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10 Things About My Friend

Mastic

He is (a):

Natural
Guardian
Slice
Patriot
Virtuous
Buoyant
Resilient
Stout
Uproarious
Benevolent

RE: How to please a woman

See inside of her and who she has struggled against all odds to be.

Do not apply her presence to any template physical or idealized.

Listen to her and not just hear what she says.

Remember that much of what drew your attention to her are defining portions of her individuality, and she will be greatly scarred or lessened by any loss of this.

Try to see her dreams even if they are not attainable through your own efforts, and support them in all ways.

Understand that like all people she will change. Embrace these changes and revel in the growth as life takes her to levels appropriate for her inner beauty.

Don't just tell her that you Love her, show her every single day. Actions mute mere words.

Be her reserve of strength rather than her outward strength.

Do not lose yourself to preconceived or indoctrinated ideals of who you should be.

Remain true to the little girl whose hand she has freely given.

Walk with her in all ways to ensure her path (no matter what it is) is never endured alone.

Never turn your back on even the smallest thing. A pebble removed from a dam is perilous at best and foolhardy at worst.

Accept her in all parts of your life and make yourself available and willing for all parts in hers.

Remember that it takes two to make the onesness you seek and continue to see her as an individual and a whole simultaneously.

Hold her in your arms whenever she pulls close, and in your heart when she draws away.

Tell her how you feel, and allow her to be involved.

This list could potentially be endless as the truth of the matter truly is, so I will just leave it at that and continue to learn from voices wiser than my own.

Intangibles...?

I believe that the most important and enduring things we should bring to any relationship are always intangible. Not that existence would be all that endearing without some physical amenities, but they take a decidedly secondary place in the scheme of things.

What intangibles do you bring? Are they merely reflections of what you need? Do you completely reciprocate them or initiate them without expectations?
How do you react to situations that will arise that test them?

We are all human and thus intractably frail at our core. We will err but with grace we can mend even the most dilapidated foundations.

What acts or lack thereof for you absolutely destroys your intangibles or at least their ability to coexist in a relationship?

RE: jealous?

Jealousy is one of the most serious hurdles in life that we all have to face. Freedom from this lies in refuting its worth. Jealousy has a persistent voice either loud and obnoxious or quiet and persuasive.
The more you hold onto the good things in life the better the chances that you will destroy them in an iron grip that will mold them into things they never were when you found them.
The graces we all seek in life must be held with an open hand and in plain view. Treasures carried deep within vaults cannot share their illumination and birds without wings do not soar their song through the air.
Jealousy is often a prelude to hatred which will destroy you. Hating someone is akin to taking poison in the hopes that it will harm your 'enemy' yet the only victim is yourself.

10 Things About My Friend

Honesty can hurt but it is the kind of hurt that is necessary. There is no shame in any part of that. Childbirth is one of the most painful things I can imagine (in a natural way of course because humans are masters of needless torture), yet it brings forth the most precious of gifts. Truth has the same ability and is commendable in all ways.

RE: Not So Cruel Intentions

Young man the first thing you have to realize is that out of all of what life can bring to your table you will only sate yourself of the offerings you choose. A divine smorgasbord of virtually everything under the sun or imaginable. We are what we eat so to speak and if we allow ourselves to eat onlt of misery and repine then that is what we will exude.
See in their words the potential and inherent qualities that continue to keep these women in your life. We are drawn to things that are closest to our hearts and they obviously see in you somethings that kindle this desire to coninue your friendship.
Wanting is a void that can become vertiginous and no one stands blindly on such a precipice. Fill the gaping holes you perceive in your life with more and more of the grace you bear inside and it will draw forth multitudes of reciprocation from those around you.
You are young and have desires of course but allow yourself to flourish and you will not only find yourself but also someone to whom you are the perfect compliment.

RE: Is it sooo important to find love in life ?? to be happy and feel life is worthwhile ..

Young lady you ability to contructively tear down the facade knowingly or unknowingly painted in words is what I expected from you here, yet I am oddly comforted by your hug.

I continually seek wisdom to bolster my own petty reserves and I know you have depth of character that belies your passive little self. Please do share, for you never know when someone's store of truth is lacking but a little nudge to draw them forth into the radiant blessings of understanding.
Truly a heart that resounds in symphony louder than the most explosive thunder from the heavens themselves. And all of this wrapped in so delighful a package. (OK the second hug is purely out of greed)

10 Things About My Friend

JB, bad is good in ways that warm even the coldest heart at times. You are likewise on the list so like it or not I will post in your regard as well. I just hope that I can manage to clearly attempt to define such a small part of so complex a woman.

