I'm not sure I agree with some of the answers, except morally. By this I mean that while on the surface it sounds like the right thing to do, to come clean and confess wrongdoing. It sure seems like the only logical response. But here is where I have a problem with this.... If I had cheated on a lover or spouse (which I am firmly against and have never done), why is relieving MY burden and causing pain to the other person of greater importance than considering that person's pain? I do wrong, I feel guilty, I have to confess, me, me, me, me. What about the other person? They now have pain and hurt, but it's the right thing because now I feel better?? I see everyone's point, I really do. And, again, I understand why people respond the way they have. But is it really the right thing for the other person? Just wondering.
Well, now....this is not an easy question because I don't want to imply for one second that I am qualified to answer such a question. And any answer I give may be the wrong one. My only qualification might be that I am a friend to many and many are friends of mine, and I would do whatever necessary to help a dear friend. I don't know either of you and I don't know your friend's tendencies (is she sometimes over-dramatic? has she exhibited such drastic tendencies in the past? is this totally out of character for her?, etc.). I guess, in answer to your question....if I were you, I would talk to her about it in depth and tell her that you are concerned enough that you want her to seek help. Take it from there and follow your heart.
We can all speculate on the relationship, such as it was, but this was not the question raised. The OP asks how to help a friend who is heartbroken, lost her job, and doesn't want to get up in the morning. It smacks of depression and I think you should encourage your friend to seek some professional care....soon, if not now. Losing one's job and being unable to find the will to climb out of bed every day is serious stuff. She invested 3 years of her life in this guy and now she probably is not only heartbroken but is feeling like a fool as well. Encourage her to get up, get moving, get some exercise, and keep busy. I'm no alarmist, but I do know that true depression can cause a person to do very irrational things. Keep a close eye on your friend and encourage her to seek help if you see no signs of improvement or if, God forbid, she sinks deeper.
Though it may not suit everyone's interest, a leisurely stroll through a museum might be a good one. If there is a particularly good art museum nearby, you could not only take in some stress-relieving beauty, but you could talk about what you are viewing and get to know each other's interests at the same time. Follow that with a coffee somewhere and I think you might have a very nice date. Good luck!
Hi...I was away for awhile, so sorry for the delay. Take plain white bread (sandwich-style, sliced bread)...spread butter liberally to cover the slices...sprinkle sugar on top of the butter (not too much, not too little)...then sprinkle cinnamon on top of the sugar (again, not too sparse, not too heavy). Place on cookie sheet and bake in the oven on a high temp. I can't tell you exactly how long, since ovens vary, but keep an eye on it and it will be ready when everything has melted, leaving the cinnamon dark and moist from the melted butter and sugar beneath. Maybe about 5 or 6 minutes, but just keep an eye on it.
Yes, I love French toast, too...I add vanilla to the mix and it's also yummy.
Cinnamon toast, made the old-fashioned way (as Mom used to make when I was a child)...in the oven, butter, sugar, cinnamon. Add a glass of ice-cold milk and it's a beautiful thing indeed. A mouthful of memories!
I've never seen any reason for the polls....just a simple question will do. It's not like the results are being tabulated and will be examined by an independent company for scientific studies or something!
Hi,Zombie.... According to the Help and Support tab, this is how to re-size the icons:
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Hold up, everyone....someone's off-key. Who is it? Is it you, Belgium? Could it be Ireland? Oooh, wait....I know who you are, you cheeky little scamp. Lichtenstein! C'mon, little fella, get in tune! "We Are the World, We Are the Children"...
Don't ask. I don't know what I'm writing. I'm tired but can't seem to sleep.
Actually, I don't buy many things. I do most of my shopping (clothes and shoes and stuff) when I go back to the U.S. once a year. Otherwise, I generally spend my money on travel...weekend getaways and such. So, the last thing I bought for myself was a ferry ticket to the island of Aegina, only an hour's boat ride away from Athens. I stepped off the boat and was enjoying island life, pre-season, ogling handsome men, eating fresh-caught calamari and drinking ouzo with friends seaside. A mere 11 days ago. 25 euros roundtrip, one night at a bare-bones cheap hotel, and a weekend of delight.
