There has to be more to it than that they are a 'nice person' IMO. The Salvation army guys who collect money at my local shopping centre are nice guys, but that doesn't mean I'm going to date them.
If you don't feel an attraction why pretend to? You are only holding them and yourself back from finding the perfect people for both of you. Just my opinion.
I do like an assertive guy...an aggressive guy, no. All in all, I think you can be wooed and pursued by someone who is calm. In fact, the calmer the better - if you change your mind about them, they're less likely to stalk you. Just my opinion.
There aren't any websites I know of who pay money to someone for doing nothing in return. You can earn points or even cash sometimes by doing surveys and quizzes for marketing companies. The constant emails would drive me nuts but I know people who have done it.
IMO the easiest way to make money for next to nothing off the net is to open your own website on anything and sell advertising space on it. Then just sit back and wait for the monthly cheques.
Lots of things make me happy - knowing I am valued and loved by people close to me, knowing I have skills that help others, achieving goals.....and simple things too like a good cup of coffee, nice perfume, the sound of kids giggling, the sound of the ocean. If I've learned anything, you can't depend on one thing to make you happy. It's never enough.
I don't have an ethical issue with consumption of fish, chicken or meat. If it's done humanely I think it's fine & it also keeps a great deal of people employed, which is more important to me.
My family owned butchers shops when I was growing up so it's a bit late for me to start disliking meat now. I tried going vegan once and lasted about 3 days. The less red meat we eat the better IMO, but there is good evidence that some fish and specifically fish oil is extremely good for you. Same goes for the protein we need that is not easy to get from veges.
I see plenty of ways to look after our planet & ourselves without going vegetarian, but I do respect the focus & discipline it takes to give up meat for a higher purpose. Good for you.
I guess some people may be keen to keep it to chat initially. I personally, would not rush to meet anyone or exchange phone numbers; out of safety concerns more than anything else. If the guys you are chatting with have indicated they don't want to meet or chat on the phone, they may be cautious, just seeing you as a friend for now or maybe even married.
That's up to you really. If you explain you're not interested, I'm worried you'll just get a long list of stress and ailments your rejection has caused him. I'm sure you are keen to be polite...I guess the question is, how polite has it been of him to use you as a counsellor?
I have read similar stats that also concluded it was depression related. I think marriage and the security of that is very grounding for a lot of guys, who otherwise, would be a bit rudder-less. In some respects I think men get more out of marriage than women do, if the marriage is successful of course.
My last boyfriend and I were all but engaged and it was circumstances that split us up in the end. We are not in contact & we did not remain friends but I would not wish bad things upon him. In the end, he had to move & our relationship was not strong enough to withstand the distance or the pressure that distance created. He was a good person & I know he cared for me. No matter what happened in the end, we shared some wonderful times and that will always be important to me.
I think i joined in Sept. I haven't met anyone yet but I've enjoyed posting in and reading the forums. My main achievement is reaching level six in the gems swap game in the game section lol. I can't get any further but I keep trying, it's bordering on obsession now.
I guess it's different for everyone, but I work with about 8 single guys who are meeting girls from online dating sites & meeting a single mum is no problem for them. I also work with 2 girls who had very young children and met and married guys who they met online. From what I'm hearing it's not an obstacle.
For me personally, Christmas is a time of year I love. In my opinion, people show their nicest selves in December. We buy gifts for others instead of things for ourselves, we take the time to wish people well who mean a lot to us. I really love Christmas-time because of the extra effort most people put into acknowledging their relationships and friendships with others in a way they often don't the other 11 months of the year. Sappy, but true, for me anyway.
It was initially very interesting when Palin emerged - it was refreshing IMO, to see a female politician who could be assertive and confident but also very feminine. I loved her glasses too lol. I really did have hopes at the time that she had the brains to go along with the style.
Unfortunately for Palin, politics is not a charm school & it was quickly obvious she was out of her league. I'm still amazed she got as far as she did.
