druidess6308 Forum Posts (13,695)

RE: BITTER

And some of them come in here that bitter and find that there are many wonderful men and women out there after all, and get healed by being involved in the forums here, Taino. The truly bitter will eventually leave the forums if they don't heal. We all need a home, my friend. I came here not knowing I was still grieving, and have been blessed to have you all there to support me on my journey this past year, as well as to support in return and to laugh with along the way.

RE: Did she make it to the finish line.......

Good for her, Snuggs.

And I'm glad she's getting to rest today. I think it would be a bad idea for a police officer to be on duty in such pain when it's so fresh. At least a day of rest will give it a chance to start healing well.

RE: would you marry a rich Man or woman who Paralyzed?

If I loved him and knew he loved me too, yes. If I didn't, no.

RE: IF...

Exactly, Thumper.

RE: any honest woman left?

Yes, there are honest women left, just as there are honest men left. Welcome to CS. Hang around in the forums, and you'll discover that not all women are like the one who just did you wrong. You wouldn't be the first to verbalize this...and you won't be the last. You might, however, discover the balm to your hurts is talking about them and making some friends.

How long does it take?

Wow, so many already. Thank you, my friends.

I don't feel guilty at all, and I have no intention of forgetting him. Nobody should expect that at all of me.

The tears were unexpected because I have been remembering him with smiles and fondness, not with tears of pain, and I thought I was past this. It rather caught me off-guard, that's all...and that made me wonder if it will always be like this at this time of year, or if it will pass someday.

Luckily, this is a wonderful man who will most likely just hold me if I let him know I'm going through this now. I'll be seeing him Sunday, and I believe I will let him hold me extra for a bit that day. I can be soft and lean on someone without losing my ability to face the world.

I have to actually do some work now, and it's late Friday afternoon here, so I might not get to check on this until Monday night. Thank you all.

RE: Who would miss you enough to....?

I'll try to answer this, GP, though honestly I don't want anyone to shed a tear, for it means only my human shell has left, my spirit lives on, I don't want a funeral, and I have no intention of being buried in any grave because I want my ashes scattered on my favorite trail where I scattered my late husband's ashes.

I know several would probably cry, my family and closest friends would be there for the memorial service, and my sons would walk the trail and sit in the cave for years, perhaps...though they would know that I was near them regardless of where they are, any time they think of me.

Thankfully, I have no intention of making anyone go through this by my own hand. Heavy one, my friend...yes, you have deep thoughts as well as big ones.

And if you are in any way feeling depressed, please email me and I'll send you my phone number. Reach out and touch someone first.

RE: lets ride

I actually prefer many other bikes...Harleys are the last on my list because of how noisy they are. No offense to those who love them.

How long does it take?

I don't know that anyone can answer this difinitively, and I don't truly expect that...this is more how I verbalize the questions in my soul, so please bear with me.

I cried on the way to work this morning, and realized I'm in for a week-long (at least) emotional rollercoaster. 10/13 is the two-year anniversary of my husband's death, and then 10/15 is the day he would have been 55. I've started a new relationship with a wonderful, giving man, and this has the potential to be more than I've ever had before...and yet, today the tears started.

Does it end? Is there a time you realize that the anniversary has passed and you didn't think about it? Is there a time that the tears and emotionalism stop at this time of year?

Thank you for reading, my friends, and for bearing with me at this time.

RE: Is anyone else amazed at what people are calling "average" body type these days?

I will agree. I've seen men who are definitely sporting an extra large beer belly, or who weigh at least 300 lbs, saying that they're "average" body type.

I know average is bigger now than it used to be, at least here in the US, but not by that much!

RE: Christian Communism

And the "heretics" of that time were the Essenes, the true followers of Christ's teachings.

Well done, Illu...I see you know your history and mythology, much of which was used by the Christian church as it spread in order to wipe out all other religions and enforce people to its beliefs...at least it was kinder than all of the killings during the Crusades (the time that Satan was invented, btw) and The Inquisition.

RE: How many times your heart was broken because of falling inlove?

More times than I can count, Moonlove...and yet I do it again without reservation. To me, life without loving isn't worth living.

RE: Christian Communism

Constantine decreed what books could and could not be included in the bible, and through translations many words have been twisted. Jesus' teachings have been greatly distorted, and the true teachings have been locked in the Vatican Library with few granted access for centuries. Try again about most accurate book on the planet?!

