I made the judgement based on my experience, I live in the Philippines, my home is in Cebu, I have seen and heard from many foreigners the way a lot of girls chase men not for love but for money. I appreciate that not all are like that, but it is a high proportion, so it was a judgement based on facts, not pulled from the air like some judgements.
You see you judged me on one post, even calling me hypocritical, had you looked further, you would have found evidence that I actually spoke from personal experience.
I'm not sure Einstein ever took an IQ test, if he had done so, I think he would have ended up with a low score as his cognitive process would have given answers not thought about by the questioners. His ability to think "outside the box" would have screwed up any test papers
Just read an article that perhaps explains some of the questions running around in my head. I won't post the whole thing but bits that may be of interest to others.
"An Observable High Conflict Pattern
High-conflict people (HCPs) have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. This pattern usually happens over and over again in many different situations with many different people. The issue that seems in conflict at the time is not what is increasing the conflict. The “issue” is not the issue. With HCPs the high-conflict pattern of behavior is the issue, including a lot of:
I know nothing about the author but he makes a lot of sense. It could, however, be a load of rubbish, but in my opinion, it does explain many things that have confused me.
Depends whether in Trumpland or the real world, Trump suggests he has a high IQ, so using his system I guess even a monkey would have an extremely high IQ
I just wonder why some people automatically look for the worst in others rather than see the whole picture. With media I can understand, because bad news sells. But people???? Perhaps they get a sense of power from belittling others? Makes them feel they are better, more important?
But to me, and I suspect many others, it makes me feel they are sad, have no self-worth and are desperate for attention.
Thank you for the comment but the thread is more about judging a person rather than about being banned from a thread. I raised the point as a poster was trying to make out that the GF of the recent mass killing perpetrator in the USA was not innocent. I was trying to put things in perspective, that you cannot accuse someone of being guilty of anything unless there is some hard evidence, which in this case is not being found.
Judging a person because it fits a specific agenda rather than on the truth is, in my opinion, a hateful thing to do.
It is an excellent program, watched the last episode last night, which asks more questions than ever, what I like is the mix of characters, so many variants. Looking forward to season two, due next year.
In case you missed it, the thread is about making negative judgements without any facts. At no point have I expressed any sadness or similar emotion regarding my being banned for the thread "Is Marilou Danley really innocent?" I mentioned it to explain why I was starting a new thread, as I tried to post a comment about judging people and found I was banned, I have no idea why I was banned and really don't care.
However, I fail to see what any of this has to do with the topic, guess too hard for some to understand.
Of course I know who will be most likely to ban posters, and I couldn't care less, the point I was making was not about the banning, I just put that in my post because I couldn't continue the discussion on that particular thread. My point was about making hurtful judgements without ever checking facts. The person in question continually posts defamatory posts and seems to get very upset when anyone questions the credibility or shows the topic in question is flawed. For example, a person is always innocent until proven guilty, yet the poster continues to use that word, fully knowing that it is an incorrect portrayal.
A quick search on google will come up with a dozen companies who pay to post on forums, so I would have to agree, certainly there are 3-4 posters who could well fall into that category.
I just wonder if a dating site is a suitable platform, but guess any site would do, especially for those with no moral backbone.
Domestic violence is a hard subject for many to understand. we all ask the same question, "why didn't she/he leave?" few can give a definitive answer, just as few actually make that move.
Maybe we can take this even further, supposing Ms Danley did suspect that Paddock was going to do a criminal act, but knew that if she was to tell anyone she would be beaten up by him? Maybe she lived in fear of retribution for anything she did that he didn't like? Maybe she really did love him and thought he would change? She may also have been using him for financial support and didn't want to lose the golden egg, he did after all send her £100,000.00 a huge sum in the Philippines. But even though she knew he was collecting weapons, it never crossed her mind he would actually use them for a mass killing?
There are just so many different scenarios, that to point finger right now without any real proof or even slight evidence is just madness.
Do people get heated and lose their temper, or are they frustrated that their point is being overlooked or has been shown to be invalid? I see a lot of frustration on Forums, rather than anger, but sadly frustration often has the same results as anger.
Of course, we are human and so prone to making mistakes, but it is unusual for a judge to give a conviction to a suspect based on wholly circumstantial evidence, even if he/she knows in their heart the accused is guilty. Just because a person is found next to a body and they are holding the murder weapon does not mean they committed the crime.
I half agree, but I have the feeling that if a topic means something or holds a point that is found interesting, most will read the entire.
I often skim read long posts, and if something pops up that interests me, then I will take time and read it more carefully.
I often use threads from CS in my classes for students to have a better understanding of English, both at its worst and best, so I try to write fairly simple sentences so a little puzzled by your comment, perhaps you can explain where I am being confusing or difficult to understand? Either here or privately, I would genuinely appreciate your input.
Yes at times we need to just ignore those with petty grudges, I have always had the attitude that I control who makes me sad, if I let someone influence my wellbeing then that is my fault, in reality they are the ones who are sad and maybe trying to hurt me gives them some happiness so if I help them to be happy that makes me happy too.
Having been banned from a thread for expressing a different point of view, which tells a lot about the original poster, it made me wonder just why some people are so fast to condemn others without first looking for actual facts.
Suspicion is indeed a valid requirement in finding truth, but why not be suspicious of one media source that prints articles that no other media have published? Especially a source that is less than a year old and only prints articles designed to shock or follow a particular political path! Only someone with a specific agenda would not bother to check facts, when one source would give "credibility" to their opinion but others fail to do the same.
It strikes me that some people, especially people who boast that they are Godly and always help those less fortunate, are most often the ones who make judgments without ever thinking about the results and consequences of those judgments.
That they may create or add to a rumour, that causes huge grief to the person in question, never enters their head, is that why the world is falling apart? People pretend to care when in reality all they really want is to get attention, to boost their egos and self worth.
In my honest opinion, the most Christian people on Earth, are those with no religious beliefs.
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Is it right to judge someone negatively when no facts are present?
I made the judgement based on my experience, I live in the Philippines, my home is in Cebu, I have seen and heard from many foreigners the way a lot of girls chase men not for love but for money. I appreciate that not all are like that, but it is a high proportion, so it was a judgement based on facts, not pulled from the air like some judgements.You see you judged me on one post, even calling me hypocritical, had you looked further, you would have found evidence that I actually spoke from personal experience.