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How do you cope?

thank you for that. you are right on all counts. i am worried sick, but, am tucking that away for now, so that i can offer more support to them both, (my parents).

Think also that i once again will thank you all for your support, and am going to put my profile away for now, so that i concentrate fully on what i need to.
Take care all, and have a wonderful holiday season.

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yes

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i agree totally with this. It will be about my dad as much as we can. he is not a showy man, but, i know it will mean something that we can be there on Christmas. My sister and nephew will be there as well. Both grandsons.

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Thank you for sharing your thoughts sugar and spice. your story is not a position i would have wanted to be in.
And your advice is appreciated as well. thanks

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Thank you Dru. I have had most of my tears when he was in hospital so diminished last January. And i knew that he was getting worse, but, he seemed to be doing better prior to that. He has never let anything best him in his life. Including having his leg almost severed and almost dying before. (chain saw accident). He was a very tough man, and i think that has been the hardest for him by far. But, his physical symptoms have now gone way down hill. And he is giving up.
Maybe miracles can happen. I am certainly hoping for one.
Thank you also for sharing and your thoughts.

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thank you for sharing that jvaski. And also i am sorry for your own loss.
i take all words offered to heart right now.

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CJ, that is so touching. No other words to describe what you wrote.
Thank you for sharing that.

I thank you all for your support. It has made me think, instead of just reacting. to all.

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i know...thank you

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thank you, and since you have been through this as well, i value the advice. right now, my stomach hurts very badly over this, but, more, because i know there is nothing i can do. Except be there. And although i think i knew this, it is worse when you hear it in actual words.

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thank you Cj. those are very wise words, and i will take them to heart. You are a very kind lady.

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thank you for your thoughts.

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thank you very much

How do you cope?

thank you. i am a really strong person outwardly, but, it still really scares me, and deeply saddens me. i've been there for them in the last year as much as possible. had really hoped he would get better.

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you have hit the nail on the head with your words. Covertly is a good method.
I am sorry that you are going through the same. It is a terrible situation to be in, as you are virtually helpless in doing anything, other than as you suggested.
My thoughts to you and your dad as well, and have a wonderful christmas with him as well.

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thank you jeepers. i appreciate that

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thank you for your advice. It is a bit difficult as he won't talk about it except to say he is not going to get better.

RE: Does anyone have anything good or not good to say about their EX?

Thank you CJ. Best to you as well, and since i don't see you on here all that often, Happy Holidays as well.

RE: Does anyone have anything good or not good to say about their EX?

great attitude if you can retain that sort of friendship. my first ex spouse was just looking for a mama, and still is nineteen years later, and my second tried to kill me, so, nope, i can't unfortuneately same the same thing. But, life goes on. Happier things in the future.

How do you cope?

How would any of you handle it when your mom tells you that she thinks that it will be your dad's last Christmas? He had a major stroke last year, and is starting to go down hill in the last few weeks, and isn't doing very well now.
I feel like i am going to throw up just hearing this. My son and I are supposed to go down Christmas Day, and will have to pretend that everything is semi fine.
I have seen that he has not been doing well, and there is not much that anyone can do, as he is of the old school, and does not beleive in seeing the doctor overly much.
I think the fact that he has lost alot of the ability to do things he used to has affected him badly as well, and maybe he is just giving up.
Any advice would be appreciated.
thank you

RE: we are getting hammered with that snow storm wow!!!

I thought it got cold enough here in New Brunswick, but, that's just brutal. Lucky you stay prepared.

RE: PHONE

alot of people no longer use landlines. though you can get some great plans with a cell phone that cover almost everything you want to use it for. best of both worlds.
having only a cell does not mean no excuse for no contact. jmo

RE: Another CS Baby!!!

congrats KMD and hubby too!
another atlantic canadian. awesome early christmas gift for you both.

RE: Stress Makes Your Hair Go Gray

thank god for hair dye
interesting post

RE: Believe in Astrological Compatibility?

oops... mini laptop..."specifically", i meant

RE: Believe in Astrological Compatibility?

i believe in astrological incompatibility soecifically aquarius.

RE: Signing in without password

i don't mind admitting that i am fairly computer illiterate, though i do manage to muddle through, but, your step by step instructions are just the ticket. again thank you

RE: Signing in without password

wow,SB, when you get going, you are a fount of information. even though it was directed for the OP, i plan on using it as well. thanks

RE: How old are you?

i;m forty five, and my best at date is almost expired

RE: How have you spent your winter so far ?

RE: How have you spent your winter so far ?

okay, you're going to give me a complex, as you keep calling me "silly