Nawzis Forum Posts (11)

RE: Would You Date someone Who Lives in another Country??? What would you look for???

I would relocate for love but my profession is territorial and I don't know of a lot of men who'd financially support a woman who cannot work in their country. Being from an EU country I exclude countries outside the Eurozoen as immigration would get tricky. So where is the right Eurozone man for me?

RE: Cutting contact without saying a word...

Is that why you cut contact with me? After all we were only friends after all the bs of i love yous buddy.

RE: Smartness

Is IRN Bru Scottish....I just love it and miss it. Where I come from the only two inventions are lateral thinking by Edward De Bono and the Pillow frame.

RE: Will I ever meet a suitable man ?

back to you. Sorry to be pouring out all my grief on this forum but the great thing about cs is that people can empathize cause they have their own stories of grief not like talking to smug marrieds.

RE: How can one be single in a capital city?

couldn't agree more. I never made a single friend in 5 years living in London. it was the loneliest time of my life and my ltr disintegrated there.

RE: Why did you re-locate to where you are today....

I moved to the UK with my Maltese ex in 2005. Five years later due to the live to work attitude in the UK the relationship had disintegrated. I was made redundant, came on holiday to malta and he didn't want me to go back so I stayed in malta. However, there isn't a day when I don't think of going back to the UK. Haven't closed the door yet. The UK has a lot going for it.

RE: Elegance,Rafinament,Style,Class,Personality:Is it important for you ?

there 's a time and a place for everything. E.g. my work dictated that I dress up suits, heels, jewellery, make up every day. I'd go home and couldn't wait to get into my comfies and relax. My ex expected me to wear jeans instead around the house. Needless to say for that and a lot of other reasons we split. There's no such thing as elegantly cleaning a toilet bowl.

RE: guilt

Spot on he doesn't want to change. I was always wrong. he was always right to his mind. Supported me financially for 4 months before the demands got even more excessive. left him twice. My mistake was patching up on condition that I'd quit smoking and lose weight cause he'd convinced me that I never did anything for him. Used to compare me to these ideal girls he had in mind. He's totally immature can't face life. he lives to work. It's his life. I got tired of that lifestyle. He wouldn't watch tv with me but insist on reading a book. Lots of bad memories. he's got a lot of growing up to do.

RE: guilt

Some more background. In 12 years he worked abroad for a year, moved to teh UK did night shifts for two. there were crushes on both sides, he's got hygene ocds, i took care of the house , bills and cleaned and took care of him for 8 years and could never settle in a job either at home or in the UK cause I'm in the wrong profession. In the UK I had periods of unemployment and he started picking on me to lose weight, quit smoking, I was clinically depressed. he couldn't cope. I knew I had to come back home. He wanted to stay in the UK. He's now being made redundant just like I was, can't sleep unless radio or tv is turned on, how I was during his night shifts etc. We broke up because I came home on holiday and he said I first had to heal of my depression and then we'd see what was to happen between us. I couldn't cope with his pressures and lack of support, no compnaionship, head always buried in books.

Now I occasionally get in touch to sort property etc. out. he's giving me his share, he admits he was misguided, didn't treat me properly but he couldn't cope with me. Doesn't want to speak about his new girl. Immediately wanted to talk about the cat, I'll be getting back in Sept. he didn't have much relationship experience before me so I guess he's now found out that the grass is not greener but he refuses to come back to home country and I've begged him on two occasions to come back. he admits he was misguided and immature and says he's tormented going over every minute of 12 years in his head to see how he could have treated me better.

I have a better life without him. Free of pressures. I still have feelings for him but I want a grown man who will appreciate me and there is no way on earth he's coming back having matured and giving me the kind of relationship I want.

RE: What Are Some Things You Want From A Relationship?

Enjoyable companionship
Mutual understanding, respect and honesty
in sickness and in health for richer or poorer
Neither partner tyring to change the other but accepting them and loving them unconditionally

RE: If you're an educated woman, would you date a man who can't spell or speak properly?

I hadn't thought about using the poll to flag myself to men I'd be interested in so I do feel somewhat stupid for not thinking of that! It is a real issue I'm facing after 12 years with an intellectual and a good looking one to boot. However he was quite poor on the ompanionship front. I am now dating and trying to find a better balance someone intelligent enough to hold interesting conversation but who's not necessarily got his head always buried in books.