Oh no you don't! lol I get myself in trouble easy enough. But honestly it is really good to see you on here and you DO look good. Can't believe some guy hasn't scooped you up yet.
I didn't answer the pole because I believe they do and don't. We can see it all the time where the two people involved have different tastes and likes. But within those differences they are similar. For ex: two people like sports, one is into swimming and the other is into hockey. They have similar interests, but differ within those interests. I will admit that it is possible for two people to have very different interests all together, and that's fine. But I do not believe a relationship will last if all they have are differences in their interests. They need to connect on some level. Likewise, I don't think it would last if in everything they had the same likes and interests. People are so complex and so is their needs, desires, interests that opposites and similarities have a wide range of options to connect.
And like the same can't be said for guys? But do the guys put that in their profile? I don't know about other guys, but I don't. I'm sorry you have been hurt, but that really is not something that draws "real" men's attention.
My thoughts on this is that a hurt differs from person to person. The amount and depth at which you have been hurt will determine how difficult it will be to open your heart again. I have found that the more you are "into" the person, the more they are able to hurt you...and I think that's where the crux is. You are opening up your heart right now without feeling scared.
I agree it takes time; time to figure out who you are as a unique person and what are your unique needs are. During which time, I believe it's nessessary to be able to forgive the person that hurt you...not for his benifit, but your hearts benifit with being at peace with it. So that when the memory comes back, it's just that, a memory without the pangs of pain that was once there.
Once you feel confident to actually meet people, keep in mind your needs and his also. After all, he may have a painful heart as well as you. And I would hope you have his best interest in mind as well as your own. I wouldn't suggest sharing your hurts and letting him know you need time. That would most likely send mixed messages and you may end up doing damage control. What I suggest in just be yourself, allow him to be himself and just be aware of things that are consistent. It's in the consistencies that you are more likely going to see the real person. We all can act and copy what we see...and some are very very good. But we can not stop being our true selves. And who we really are is always a constant in how we live, speak, act and react. If there is anything that you may see a red flag, don't be afraid to ask for clerification to make sure you understand him correctly. Takes time spent with someone to buld a level of trust to where the deep things in your heart is a safe place in his hands.
My cousin has that. Her husband died in March of a massive heart attack and now she is forced to go outside as he is not around to any longer. I really feel sad for her.
I agree and although I do like doing things outdoors, I am home more than I am out camping and such. You can have a lot of fun being at home. I guess it depends on the person.
RE: THE ..TRUE..GENTLEMAN
Wow lol..that was insightful and I'd have to agree on the last part for sure. Nice to meet you, Sir.