druidess6308 Forum Posts (13,695)

RE: WHEN TO GIVE UP LOOKING

Welcome back, Boban!

RE: ready to give up

Alan, it's been a long time since I've seen you post in the forums. I do have a good memory for faces, and I remember seeing you here months ago. Let me make a suggestion to try before you give up. I read your profile, and I see a big change in it you need to make for a couple of reasons.

Rewrite the "about me" section. You've repeated it below in what you're looking for, and most of it is more appropriate there. It tells everyone what you're looking for, but not what interests you outside of holding hands and cuddling.

Who is Alan? Tell everyone. What hobbies and interests do you have? What are you passionate about in life besides finding a romantic partner? Turn off "Who's Viewed Me" and go surf male profiles to see what others have written if you don't know what to write. There are some really well-written ones out there. Look them over and then re-do that section.

If you don't have any passions and interests, then I suggest you find some. You need to be complete within yourself before you can enter a healthy relationship. And you have to be able to enjoy your own company for someone else to enjoy your company.

The other reason to change it is because it makes you look too much like scammers do when they write their own profiles. And no, I'm not suggesting that you are one nor calling you one. I'm pointing out that it could also explain a lack of response to your profile, and to emails and flowers you send.

You've got looks and being a romantic to give you a good chance at finding someone, now give them substance too.

Blessings, and I wish you luck in finding what you seek.

RE: ready to give up

Speaking of which, congratulations, Anna.

RE: New York Yankees vs Boston Red Sox

Yes, they should!

Red Sox is my home team, had to vote for them, even though I live in Pirates/Steelers/Penguins country now.

RE: Hey everyone, I'm a newbie too.

Welcome to the nut house...it gets crazier every day.

Hey, Da10th, where are you with those directions for the white jackets and towels? I forget where they are.

RE: Should I question everything I say or should I not question everything I say... Or should I???

Good points, Cameraman, I'll give you credit for that. And I also agree that you shouldn't change who you are to attract a companion. If you do this in real life, and it's just part of who you are for some reason, than I accept that. I think many of us who saw it as annoying saw it as seeking attention. You've explained that it's just the way you are at all times, good enough for me. And no, I don't expect you to care.

I still don't see it as cute, refreshing, or funny...but I can tolerate it, ignore that part of your posts, and respond to the rest. You are you, and that's okay...and it should be.

RE: is there really a way to quit smoking

I've discovered that I have to find another way to deal with those feelings because I'm now allergic to the patch. Makes me wish it had worked years ago the first time I tried it. And I hate the taste of the gum and lozenges...apparently nicotine tastes a lot like black pepper, and burns my tongue in the same manner as well. Ick. If only cigarettes tasted like that, I never would have smoked after my first taste of one.

RE: is there really a way to quit smoking

I'm still struggling with quitting too. It's not easy, and it takes several times before one succeeds. But if you keep trying to quit, eventually you will succeed.

RE: White meat, or Dark meat....

For poultry, I prefer dark meat. I find white poultry meat too dry and stringy. And I'm making sure I can't be misquoted or misunderstood here.

For tubesteak, I'm not quite as picky, though most of it has been white meat.

(Yes, I just had to take it there, MyFriend! )

RE: THIS IS KINDA SCARY

RE: THIS IS KINDA SCARY

In the Kabbalah (or Qabbalah), 666 is the number of God.

RE: If you're not beautiful, you don't get a job!

I agree, Cris.

RE: ....ok

It's Friday...do something that makes you feel good and pick yourself up out of this. Put a smile on your face and you'll feel better. Yes, that simple thing can help. If you have trouble doing that, find something that makes you smile.

You're an attractive woman with a lot of good, positive qualities, and we all have bad days. This is a good place to come when you're feeling down on that rare occasion.

RE: Do you believe In LOVE at first sight?

My parents are living proof that it exists. Almost 48 years of marriage, based on my father asking her out when she was looking over his shoulder as he signed a form. They met and married in 4 months.

RE: If you're not beautiful, you don't get a job!

So true. Nobody should be forced to get plastic surgery to get a job, it's their ability to do the job that should matter most. And no, I didn't know about this until now.

RE: Why do women almost always..........

I do know a woman my height who was married to a dwarf...the parents of a friend of mine. He was around 3' tall, she was 5'7", and their sons are taller than me. Anyway, I wanted to add a point to the exceptions, and agree that if you truly fall in love with a person, the outside ceases to matter.