Start here, and Google "Council of Nicea and the bible":

RE: Would you date me???

Hi, Cris...I just had to laugh at that one, because it's so true. How many of these threads do we get a week?

RE: Christian Communism

OK, that's the oxymoron I'm going to laugh at since the bible was rewritten by Constantine's monks back in the 600s to reflect his ideals, and has little left of its original wording or truth in it. Study your history before you preach at others to study their bibles.

RE: Would you date me???

RE: fiat 131 supermirafiori 2000t/c or ford cortina 2.0ghia?

I don't like Fiats or Fords. Give me a good ole reliable Chevy any day...or better yet, a Mazda.

RE: Just a thought... about me.

So awesome, Pub, my friend. I'd say you've earned this.

RE: Just a thought... about me.

Women just want their men to step up and be men...is that so bad, SND? Women like Pub and I who have had to be warriors and take sole care of our families and ourselves for many years are just happy to discover that we now have men in our lives who actually take care of us as well. If that's having our cake and wanting to eat it too, then so be it. Yes, if I have cake I damned well want to eat it!

RE: Today's thought.........

Pat, I love these posts, and this one is awesome. I grew up only hearing I was loved from my father since my mother didn't know how to express it...and in fact, often expressed many negative things instead. I make sure I tell my sons often that I love them, as well as showing them, and because of that, they've grown up to be pretty secure teenagers to date. I also make sure that I tell my friends occasionally that I love them, because I know it's important to say it once in a while so that you never regret that you didn't say it at all.

To my friends here on CS, I love you.

RE: Just a thought... about me.

No, SND, what most of us women want, and what she was illustrating in her relationship, is a partner...a man who can take care of us, or help with things, not just let us do everything.

RE: Just a thought... about me.

You feel that urge because you've always been the one to take care of everyone around you, my friend, and it's going to be quite an adjustment to have someone take care of you for a change. Relax and enjoy it.

I have the feeling I may have a similar adjustment coming up...that of having someone give to me as much as I give to everyone, and treat me as well as I treat others. I'm not used to that, and it feels strange.

Blessings, Pub. I'm so glad you've found such a wonderful man who loves you so much, and who can take care of you as much as you'll take care of him. It's kinda nice to relinquish the warrior, isn't it?

RE: Happy Birthday Sweetowen

Happy Birthday, SweetOwen!!!

RE: what do you do to relieve stress?

Usually I meditate or take a walk on one of my favorite nature trails. The other things I do are put on some of my favorite music and play my djembe with it, or put my hands in soil in my garden.

I used to handle stress with alcohol and cigarettes, but I've come a long way, Baby! And I'm happier, and much more at peace these days than I've ever been in my life. (<---organic fruit juice)

RE: 21 Ways to Be Inspired

The ones I don't do daily are soaking in the tub and the random acts of kindness...and the only reason I don't do the latter daily is because I don't get the opportunity every day. Doing these things, even for a moment, helps to lift your spirits and make you a more joyful person. Life is much better in this state of being. Good post, HL, my friend.

RE: LifeMates

I thought I'd found mine, but he died almost two years ago. He was my LifeMate while he lived, though...for two years, what we had was absolutely beautiful. Now, I seek a LifeMate for longer. We'll see what the future brings.

Best of luck to you, Hunter.

RE: Nichiren Buddhism A Philosophy For Living

True. However, along the way are things that many psychics and tarot readers have told me were meant to be, as does my natal chart when reviewed. Everything does happen for a reason...I feel that in my soul, Conrad.

Good to see you.

RE: Nichiren Buddhism A Philosophy For Living

Hi, Petal. I strive to follow what resonates as truth within my soul. Each of us must do the same, I think, and that is partly based on our experiences in this life. To me, all paths are part of The Truth. Maybe that's why for me it remains eclectic...my experiences have been many and varied.

Good to see you, Petal.

RE: Nichiren Buddhism A Philosophy For Living

I have seen many in my life, examples of "if this hadn't happened, I wouldn't have this", etc. I firmly believe that it all happens for a reason, and that reason is connected to our path towards soul growth, which is the sole reason we're here.

RE: Nichiren Buddhism A Philosophy For Living

That is an understanding I've come to through all of my studies and meditations. When you connect with the world and all of its energies, you get it. I agree that I'm not fond of formal religion, and I don't follow one, but there are parts of many that I do enjoy and learn from, for wisdom can be taught through words as well as experience.