Last year I met and chatted with someone from here. We talked on the phone and IM'd through yahoo.
Then one evening I signed into CS briefly. Closed CS and apparently it "appeared" I was still in CS. The next morning I got up and checked email.
He had sent me about ten messages asking why won't I answer him, why am I ignoring him, telling me that we aren't on the same page. Over and Over. Accusing me! I couldn't believe how he could jump to such conclusions after just a few emails and IM's and a phone call or two. I wasn't even ONLINE!
Please does anyone know what is causing all these holes, hundreds of them in my back yard grass? As soon as I raked all the leaves, I found holes about one inch deep and the little dirt clods from them was in a packed circle in the grass. There are hundreds of them in my small yard. They have nothing in them but are everywhere????
What are you?? A Carrot, An Egg, or a Cup of Coffee
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me? What do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.
The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted it's rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity... boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected it's liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, it's inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying, and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, but FAITH looks up. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
There are bad apples in every bunch, cops who kill, priests who molest, parents who murder their children, teachers who molest, on and on.... Don't forget about the ones who never get caught.
My sons never really said that, older one into building mechanical stuff, ended up being a mechanic, younger son seems to have a guitar growing out of his body sometimes.
I was lonely as a kid, no siblings, not much to do.
I'm now an old woman And nature is cruel, 'tis jest to make old age Look like a fool. The body, it crumbles, Grace and vigor depart, There is now a stone Where I once had a heart.
How sad. I wonder sometimes why people say living a long, long life is a blessing. I see my poor mother and I wonder.
No matter where you go, school or work, you'll come across people like this, or worse. Not only is school a place to learn the academics, it's a place to learn how to deal with people you can't stand.
Hopefully you won't be learning from this person for too long, and you'll move on to the next phase.
It's good to keep your long-term goals in mind.
I hope others here can offer real advice, all I can say is hang in there and Study!
SusieRR Forum Posts (2,122)
RE: A perplexing conundrum...
Thanks, that is good to know.Threw me off because he used my post as he replied.