For those that don't really care much for all the hoopla, that don't feel lonely or depressed because they aren't part of a couple - this is the thread for you. I say those who feel like minded should declare Valentine's day be EVERYDAY, maybe if the same amount of effort was put into making the other half feel special on a more daily basis a lot less of us might be here at CS, the divorce courts would be empty and sites like CS would be out of business(come to think of it a lot of stores might not like that and wonder what the flourists will do?) In any case love can't be bottled into any one day. Just a thought. Hats off to those who make someone feel special everyday.
Bingo! And because its so FREE, all sort of pathetic attention seekers are drawn to it for the free pickings. Any of these types planning any future visits to my mailbox or IM had better pray I'm in good mood that day.
Soooo in the space of time I've been away this thread has moved from why some black man can't find his ideal woman online to saying black women should only date their own kind. Interesting God, sometimes you people really crack me up on this site.
Don't think for one minute that they don't know what they are doing. They are part of what makes a lot of dating sites less appealing for those of us not looking for cheap thrills. I've had a few here and on other sites try this crap with me - all I will say is I pity the fool.
Why is it hard for anybody of any race to find their ideal mate online? Because its hard. Welcome to Life. Just because its online doesn't necessarily make it any easier. Reality check. Of course they are going to be some people who would not want to date you based on race, but then you probably don't want to date these people either so no love lost -then there are others though who would not see you as a colour but as a person. Why would someone block you simply because you are black? I don't know why that would be a foremost thought in your head since last I checked the mirror this morning there is nothing is wrong with being black.
However, there are lots of SCAMMERS on this site. LOTS OF SCAMMERS. Since I've been here I've encountered more scammers than I've encountered people who were actually seriously looking for a relationship. A lot of folks don't want to travel, a lot of folks don't want mail from certain places, add all that up and various other reasons and then you get the real picture of why its so hard to find anyone on these sites. Some do get lucky here mind you but those aren't in the majority and anyway when all else fails one can change their search to real life.
Send flowers to the lady in question. As mother to a young daughter, I'd say you could send a card along with the flowers wishing the mother and the daughter's a Happy Valentine's day, but sending stuff for the daughter's personally - kids you've not been introduced to - Bad Move.
Well greedy folks like me who want their whole cake and to eat it too, both looks AND personality are important. I'd like to give a potential relationship at least a fighting chance at working (and while nothing is guaranteed of course) at least these two things do make for a nice starting place.
Now in my original post I never said anything about dating a BOM(Big Obese Man)I said a BHM(Big Handsome Man). And quite a few ladies have no problem with it, I also said that there is a big difference between having a few extra pounds and getting to the point where you were so large that you now had health issues. There are BIG men and then there are OBESE men. Here's the other thing - personal preference, if a woman says to me I like big guys but not obese guys and I look at the same guy and the few extra pounds she finds nothing wrong with is a turn off for me because to ME the guy's too Obese then its down to in the eye of the beholder. Now he might not be huge but way pass the limit of what would attract me. There is also the factor of how people view themselves and how others view them.
So that's what YOU does be up to on Carnival? When you suppose to be protecting and serving. Well I like my job yes, so the only thing I'll be tiefing is a little photo.
Then if you prefer them bigger, and to you he's hansome then he's a BHM. I don't see a problem with the term if that's what a person is. After all one woman's obese is another woman's burly and huggable.
Well for me I tend to care about both equally as much. No one wants a mean man at any weight, however while meat on the bones can make a man juicy and huggable, TOO much meat can lead to certain health issues and I'd be wanting my BHM(if I found one that I liked) to be healthy and be around for a long time.
Well most people have heard of the BBW(Big Beautiful Woman) a lady with a good bit of meat on her bones and for a lot of men this is a big dating preference. But what about the ladies? How many of you ladies have a preference for the BHM(Big Handsome Man)?
What do you mean by Man Versus Woman? Must it always be a competition? There is a lot more that goes into forming a person's personality than just being a man or a woman.
The I don't care for Valentine's Day thread
So you saying is a good thing that the shovel hit you then?