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Ken, you likewise (as so many faithful folk hereabout) deserve a list far in excess of ten simple words. Sadly I had to draw a line or I would be at this 24/7 until I drew my last breath and even then I would fall far short of the complete character of so many wonderful gems here, and in truth never get to all those who are deserving of the simplest smile they may gain from my frail efforts to state a few qualities that I witness each and every day from stars that bless us with light.
I am happy to see that a few here have taken this little task upon themselves as well. It is not my thread but rather an homage of simple sorts to those who touch our lives in ways they may never know.

God Bless you my friend.

RE: Here's one for the men.What do you feel is a good woman????

A god woman is one who can forgive herself or at least is in continual motion regarding this self actuation.
Forgiveness of one's self lays the foundation for truth, honesty, and true Love, and is compulsory for reaching the state of undertanding required to accept and give forgiveness and acceptance.
All the most wonderful qualities of womanhood stem from this and they cannot be shared untainted if there are filters in one's own heart.

BTW this also goes for men.

Each person has differing things to bring to the table of a relationship but in truth all they can offer is themselves unadulterated and pure.

RE: Is it sooo important to find love in life ?? to be happy and feel life is worthwhile ..

Love is an intangible gift surpassing all other gifts. It cannot be taken in any way and only has value when given away without conditions. It can not be held in any way that is not detrimental to its absolute ideal except in memory and in Faith.
Happiness is not something we can receive from others, we can share their own happiness but to have our own comes only from within. A helping hand can hold you up but you must stand on your own.
For life to be worthwhile we have to understand what life is and that is an individual journey that will take all of our earthly days. Life is not in the knowing but in the accepting and living to its fullest.
To best experience life, Love and Happiness all we have really to do is share and give it away as often as possible.
Our society has befuddled the conceptuality of worth. We have been fooled into believing that our true measure is in what we as individuals have. Not only in a physical sense but more perversely in an abstract way. Our true worth is in reality what we have to give. No matter how giving one is, if they only seek to pass on the physical remnants and achievements they will eventually run out of offerings. To give of your heart in all ways allows others to see the examples of happiness, Love and of course the grand wonderment of life. And in doing so is really the only way to have any sort of inner peace and completion of merit.
Life is contagious and we would do best by our fellow man and ourselves by ensuring that the epidemics we nurture and pass on are the ones that provide examples for those in our lives to best share what they likewise are.
Love your life and you will be happy.

10 Things About My Friend

Mylifewithu

She is (a):

Benediction
Stalwart
Gentle
Pacifier
Empathic
Ardent
Sincere
Illustrious
Axiom
Heavenly

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Ocee

He is (a):

Devious
Courteous
Respectful
Genteel
Amiable
Literate
Veracious
Jocose
Indelible
Exemplary

RE: Equality?

Sommer you have no need for burning bras, when you're hot you're hot and they just evaporate. Has to cost you big bucks I am sure you little firebrand. Perhaps a synthetic asbestos one might be appropriate to allow for some continuance and perhaps engender the tantalizing possibility of having some deliriously lucky man the opportunity to peer at your quivering form while disengaging such wondrous attire?
Nothing is quite as attractive as the surprise lying in wait beneath a well planned sheathing of art... Hence gifting and the packaging curiculum...

RE: Equality?

Lack of oxygen causes delerium and I refuse to breath the methane they spout on and on about as an alternative source of fresh air. Damn by half way through my shift I can almost believe I am wandering through a field of daisy's that smell like suphur of course. Of course the holding my breath thing is not quite conducive to a healthy complexion (see picture for reference) but it does test the merits of wishes and the theology of the metaphors ascribed to holding one's breath...

RE: how many people have fell in love with another person on this site?

I met the most wholesome woman in my world here and I could never in truth say that I fell in Love with her here as I know I loved her even before I was born. She is just that wonderful.

RE: Equality?

I am merely a chronic sufferer of mental flatulence and in dire need of depends to stop the flow of verbal diahhrea that stems from far too many days inside the void of my own head. Sometimes as in the case of the million monkeys sitting around with typewriters a string of substance pours forth but I assure you if you stick around you will see that the majority of it deserves never to see the light of day and should have been buried before it ever saw the light of day. Thank God for friends who help me to forfeit this aiding and abetting of literal suicide.
When I am lucid enough to manage some form of conscious repartee, it is almost certainly derived from the prodding of the more profound words of the lights that share their wisdom on this site. Like yourself my friend and of course Sommer who instigated these brain farts from my cranium without managing to leave any skid marks yet.

