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Should women have children if they can not support them properly?

Good luck and good bye to all you single mums and fathers.

Also to those parents who are abscent from there childs every day life simply due to a relationship break down.

It can be equally tough on a parent who is not the prime carer but does take there responsibilities seriously.

Both parents can not be primary carer no matter how much they may equally love there child,and it can hurt very deeply because there is often a guilt felt that your have let your children down simply by not being there at the breakfast table every morning and in the evenings before they go to bed.

I am sure that for some abscent parents it is much easier for them to opt to walk away and forget about them entirely than to face there responsibilities financially and emotionally with the stress's that comes with a failed relationship and there guilt because of it.
Any parent new to not being in there child/s everyday life after a seperation I would advice them to stick to there responsibilites instead of running away entirely from them.
It may take time,but the guilt of not being there every day like you used to be,the guilt of the relationship not working,the conflicts with the child/s primary carer will and does get better.

After the dust has settled the child/ren will still love you and the respect from the primary carer with win through.
And just as important,your own love and respect for yourself will come through for you too.
Bye all.
It was fun.
xx
teddybear
cheers

Should women have children if they can not support them properly?

What an utter moron.
Have you read my posts in this thread or even my recent posts in this thread?
On what basis did you make your assumptions about me?

RE: Are you same, online(or more exactly in CS forum) and in real life?

I post in CS mostly to amuse myself.
However,when I post on a serious note then I am honest about how I feel.
Im much more considered in real life but I do like to think I have the same sense of humour.

Should women have children if they can not support them properly?

I would not dispute that statement.
But is it not true that there are many young girls/women who deliberately get pregnant simply in order to have someone to love and be loved by unconditionally,obtain a council house to get away from an unhappy home life and do not fully consider all the implications?

Should women have children if they can not support them properly?

I have absolutely no doubt about your suitability as a parent or the great job that you have done in bringing them up under difficult conditions.
My op is not my oppinion.As ive stated a few times,it was designed and worded to stimulate debate only and to allow people to express there own personal experiences and thoughts.
In advanced societies who is to say if it is better to have your first child at a young age before you have stability,or to wait untill you have everything first,like a house,good job,rock solid relationship etc.
dunno

RE: What stereotype annoys you the most?

People who get annoyed about stereotypes.
I think.I dont know.
Im confuded?
dunno
confused

RE: My heart was broken today

I had heard through the grapevine that all those gardeners are in CS too.
You really should have been a lil more diplomatic when you refused there advances in here!
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RE: NON-Posters, in the Woodwork,COME OUT!

Great,the more women that come out of the woodwork to present themselves the better.
It obviouslt means more holes to fill!!
yay

RE: Names 5 things you love about your kids.

1 There love for me in none negotiable.
2 They are the product of my flesh.
3 Thet are the product of what my ex wife and I have nurtured.
4 They are a constant in my life when everything else can be changable.
5 They make me revist every emotion of my childhood and they keep me real.
heart wings
kiss
crying

RE: The Dreaded Morning After Email Of Rejection

I like your style.
rolling on the floor laughing

I was once very honest with a women when she pressed me in msn why I didnt feel a connection.In truth there was a number of reasons that would have been much harsher to say than the reason I gave her.
"Your to overweight" was what I said. I knew that she had big issues with her weight and was constantly banging on about how slim she used to be as an air hostess and how she was going to change her very fatty and unhealthy diet.
I thought at the time that it would give her the conviction she needed to diet and make her feel much happier about herself.
Big mistake!!!
It is better to say as little as possible about peronal things that may hurt them.
But by the same token both me and women should represent themselves accurately before meeting up.
That includes at least an up to date full legnth image of themselves and not just face picture/s that may have been taken years ago!

RE: Sizes?

But some womens foof area's are akin to wizzards sleaves!!
banana

RE: My right hand's got the twitches.

Try physiotherepy.I suggest you start by flicking a bean repeatedly!
yay

RE: There's no fool like an old fool

Did you actually meet this man? Was it a long intense cyber and phone relationship?
Did he indicate that he was serious about things with you?
How deep did things go?
dunno

RE: what made you choose your profile name?

You were thinking about Harry potter while joining what is predominately a hetro dating site?
Warlocks,gobblins and boys-to-men dating site is a few searches down the list in google!!
wink

RE: Its Bend over Friday,

Advice please.
How does a dog bend over,and who wants first pop?
dunno

RE: what made you choose your profile name?

My heart bleeds for you.Your only one vowel away from living in a state of bliss!!
crying
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RE: Am i attractive? or do i need work?

Too attractive for what,this site? Too attractive for your shirt?
Take yourself out to somewhere with plenty of mirrors for a bloody good evening.Pamper yourself and enjoy all the attention that you recieve from yourself.
Then you can take yourself home and get down and dirty.
yay

RE: what made you choose your profile name?

I chose mine because im the most ameanable,compassionate,considerate,most understanding and approachable guy who shy's away from conflict and controvercy.
yay

RE: is it true that all men want a big woman but wont admit to it.....?

No,big women simply jusy do not do it for me!
But at the same time I know that there are many men that do like big women.
So,good luck to everyone.
wink

RE: what do you like to do on the first date.

yay
I know a lovely little place overlooking the beach in St James.
But if I touch your back to find a little bump please dont slyly slice up one of those poisonous apples into my fruit cocktail!
bouquet

RE: what do you like to do on the first date.

Hello Sultryash,fancy a quite coffee? I will be a gent and escourt you to your seat.
yay
teddybear

RE: This happens a lot someone starts a thread then is gone.............

Dis you say something?
dunno

RE: Real Scottish Humour....aye we can laugh out ourselves..

Thank you.And I did all my own makeup.
But dont cast asperssions!!
wink
lips

RE: Real Scottish Humour....aye we can laugh out ourselves..

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rolling on the floor laughing
hug

RE: Real Scottish Humour....aye we can laugh out ourselves..

That is a contridiction in terms!!
tongue
wink

RE: What do you think is the most common cause of divorce?

Poor communication,a bad attitude and approach towards each other and apathy.
wink

RE: 21 year old girl an 31 year old man??

Dillinger you cad and bounder!!
cheers

RE: 21 year old girl an 31 year old man??

I think it could work. It is all down to compatability and respect for each others differences.Give it a go and trust your instincts.You only live once and its all life experience if nothing else.
yay

Should women have children if they can not support them properly?

No.But you can ask your god why he has allowed it to happen!!

dunno

RE: If any of you

Seems like ive missed out on some interesting stuff since ive been away?
dunno

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