RE: Why do women almost always..........

I only care that he's an inch or two taller, not that he's a whole lot taller. But I wouldn't rule someone out for being my height or an inch or two shorter. I'm 5'7", my late husband was 5'5", and it didn't stop me from falling in love and dating him...and yes, it happened in that order. We were friends first.

Most women don't want to look down at the man they're dating, and they want to be able to lean against his chest, honestly. And many want him much taller so that this is still true when they're wearing heels. I don't wear those, so he doesn't have to be 6" taller, just one or two.

Fair question.

RE: Do you have to be jealous of someone in order to show you love him/her?

No, I don't believe you have to be jealous of someone to show them you love them. Quite the opposite...if you love them, and you show them often in little and big ways, then they should be secure enough in that love to not need displays of jealousy from you. I certainly don't need them, nor do I want them.

RE: Todays Thought..........

RE: Todays Thought..........

I make mistakes all of the time. I don't defend them, I apologize for them and move on. We're all human, we all make mistakes.

RE: Good deeds go unpunished

Good poem, never saw it before but it sure summed it up well...and why some don't do the things they could to help others.

RE: Good deeds go unpunished

I've heard it as "No good deed goes unpunished," and I think that's what you're referring to by reading the rest of the post. I agree that despite this, we shouldn't stop doing good deeds. I still do them, even when others don't appreciate them.

RE: What have I missed?

Welcome back, Owen.

Phyllis got her test results back...check out my "Happy Dance" thread for the details...other than that, same old stuff around here.

Good to see you again.

RE: the next life.....

Good list, Lethal. I forgot dancing on mine. I think laughing was covered under joyful life, though. Oh, and kudos for standing in front of a bulldozer for your beliefs.

HAPPY DANCE :)

She had her first cheeseburger in two months. And her last for another two months. (That's when they'll be testing her again.)

Btw, I also found out that when this started her doctor said her medication would start working in two months, and that it causes weight gain (excess weight is bad for cancer). Instead, in two months her cancer is almost gone and she's lost 14 pounds. We're certainly doing something right.

Still doing happy dances.

And she said to tell you all thank you for thinking of her and for being so happy for her. And also, to those of you who have kept her in your prayers, she says thank you.

If you met her, you guys would love her. She's a wonderful gal...and very upbeat, fun and funny, too. I think I'll keep her for a bit longer. Think that's a good idea?

(Sorry...it's getting late, and I'm getting cheesy. 'Night all. )

HAPPY DANCE :)

No clue yet. She was still just telling everyone and absorbing it when I last spoke to her. Time to call her and find that out, Bentlee.

I'm glad that we live close, too. And we are close. She was there for me through Gene's cancer and death, and through everything since then. It's been nice to be able to repay that, though I wish it hadn't been because of another bout with cancer.

I'm still doing happy dances.

HAPPY DANCE :)

Yes, there are! And many drives we'll get to take together in that new convertible!


And thank you, everyone so far. I'll let her know when I talk to her later tonight that you're all happy for her. She knew that I posted the thread when she was diagnosed, and was glad for everyone's prayers. I know she won't be surprised or offended that I posted the happy news, and will be glad to hear that you're all happy for her.

It feels good to help friends. And it makes me feel even better about what I'm planning on doing for the future. The more people like her I can help with their battles to manage or beat diseases or take control of their health to prevent them, or even manage pain, the better I feel.

HAPPY DANCE :)

She lives about 20 mins away. We're going to implement an exercise plan now to do "together" (separately, but both doing it, same as the diet).

It feels good...she told her doctor what she's doing, and he told her that obviously it's working, and to keep it up.

HAPPY DANCE :)

I just got a call from my girl friend, Phyllis...the one with the breast cancer cells now dying in her hip (yes, folks, no longer growing!!!). Her cancer markers are down from 340 to 220 in two months, and she's lost 14 lbs following the lifestyle changes we've made together. Her "normal" for her cancer markers has been around 170 for years, so in just 2 months, she's almost back to that. And losing weight despite the medication she's on for cancer that causes weight gain...an average of 7 lbs/month, which is above the normal weight loss of diet plans of 2-3 lbs/month.

Yes, I literally did a happy dance in my kitchen when she told me the news, and I'm so happy I'm fighting tears. We're winning the battle.

RE: missing someone

This is what makes LDRs hard, Cas. It's part of it until you can be together. My best to you and the lucky lady.