I have gotten really slack with Xmas cards. I used to hand write them all for friends family and work colleagues. Nowadays I just do them for the people I am buying gifts for. I send a basic SMS to work colleagues for Xmas, and that's about it.
Yep, I'd agree with all of this. I'm not familiar with the 1934 succession referendum, I guess I was daydreaming when they mentioned it in school. Can you explain a little about it? I tried googling it but just got Australian National library location codes.
I don't prefer tall men. Most of the guys I fancy seem to be my height or even an inch shorter. I don't know why to be honest. It is handy for kissing though lol. Maybe that's the real reason.
I think both are just as likely to suffer from depression but I think it's more socially acceptable for women to admit they are upset or down.
Women usually know when they need help because their normal coping mechanisms (crying, talking to friends) isn't helping. I suspect the black dog sneaks up on a lot of guys too, but they're sometimes not as well equipped with the coping mechanisms to handle it. I really feel for some guys - some have good friends they get drunk with or can talk about sport with, but with major stuff they often won't confide in anyone.
Most of the emails I get say that I should contact them if I am interested. If I'm not, I don't. I do reply to the other ones, usually to say "Thank you Mr X from Saudi Arabia/Pakistan, but you are a bit too far away for a coffee. Take care."
I don't think you should assume that people are ignoring you intentionally. It's more likely that their mail and flowercard settings mean they just don't see what you've sent - unless they go into their filtered areas every so often, which many females seem not to.
Alarm bells for me started when she wasn't willing to give you a phone number or speak with you on the phone. If she genuinely wanted to meet you, neither should have been a problem after the length of time you had been chatting.
What was she hiding? I guess we'll never know. If I had to guess, I'd say this was a male pretending to be a female. Nothing else explains sending you to a fake address. I'd say she/he carried on the charade for as long as they could, but with some pressure to meet, found it impossible to continue & clearly, impossible to be honest. I guess this was their way of ending it once and for all.
Next time please chat on the phone and make sure you see plenty of photos before you agree to meet anyone. You'll have to chalk this one up to experience but please don't feel bad. If someone is determined to pretend to be someone they are not, many people would be as fooled, as you were. I have no doubt you'll be much more careful next time.
Morrissey gets my vote. Brilliant melodies, thought provoking lyrics....have loved his music since I was 18 at university and still do. In my opinion, there's no-one quite like him. I'm so jealous of people in Europe who have seen him perform live.
I'd be comfortable to say that I met them on an online dating site most of the time. The stigma that used to surround online dating is IMO, pretty much gone. I personally work with about 7 women who are married to guys they met online.
I have had my tarot cards read by psychics/mediums a couple of times. On both occasions they were pretty spot on about most stuff we talked about, which was mainly relationship focused. I'm not overly religious but I'm starting to feel that tarot and psychic stuff is not a great thing to do, positive energy wise. I have actually thrown away the tarot cards I used to own for the same reason.
I didn't know they were fueding....and I have to confess even as a Australian fan, I always forget they were Australian (I don't think they have Aust. citizenship now). I don't know much about who wrote the music or whether it was always a group collaboration. I'll be keen to hear it when it's released. Thanks!
The answer to this question depends on how broken-hearted you've been I guess lol. But IMO no experience of love however painful, is ever worth wishing away. To never to have loved - to not have felt that joy...well, I'd be very sorry if I had never felt that.
The film, Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind, examines this very issue - if you are in such incredible pain from a broken heart that you could pay to have every memory of them permanently erased from your mind, would you? Is no feeling of love at all better than feelings of heart-break? Worth checking out if you haven't seen it.
As a Catholic school educated female yes, I'm aware of this. It's just a joke - actually an old Dave Allen one if I remember rightly, and I assure you, no offense was intended.
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RE: is being attracted to someone important or am I just being too shallow.
There has to be more to it than that they are a 'nice person' IMO. The Salvation army guys who collect money at my local shopping centre are nice guys, but that doesn't mean I'm going to date them.If you don't feel an attraction why pretend to? You are only holding them and yourself back from finding the perfect people for both of you. Just my opinion.