Jesse and I have gone through the most stressful time of our lives recently, due to immigration requirements. He has run himself into the ground, chasing outstanding bills, doing whatever needed to be done, making sure I was still happy and generally being Superman. I know how stressed he has been, and he has still always been there for me, all day, every day and every second..
I have been humbled by what a strong, loving and caring man he is - even though I already knew this of course, but he has still surprised me with his inner strength.
He has made me so, so proud of him and just underlined the fact that I made the right decision to uproot my life for him.
I used to be afraid to say "No". I used to run around, trying to please everyone, do what I thought was the "right thing", say what I want others wanted to hear. It made me physically sick at times - the stress of trying to please..
Then, I realised why I was doing it. It was because my self esteem was at such a low ebb that I felt that by saying "Yes" all the time I was going to be liked all the time. I felt that for some reason I was unworthy of being liked for myself and my own views.
Then, through the course of time, and certain life lessons, I took back that control that I had lost, and regained my self worth and esteem.
And realised, that for one, it dont matter a jot if some dislike me. I dont need them in my life. Secondly, I realised that by sticking up for myself, and sometimes saying "No", even if it caused short term ructions, in the LONG TERM I was respected more, and actually gained more friends.
I think, certainly from my own perspective, being a "Yes Person" stems from a lack of one's own self worth.
Do you have inside information??? A reliable source has informed our roving reporter that numerous ultimatums have already been given to the Emperor/King Alliance for the Inspection Killer Whale/Navy Seals to be given free access to all documents pertaining to and all shipping lanes used for fishing.
Non compliance of these ultimatums will allegedly resort in the Japanese Whaling Fleet to be put on Defcon 1...
To complicate matters further, the African Penguins have been reported to be hijacking cargo ships and holding their captains and cargo for ransom..
Laws vary from country to country, so this is a difficult question to answer.
However, from a personal point of view there is no way that I would wait 5 years before dating. Thats ridiculous to expect anyone to remain alone and/or celibate for that amount of time.
Once a legal Separation Agreement is in place, its pretty much like a "semi' divorce, and both parties should be free to date accordingly in my opinion.
Having a legal Separation Agreement put in place is costly and time consuming, and would not be undertaken unless both parties are PRETTY sure that the marriage is over. Therefore, the chances of reconciliation are slim.
I would say that I would be hesitate to date someone who had only very recently separated, yes. But after a period of time, I think it would be safe enough.
There are no guarantees in any relationship, and anything can happen in 5 years. There would be NO WAY I would waste all that time being lonely and alone.
CS Correspondent Jeter Pennings on location in Antarctica..
"Breaking news...
Earlier today, a Coup D'Etat of the Yellow Eye Penguin Party in alliance with the Chinstraps to overthrow the long time regime of the Alliance of the King and Emperor Penguins took place..
It appears that a new tax on fishing rights around the Northern Ice Shelf has recently been passed through the Senate by the Emperor/King Alliance. The UN has considered deploying a Peace Keeping Force to the region. It is rumoured that the Erect Crested Penguin Extreme Right Party has been in secret talks with the Arctic Puffins, who have for many years been attempting to colonise the Northern Shelf. These negotiations are still only at boardroom level at present. However,there are talks of a P7 Summit in Geneva, (global warming allowing) later in the fall.
The local Rockhoppers and their long time allies, the Macaronis are aggrieved regarding the Arctic Puffins' ability to fly, and consider that this mobility in the skies gives them an unfair advantage as regards air supremacy, therefore unstabilising the political status quo.
The Erect Crested Penguins have of course, been long working toward this alliance in the hope that the Yellow Eyed Penguin Party will in fact weaken the current regime and allow them themselves to grab power and obtain a position of greater strength as regards fishing rights.
Most of the lesser known republic penguins (Fijordland, African and Galapagos) consider that the terms "Emperor and King" are somewhat arrogant and consider the cultural differences to be untenable. This, in itself places the political stability of the entire Ice Shelf in jeporady..
The Gentoos Penguin Party have been reported as having been refining Uranium at a very high rate, and are rumoured to be close to achieving the ability to construct a nucleur warhead.
Have you read this thread? I started it to share how much I am ENJOYING being here, and to inject some positivity into Americanism here, after all the bashing the US has got recently.
RE: women - which of these is most important? and do you want to talk aabout any of these issues........
OK!An intelligent woman. No doubt.
A woman with common sense? Doubtful.