well, i guess i'm fine with focusing on the wrong one...they are, somewhat, appealing
just kidding, cherry, but i think that the wrong is not wrong "during" but only "after", so who cares, if it feel good while it lasts it is good anyway, in my opinion
yep, though i consider it the "spending time together with my significatn one" and not dating as, in my case, we both knew we were interested in having a relationship and not "just dating" aka "getting to know each other" thingy
messina is truly a nice place to live/visit...it is also called the gate to sicily as it is the first city the visitors arriving from the mainland can see...
if and when you decide to visit, i would be pleased to show it to you...
a man that is saying to you that the marriage is over and he wants to leave, has to somewhat "support" his decision...and degrading you belongs to the self-protecting strategy...
i have just put it again on your reply to me...if it stays, you should be able to see the green mark +1 in the right, superior angle of your reply to me...
the thumb up/down option is the green/red mark that any poster can put to any post without being seen expressing the approval or disapproval (it appears on the right side of the superior angle of a post)
plus the fact you were able to split amicably testifies your (yours and hers) comunication is pretty good, which should avoid any hipothetical misunderstanding about the nature of getting together...
i guess it is a case where we have to agree to disagree as i can't see Leigh's post as "arrogant belittling of a new poster in an attempt to make him appear stupid"...
what i have seen is her poiting out his spelling mistakes and the others (me included) somewhat following her, who saying thank-you, who wanting to marry her for being helpful to understand the OP
though, in my opinion, the problem is that, in some cases, love in a mature age is synonim to convenience and fear of loneliness and then the distance is a breaker...
while i basically agree with the statement that "hapiness is an attitude", i'd like, however, to mention the novel that Voltaire wrote in the XVIII century which is a wise and funny criticism of the everlasting optimism (it is entitled "Candid, or All for The Best" or "Candid, or The Optimism") where the most horrendous disadventures (wars, deseases, erthquake)happen to the young and optimistic hero Candid that reiterates that "all is for the best"...
this is to say that being happy is not merely an attitude but it is, also, heavily conditioned by the external environment as well
it is the right mix of the individual's ability and the external conditions that leads to hapiness and they cannot be separated...both are necessary and one of them is not enough...
i had Talk/Email/Pen Pal option checked at the begining of my stay at CS as it seemed to me to be the most "neutral" one....
then, i had a guy writing to me several times a day describing every single detail of his day...he was also answering my every mail immediatelly with his very detailed reports...this behaviour made me feel conditioned...
when i wrote to him about it, he then said to me that he had chosen me because of the option "email/pen pal" and, also, because of my profesion (i'm a translator but the neaerest cs option is "writer/journalist"), which made me feel like a well chosen victim....
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RE: Is "dating" normal?
i have just finished to read happy's post and wanted to post a "thank-you" when i saw cherry had just done so...i enjoyed reading your post, happy...so nice story to hear