmothers to find "the best deal" on their little flower. They actually think all they need to do is make a baby and live on child support for the rest of their lives. I know a few who are actually factories: 4 or 5 children from different fathers, and guess what, they DO make a living on it, and they DON´T want to be married. They just want to know they won´t have to study or work at all. Now how naive is that?On the other hand, I´ve seen girls really strive, and reach hig education levels, have their own jobs and even support their parents, coming from low class and difficult conditions.
I´m sorry. I don´t believe in culprits and victims. Everyone gets what they go for and live how they choose, even with difficulties. I´ve been through many of them myself, and I didn´t try for a free ride.