RE: Equality?

As I see it women have the soft squishy parts enfolding their inner iron strength and men have their iron exterior covering their soft tender parts. The perfect compliment excepting that women are by far the strongest gender and I wouldn't have it any other way.

RE: Equality?

And which museum is he incarcerated in pray tell?

RE: Equality?

J if I were you my friend I would be nervous of Sommer's carefully concealed tone here. The children's nursery rhyme of an Old Mother Hubbard and the adult version of this are ringing bells of alarm.

Such a lovely lady as this cannot have the required portions of anatomy for the drove her part of this epic so methinks there might be some prosthetic enhancement intended to deprive you of your manhood and back up your plumbing something fierce.

What a vixen prodding you in such a devious way. Full of surprises this woman and more powerful than a verbal locomotive. Excellent skills at lulling a false sense of security here darling. The poor man has not been born that could put one up on you.

RE: Equality?

Well if equality makes your johnson fall off I am voting against it yet again... Not that I am into johnsons but damn it has been my best friend for so many years and fits so snugly in the feminine version in a way that contracts the blood vessels in my head to such euphoric states of bliss... Not a fair trade by any means. Stuff equality...

RE: What kind of intellegence do you have?

I believe that each of has a measure of all of the above types of intelligence to varying degrees.

For myself I would have to say that from most developed to least they would stand as follows:

Verbal/Linguistic (Literature saved my life in so many ways)
Intrapersonal/Interpersonal equally (First I learned about me then I made it a point of learning as much of the sociology and psychology of those around me- a continuing journey that I daresay will never end)
Visual (I am an artist and cripplingly left handed- hence always in my right mind)
Mathematical (even after 20 years out of school I still managed a 100% on an entry examination for College in Mathematics and Language)
Kinesthetic (I work with my hands and can train my right side to mimic my left side after great efforts... damn left handed disease... so sinister)
Auditory (I have ears)
Musical (I cannot even remember the name, artist, or any part of the rhythm of a song if a new one occurs before i write it down, and I could count on one hand the number of times a song has ever been stuck in my head)

RE: Would you leave your country for love

Home is where the heart is.

RE: Say Something...Names Are Changed To Protect The Innocent Part II

You have to be very careful of falling into a cycle of self-fulfilling prophecy. Creating an ending to justify feelings of low self-esteem or some other sort that may have latched themselves onto your psyche from past relationships. The deeper you let these emotional terrors dig in the harder they are to remove.
Of course I am not saying anything about your personal self-esteem as you seem quite positive here but deep down inside maybe you fear success? It could open doors in your memories of the possibilities of past endings and how they might have been surmounted?
You are a positive person and deserve the best. The only failure is in not trying. Do not shame yourself by only putting forth a half assed attempt, you are worth the whole nine yards in all ways, and the merit of your happiness is worth 100% effort.
Love is unconditional at its purest, use it to heal these doubts.

RE: What Kind of Lover Is Best For You!!!

Alrighty then but I will have to file for a new postal code cause my head is now larger than the airspace allotted to my property. So you might have to wait a bit for the government to calculate an unused 6 digit code relevant to my locale.

Oh yeah and thanks for the compliments, they are a pretty lie that warms my heart...

RE: What Kind of Lover Is Best For You!!!

Hey hey there sweetheart, slow it down I said a boost not over-inflation. Now my stupid hat doesn't fit, and I fear my pillow will never hold my enlarged cranium now... there goes yet another night of sleep...

RE: What Kind of Lover Is Best For You!!!

Boost away young lady... I have been known to be a little dense at times and a good boost would do me some good.

10 Things About My Friend

I just tells 'em like I sees 'em... I am just grateful that no one has taken any offense, from a misinterpretation or lack of defining in their character. So far so good hope to get through another pile of wonderful people this week but work will take much of my time so probably more next weekend. You deserve every word and so many more just like all of the people I have done thusfar, but I had to draw the line at 10 or I would have to do a thread of 51 pages for each of you brilliant stars that light my days in ways you could never know.

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Somechick

She is (a):

Responsible
Monogamous
Refined
Stately
Reserved
Piscator
Complaisant
Healing
Auspicious
Unpretentious

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Thewall

He is (a):

Honest
Heroic
Noble
Superstar
Craftsman
Industrious
Concrete
Altruistic
Robust
Polite