You've got some great choices there, for sure. Particularly the line about the waitress holding the chicken between her knees; that's one of the greatest movie lines by anyone, ever. BUT, a lot of those really should be credited to the writers, not to the actor who happened to deliver them.
A couple of my favorite Jack Nicholson lines that would otherwise be throwaway dialogue, except for his delivery:
The Shining: "See? It's okay. He saw it on TV."
The Witches of Eastwick: "Clean the house? Just gets dirty."
Now, you look at those lines, in text, and they are absolutely unremarkable. A big yawn and a waste of screen time. But when Jack Nicholson delivers them, they are both trenchant and knee-slapping funny. That's his gift: his persona takes over, and the lines, good or bad, become Jack Nicholson lines.
"Where is Connecting Singles ranked on your Favorites/Bookmarks/etc?" Is it number one? Is it after 18 other sites you like better? Is it alphabetized under "C"? And why is it that way, whichever way it is?
Didn't mean I didn't like it, Joyce. Point was, we've seen many times before, some poster comes with a tale of being scammed, and what they intend is to find a "hero" whom they can scam, themselves.
If you're new, you wouldn't know that. But also, if you're new, your profile would appear like one of those double-dealers.
Don't be so tender. This here is a great group for advice and support, and very few are such grumpy old a@@holes as myself. Just know that, when you put your thoughts here, there's hundreds of thousands of folk around the world reading them. so responses you get may not be what you expect. It's a big broad multicultural world out there.
Hmmm....normally, Joyce, I would say, this sounds like you are being set up. But there may be more to it. And that more may be you.
It's not unknown here for a poster to appear here in Forums with a fret-my-fingernails tale like yours. Sometimes, that is actually a ploy by the poster to entice some knight-in-shining-armor to come to their rescue, someone whom they themselves actually planned to scam, to begin with.
I look at your Profile, Joyce, and I see...not much. This is the first time, in fact, that you have ventured into the Forums. Near as I can tell, you have had zero other involvement in CS to date.
If your worry is genuine, I hope you have the good sense to retreat. If your worry is a pose, a ploy to entice someone else into your snare, I hope you fail and get caught in the rain and stub your toe.
There are. Since, as Albert Einstein proved, time is relative, everyone who comes and takes away your job is from "their" future. You, meanwhile, have no future. That's what relativity says you get, for standing still and going nowhere.
I see that nearly 2/3 of respondents so far have selected #10, Just be yourself.
They're all wrong. The correct answer does not appear; the closest approximation is #7, Writing silly comments.
The correct answer, the "secret of success on a site like CS," is: Get involved!
Don't just sign on, look at your incoming email, and pout. CS offers countless ways to interact with others. Use those. Get involved. Writing silly comments is one of the easiest ways to do that, in Forums. But there are many many others.
Whether "success" to you means finding a partner, or merely finding camaraderie and support for your single lifestyle, that's the way to do it. Get involved.
Course not. But those who define themselves as "nice guys" end up whining and complaining, "Why do I always finish last?" And no one likes a whiney complainer. That's why they finish last. If at all.
Your experience, you claim? You cite one instance, then support it by citing another that supposedly happened to "a friend."
That doesn't sound like much experience to base an opinion on, if you ask me.
You question the veracity of "some men." But your concluding remarks wonder "if people are not truthful." Those people would include women, wouldn't they?
Stop blaming men because one man did wrong. Realize the same is true about women. You want to be blamed for what some other woman did?
Well, two things: First, a fine collection of old-master European art, here in the states...and two, a staggering real-life crime scene. The Gardner was robbed in 1980 of about 15 masterpieces by a gang linked to the Boston mafia and thus to Philadelphia. None have been recovered and the $15 million reward stands. The Gardner preserves empty frames on the wall where its Rembrandts and Degases and such once hung.
But the FBI believes, and circumstances suggest, that the World's Greatest Art Theft was made-to-order: so many great works were left untouched. Those are still there to see. So all in one, you get a fantastic collection of great old-master art, and a dollop of James-Bond style intrigue to carry home.
Also, I just like art museums, and the Gardner is among this nation's finest.
Now, that's extreme, Life. But you didn't say why. Would you go Poling -- that is, to traverse to the South Pole? Or to study up on penguin habitat, or glacial loss? Do say more.
Not been to Madeira, nor Spain at all. Love NYC though; visit every year. Whatever you want, you can find it there. And Petra looks absolutely fascinating! But what's wrong with Lapland? I'm sure it's an interesting cultural milieu with charming people and its own joie de vivre.
Name somewhere you'd like to visit but haven't yet, and say why you'd like to go.
I'd be keen on seeing Skara Brae, the well-preserved Neolithic ruins in Orkney (north coast of Scotland). It's a World Heritage site, but on annual Earth Days, you can actually walk amongst the dwellings of folk from 3,000 years ago. I don't think there's anywhere else on the planet you can do that, even one day a year.
Wow, lucky you, Sharon! You woke up and realized you are in the 21st Century. Any other wisdom from your slumber you'd like to pass on? Like, don't take any wooden nickels? Or, Look twice before crossing the street? Or any other advice that everybody else already has heard?
Oh hell no! I better stock up on lotsa guns, and make sure children pray to Jesus in taxpayer-funded schools, and murder all doctors who perform abortions, and bomb their clinics, and those Communist fluoridated-water plants...those liberals, all so Satanic, mumble mumble mumble everything the Democrats propose or enact is so evil, according to Faux News....I'm so scared of nothing, nothing...
So, we're gonna marry...
Yes, we have agreed to wed. Next March or April. April 2, most likely.We met on CS, some four years ago (by next spring).
CS can and does "work," if that's your aim.
Good luck! Have faith, and make the effort to connect, yourself. Lazy gets what lazy earns.