That makes sense. One could avoid a lot of hassle that way. I think communicating with someone is the best way to talk with someone. I think it is easy to make assumptions. I think even in light hearted discussions we get to know people and the more you get to know them the easy it is to talk with them. I sure have made a lot of wrong assumptions. If all else fails one might have to resort to communication.
That reminds me of a reply in one of the threads which was, "Can't we all just get along?" I have been on the forums for a year and a half and to see the forum just to get along, hmmm, I must have missed it, lol. But sometimes a few can get along or on a good day a lot can get along.
Good point, James. BJ, our Licensed Practical Nurse, is our boss so to speak. We refer to her as as charge nurse. I am not sure where the term 'charge nurse' came from but I take it to mean the one in charge. We have a chain of command just like the military does. At the top or close to the top depending on how you look at it. From looking at it from a micro view rather a macro view we have the doctor, director of nursing which may CNA even, RN for registered nurse, LPN, CNA and then IRCA (I was one-you fill up water cups and change linen). BJ was trying to do what you were mentioning about setting the resident straight which can be ambiquous because you would have to assume that they are actually understanding what you are saying to them. Which reminds me of the movie with Jackie Chan where the one guy asks him, "Are you hearing the words that are coming out of my mouth?" We have to calm our behavior down or we just escalate the combative behavior. Maybe should would be a better word because in application that can be difficult at times if we are not in the right frame of mind like if we carry a negative attitude from home to work. Yes, I can see your point of the nonchalant matter. It is doing your job the best way you know how to do it. I am learning the job and each day I feel better qualified to do it. It is a learning process. I have to remember that I, too am human.
Last night I actually got to see this in practice. As a matter of fact a lot of the stuff I was taught in the class of combative behavior is coming true. I had to go to one of the rooms because a resident wanted this other resident out of her room. I wheeled her out of the room to restore peace. The I started to shut the door so the lady in the wheelchair could not go back in. But the lady whose room it was did not want her door shut. I presume a claustrophobic reaction. So I did not shut the door. the lady in the wheelchair goes right back into the room. Determination of her to go back into the room I just got her out of. The lady says I want her out of my room. I caught myself trying to argue with the lady in the room. I knew the one lady in the wheelchair was a nutcase but forgot the lady in the room is a nutcase, too, lol. God they seem so normal at times, lol. The charge nurse tells me to wheel her up to the station so that she can keep a eye on her. Later, Kim and I are told to go take the lady in the wheelchair to bed. She starts the combative behavior again. She ain't going to bed. Kim is a small person and as she tries to lift Winona into the bed Kim goes down because she is not strong enough to help lift and Kim wrenches her back. I asked Kim to go get BJ our LPN to help me. BJ is a big woman like me and just about as strong but Winona bites her hard. One lady down the the hall, Julie has called Winona a witch referring to how mean this woman can get. I know we will have to keep an eye on her because she likes to take cups out of rooms and to wake up people who are sleeping. It is like if she can't sleep there ain't anybody else going to get any either, lol. BJ finally gave the lady a sedative and the lady passed out.
I especially loved the animated version where they kept changing seats. The 9 and a half size hat, lol. Oh, I had forgotten about the croquet mallets, lol. Yeah, off with their heads, lol.
Its always a new day in my wonderland. Alice, that rabbit can't possibly understand. If he dug that hole then how did we fit through? Alice, I think he is keeping something from you.
I know chasing that rabbit gives you a thrill. But, Alice you are chasing that rabbit still. Don't you ever tire and want to settle down? Alice, your sister is sleeping above ground.
Do you want to fall forever and chase rabbits. Alice, there are so many other fine habits. Your life is just beginning and sights you'll see. Alice, I think that you just love a good mystery.
What is it about that rabbit any way, Alice? Don't you know that he is full of malice? Alice, is it the watch or is it just your fate? Stick with him and you, too will be late.
Its always a new day in my wonderland. When Alice grows up she will understand. Maybe she is just a dream that her sister had. Maybe the Mad Hatter is right; We're all mad.
You shouldn't have to give up the friendship. I had a friend once who said they wouldn't be friends with me if I had this other friend because they didn't like my other friend. They told me that they would stay my friend if I gave the other friendship up. That ever happen to you?
Yeah. I mean if you were to tabulate the cost of what a wife is worth in running a household what man could possibly afford one? Itemized I bet the cost would not be feasible. I can remember doing the switch of staying home while she worked. I didn't last a day. Hey you can have it back.
If you paid them then if you didn't like their services then you could fire them. If they paid you then if they didn't like your services then they could fire you. Hmmm.
My first and only deer hunt was when I was about 12. My older cousin, Ernie took me and my dad's third wife's little brother, Sonny to this deer stand. We got there real early in the morning. We were crouched in this big old oak and had our rifles ready. Ernie had customized the stock on my dad's army nine milameter rifle. I had a Remmington .22 and Sonny had a twelve guage with double aught. Ernie had a good bead on this buck about three hours later. I had fell asleep, lol. All of a sudden Sonny yells real loud, "Theres a deer!" Sonny was all excited and it had woke me up. I thought my older cousin, Ernie was going to beat the hell out of Sonny, lol. Oh, God was Ernie pissed.
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Hey you can have it back. 
RE: what makes the difference
That makes sense. One could avoid a lot of hassle that way. I think communicating with someone is the best way to talk with someone. I think it is easy to make assumptions. I think even in light hearted discussions we get to know people and the more you get to know them the easy it is to talk with them. I sure have made a lot of wrong assumptions. If all else fails one might have to resort to communication.