Thalassa Forum Posts (2,410)

RE: NEED MALES ONLY OPINIONS>>>>>>

I know you asked for opinions from men only, but please indulge me for a moment and allow me to offer a female opinion...

When you wrote "I made the suggestion to him that a few seconds wont kill him to just drop a quick line he straight up said 'if u need more from me than this wont work'," I think this was the key. And I think there are 2 distinct parts to the key.
1. I'm wondering if you only made such a comment to him once, or if perhaps you had done so more than once. I ask this because his response seems to be rather a jump...a rush to conclusion...based on one mention that he could drop you a quick line a bit more frequently.
2. His reaction itself tells me that he was already looking for a way to end it and he turned the focus on you....making you sort of the bad guy for asking for more frequent communication from him (something that he had no problem with only weeks before). He twisted it to be about YOU (if YOU need something more....etc.), when in reality, it sounds as if he was ready to bail.

As to why?? Likely, you'll never know. But, for whatever reason, he didn't want to continue in the relationship. My first comments about your message to him were not meant to be mean; I'm just wondering if this was possibly the situation.
Take care...move on, as I'm sure you will....and do take care.

RE: Is it wrong to love a married man?

No.......




.....as long as he's married to me.

RE: Percentage of open minds..

Hypatia?? Nice one, Ambrose, but my mathematical skills are severely lacking, I'm afraid.
In all seriousness, I try very hard to be open-minded, yet I know I am guilty of sometimes remaining firm in my stance on an issue without having a strong enough foundation for my beliefs. I recognize that I do this at times and then I try to step back and look at it from a different perspective...trying to wipe the slate clean and start from a place of having no opinion or no belief whatsoever on the topic at hand. This is the hard part, really....erasing all that we've heard or believed or thought in the past and re-examining something as if it's the first time you've ever heard of it.

And I agree with you in congratulating Brewer on the much-needed thought-provoking thread.

RE: Is anyone else out there an ACN Independent Rep.? :)

Thanks, Bodleing.

RE: Percentage of open minds..

You're wrong and you know it!!



(Couldn't resist)

RE: Is anyone else out there an ACN Independent Rep.? :)

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Ignorant or naive here....what is ACN?

RE: In first date ????

Thank you, Hara.

RE: In first date ????

I look for a warm and genuine smile and I pay attention to body language. Does he seem engaged in the conversation? Does he seem genuinely interested in getting to know me? Is he looking at his watch or is he looking at me while I am speaking? How does he treat the waiter or waitress? There are many things to be learned on a first date, and most of them are through indicators other than the words he speaks.

RE: why do old men always seem to be all bitter?

The older the fiddle, the sweeter the tune. Good reply, Wall.

As for the OP's question....define "old"....and do it oh, so carefully!

RE: Your most hated household chore?

You have nothing about laundry...I hate taking things from the dryer and folding them or hanging them up and putting them away.
And emptying the dishwasher. I don't know why I hate the last steps of every chore, but I do.

RE: I am single because...

As much as I don't really want to admit this, I am single because I choose to be. And yet, although I may not want to admit it, I am also very proud of this. It's a conundrum. I choose to be alone rather than to be with something -- someone -- that is not all I want in a relationship. What do I want?? Just the basics, really. Nothing extraordinary. But until I find what I want...what I will know in my heart and in my soul is what I want...I will be single. It's like art...I may not know much about it, but I know what I like when I see it.

Heard this on tv

Apparently, Youtube, Facebook, and Twitter and combining into one large conglomerate.

The new name will be....







Wait for it.....











You Twit Face!



(Yeah, I heard it from a comedian on tv and I stole his material!)

RE: Favorite Romance Movie of all times...

One from the 50's...."Love is a Many Splendored Thing"
and "High Noon"
and "Bridges of Madison County"

If I cry, it's a winner!

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

Efcharisto poly!

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

Thanks a bunch, Robert. I'm feeling much better, have been back to work since Monday, and am almost finished with the meds. Thanks for your well-wishes.

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

I failed to grab my laptop when my neighbors rushed me to the hospital!

