calmheartseeks Forum Posts (505)

RE: Are women over 40 really having a hard time finding a partner on dating site?

Molly, this guy posted on my thread and started criticizing my post...

I don’t think he feels well or is upset about something.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

Good one.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

Kid, so they don’t read the profile and send a message to no pic...

That makes sense, lol.

I think Sir T had it right.

I can sleep at night now.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

lol Molly...well I’m yelping...sorta. :)

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

Bear... !

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

I know Bear... unfortunately, responding can become problematic.

This cougar thing has really gotten out of hand, hasnt it?

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

sir T, the shotgun method...ok, now I don’t feel so bad...thanks.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

I am not annoyed by sincere messages..I appreciate them as anyone would....but these really are not when they ignore what I said on the profile.

Many also get angry at perceived rejection if you don’t return the feeling.

Just easier to not get involved in such conversations, esp when they start off with “Hello dear...how are you...” and that’s basically it.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

Secluded, ok...I’ll add that to my profile as well...that I am not lost...just to clarify things.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

This has been said many times before, but the answer is I enjoy the community, the blogs and the forums.

Why Do People Contact You When Your Profile Clearly Says Not Looking?

To top it off, their email then has only one to two sentences, ie “Hello, how are you doing today?”

I feel bad not responding, but I just don’t understanding this behavior.

You will say they didn’t read the profile, but it is in my profile header as well.



Others repeatedly view the profile...why?

Anyway, that’s my dilemma for the hour.

RE: Mail Order Disappointment

A mail order broom...

RE: What's With The Teddy Bear?

I always thought the teddy bear icons symbolized kindness...it never entered my mind they were perceived otherwise, or heaven forbid, they had become “objects” for sad fantasies.

RE: What are you Not wearing right now

Healthy

RE: why you never get married?

donal,



Thankyou for the rice jokes. It’s plane to c u r a funny man.

RE: Types of men to avoid.

Yes, animals give unconditional love and never do all the horrible things people are capable of.

True, Kreme. Many of these people (man or woman) have been hurt by human beings so they avoid /fear intimacy with a partner and lavish all their love on a pet or pets...these people can be very! kindhearted but are distrusting and distancing from others because of the past.

RE: Types of men to avoid.

Men who complain about women today, especially Western women, keep talking about evil feminism, and want the 1950s to return, actually believing “everyone” was happy then.

RE: My Visit To The Church

Hi healthy, good to see you!!!

RE: TOM PETTY DIES.

Brings back memories, doesn't it (those videos). I still remember watching them on TV, loving the songs and clever video ideas. The one with Alice who hasn't felt that way about someone?

He did have a style all his own. Don't even know who the rest of the group was (the Heartbreakers) but they were great too.

RE: In love

Not sure, probably in high school. I would call it more a crush then...the people I "fell in love with" in my very young days (first loves) I would not fall in love with today. And not because they look different.

A lot were learning experiences.

What is falling in love, anyway? Oxytocin overdose?

RE: I AM ??????

RE: I AM ??????

Oh, happy day....love that YouTube.

RE: Does age matter to you?

Krema...

Age matters, even though we don't want it to and tell ourselves it doesn't - or stop celebrating our birthday every year.

It stares at us in the mirror every morning and can't be ignored.

We can love someone a lot older/younger, but the age difference will be present and have an effect. Call it the elephant in the room.

It depends upon the couple, but generally large gaps in age cause physical and life compatibility problems that must be addressed/overcome for the relationship to last.

It can be done...there are successful relationships with large age gaps.

It just depends on the couple and the circumstances involved.

Personally I would like to share my life with someone in the same stage of life.

RE: If your all alone this year

It's funny, but I'd rather be alone than be with a crowd of people that are hard to bear.

I remember going to a New Year's Eve party; big blast, got drunk, held inane conversations with people I don't remember, went home and woke up with a terrible hangover.

That is no longer my idea of a good time, and I would rather be alone than be with someone or somewhere I don't enjoy....

Get togethers are not always fun.

Being part of a couple is not always fun...

Family reunions are not always good...

They say the holidays are the loneliest times of the year for many people, and that is very sad.

But there are times being alone can be a blessing.

RE: The Good Wife’s Guide

6 decades ago and from a magazine called Housekeeping Monthly.

RE: old

For what? To find love?

You are never to old to find love, many people in their 70s, 80s and older have found someone in their sunlight years.

But you may be too old... for someone who is too young...for you.

Good luck.

RE: When is an age difference too much?

Regarding the aging cheese.

Now we know that's not true.

Would be nice though.

RE: When is an age difference too much?

Can't read all the responses, so forgive if I am repeating...

My mother was seven years older than my Dad, and he died years before she did.

10 years is not that much of a difference.

I would base it on how much compatibility and love was in the relationship; that's what makes it last; not the age.

Don't let other people's "disapproval" deprive you of happiness; unless you agree with them that the match won't work. Many old stigma's are being slowly broken down, and there are happy couples that remain married with much larger age differences.

RE: I want to know

In the sole of your shoe... Jest kiddin' ya!

RE: sick,

This thread.