I think it's more difficult because you have to consider how this person will be around your children. It's not only you and your wants and needs, but the children's too. Children should always come first. I think parenthood matures you in some ways that nothing else does.
That's a good point. My father has 3 other children besides me whom I've never met. Heck, I only ever met my father once when I was 2. I know the girl and one of the boys are half-Korean. I don't know even know their ages to know whether they're older or younger (not sure where I fit in - I was never claimed, so there could be a dozen more half-sibs I don't know about).
But to me, they don't really exist. I never had a paternal side to my family, only my mom's. So her side is all I claim.
I would, yes. I have nothing holding me here, but my mother and cats would go with me. My mother is disabled and unable to live on her own. I have long thought about relocating, but haven't had reason or opportunity yet.
Thank you. It was quite easy. I woke up one morning and decided it couldn't be as difficult as I had always made it out to be. I found an amazing website that took into account a variety of factors about me, my lifestyle, how much I wanted to lose and how fast, and it then told me how much I should eat and how much I should exercise.
So basically, I eat 1300-1400 calories a day (was eating WAY too little), walk 2 miles 7 days a week, run 2 miles 3 days a week, reduce sodium, and drink 8-10 glasses of water a day.
She was the most amazing woman I've ever known. She married at 19 during the Great Depression. Had 13 children, lost 2 at birth, and another 2 as adults. Raised 3 grandchildren (including me), lost her husband to Black Lung (coal miner's disease), dealt with her favourite son becoming an abusive alcoholic, and all while living in poverty and working her butt off.
Yet, not once did I ever see her anything but happy and joyful. She loved life and everything about it, no matter how difficult is was for her and even when she began to get Alzheimer's and knew it. She was the light of my life, the reason I never gave up, and I sorely miss her every day.
I can only hope that I can be half the woman she was and that she would be proud of me if she was still alive.
My Gramma used to say you know you're in love when he's the first thing you think of in the morning and the last thing you think of before you fall asleep. When he's the first one you run to tell everything when something happens. When you know he has flaws, but you don't care and still see him as amazing. When seeing him sad breaks your heart and you'd give anything to see him smile.
I just heard from the lawyer we share our office with as she was running to her office to sell off all her stocks. I don't know what to think about all this, but it really makes me nervous.
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RE: Moral Dilemmas....
It sounds like a modified version of Sophie's Choice.I could never choose.