Just kidding with you...I have dictionaries, I use Babelfish Altavista translation online, and I have a lot of Greek friends I can practice with, but the words I needed at the time were not part of my vocabulary yet.

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

Just my luck....I didn't know how to say "butterfly needle" in Greek! All I could say to the nurses was "it hurts! Stop!" (of course, they didn't stop...they just kept pushing and prodding). Gotta work on my Greek medical terminology if I'm going to keep ending up in the hospitals here! (funny thing, though, since most of our medical words are directly from Greek!)

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

It's in my hand. 3 months???!!!! Ugh. Well, I'll see what my doc has to say, I guess. Thanks!

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

Thanks, all.
Yeah, I'll pop in to see my doc tomorrow. No sense in putting it off. Thanks for the posts, guys.

Is there a doctor in the house? (Or a nurse?)

I was in the hospital recently...after 5 days in, I was released 9 days ago. I have veins that are very difficult to find and was jabbed a number of times in a number of different places on my arms and hands, where they tried to insert the I.V. The various bruises have mostly faded now, but my right hand (where they last had an I.V. inserted) is still very sore and tender, and I see tracings of a somewhat swollen vein or something...again, very sore.

Does anybody with any medical knowledge know if this is normal for some people and will go away in time? Or should I be concerned at this point?

Of course, I'll see my doctor very soon if it continues hurting. I won't just take advice from here. But if there are some here who are truly knowledgeable, I just wonder if this is something that happens often or should I seek more immediate attention than giving it a few more days.....??

RE: boyfriends and lying

No, that's definitely not a good thing. Ask yourself this...
once you've been lied to in such a manner (obviously deceptive in order to conceal his own wrongdoings), can you believe him the next time he looks you in the eye and gives you a similar story? Do you mind having doubt in your head about what he tells you? Are you ok with his lies while he is supposedly your boyfriend? Will you continue to be ok with them?

It's pretty simple, really....at least, for me. I have neither the room in my life for such people nor the tolerance.

RE: hello every one

Greetings! Welcome aboard.

Anyone in Amman, Jordan??

I am going for a week-long training program, but am interested in suggestions for things to do in the evenings... nothing radical...just suggestions for what I might do on my own.

Anyone in Amman, Jordan??

I will be going to Amman for a week in early October. Haven't noticed anyone from there on the forums, but perhaps I just haven't paid enough attention.
Anyone in Amman?
Any suggestions for thing to do (I won't make it to Petra, unfortunately)...good restaurants or places where a woman alone can be comfortable?

RE: Seriously folks

Ladyfingers, I don't pray. I won't lie and say that I do and that I am praying for your Mom. But I DO think of people and their loved ones, and tonight I will think of your Mom and wish only the best for her and for you. This is all I can offer, but it's genuine.

RE: Okay, let's make this perfectly clear...

I, too, have turned off the IM option. It was never a positive experience and was annoying to not know who was requesting the chat. And, while I'm thinking of some of the IMs I used to receive, I have to ask....
What the hell does it matter what I'm wearing??

Your point is well taken and I think most of us women here get it completely.
Haven't seen you here before, so I'll say WELCOME if you're new.

RE: anything i should watch for

Read twice as much as you type....I like that, Hope! Excellent advice indeed.

RE: new to this part of the world

Your Dad wouldn't perhaps be single, would he??

Welcome, Ethan. I hope I haven't offended you right off the bat.

RE: Forgive and Forget.

I don't think it's possible to will yourself to forget. Memory exists and can't be eradicated simply by wishing it so. I think it's very possible and, in fact, very common to have forgiven someone without forgetting. The key is in the context of the memory. If, when the memory of a wrongdoing or painful situation rears its ugly head, how one reacts to the memory is how we know if we've truly forgiven or not. Does the memory itself bring anger or hurt or sadness? Or does it just come into your mind as a fleeting thought?
I can't erase my memories, but when I draw on them for some reason, how I process them and respond to them will tell me if I've really forgiven or not.

RE: An Update

Welcome back! Glad to know you are getting better, bit by bit and day by day. I've wondered how you are. Here's wishing you continued improvement and strength.