That's comforting to know. I actually really knew this, though, so my example was weak. But after the fact...when the bills start rolling in...hundreds of thousands of dollars later, the one without the health insurance is so deep in debt that he or she will likely never recover financially. It's just a shame and I mean this in the truest sense of the word. We should be ashamed to allow this to happen.
Must go to sleep now. Goodnight...and I hope you're recuperating and recovering well, Doc.
With all due respect, particularly considering the fact that you are probably far more aware of many of the intricasies and factors involved in this issue than I would ever profess to be.... I disagree. I do think that health care should be a "right". We are entitled to life, lib....wait. Let's just stop there. Life. Lack of health care in life-or-death situations has led to death many times over, hasn't it? Or, maybe only once ever? If only once, wasn't that one person entitled to life?
Health care isn't about the pursuit of happiness, nor is it about liberty. It is frequently about life.
I don't debate the fact that there are many who aren't willing to get off their asses and work and support themselves, let alone their families....many who have their hands out at every turn, looking for the free ride. But an overhaul of the health care system won't recognize status at all....everyone will be given the same care under the same needs. If that's not good enough for those of us who want something more and can afford privatized care, then we can continue with a private health care plan. But if 2 people are brought into a hospital at the same time with equally life-threatening injuries, I don't believe their pockets or purses need to be checked first to see which one should be treated and which one left to bleed to death.
Last year, I fell and hit my head on a sidewalk here in Athens. It knocked me out and my head was cut badly. An ambulance was called and I was taken to a local public hospital. I was treated, observed for concussion, and ultimately released. I asked about paying and was told there was no fee. "But I'm a foreigner", I said, thinking that the free care surely must be only for Greek citizens, not any schmo who can't navigate a city sidewalk! Nope, no money. "What about the ambulance?," I asked. Tipota. Nothing. I found it mind-boggling. I felt like I was cheating the system, somehow. I had the means to pay for my care....I felt guilty for some reason. Now, mind you, the hospital wasn't much for sore eyes. But I received immediate and complete care. Here in Greece, people can pay for health plans that would allow them to go to the better hospitals (more modern in appearance and facilities, and maybe their doctors went to Harvard Med School or studied at the Mayo Clinic or something). But this is a choice and they are not forced to pay for the best care. I like this system. I like it very much. Anyone who needs medical attention should be able to receive it. If you want the best of the best, you pay for it...it happens in the U.S. under our current system as well. But if you want to at least be taken care of in time of need, you have that for free. I can't find a flaw in this, hard as I try.
Who gave you permission to go into my closet??? OK....number one...isn't that one of those automatic car wash things that sweeps across your car while you wait inside?
Number 2...when this woman said "I don't have a THING to wear..." ...she wasn't kidding.
Number 3...he had me at "hello"...and lost me at the chiffon
Number 4...ok, you know his buddies won't let him ever get over this one!
Number 5...Look out, audience...I've got hip bones and I'm not afraid to use them!
Number 6...WTF?? Move those little rubber porcupine thingies from your shoulders to where the pink part of your outfit is and maybe we'll have something to consider.
Number 7...Is that a Bible he's carrying? Well, one never knows when they might need to go from the beach, on to a prom, then to church. He's just prepared for everything, that's all.
Number 8...Isn't Twister supposed to have colored circles? Oh, well....right hand, black circle. Left foot, black circle. Nah, colors are more fun.
Number 9...Her little sister's first home economics sewing experiment. God, she must really love that little sis!
Number 10...Brown sandals don't match the grey. Otherwise, perfect. And I want him.
Yeah, I was there last August for 2 weeks...and it was the hottest month of my life! Rode a bus to and from work every day....stripped soaking clothes off my back as soon as I returned to my apartment and jumped right in the shower. Nice place, mind you...but sweltering and muggy.
And, Vonney....it's due to years of battling oily skin when I was young. I guess it paid off in later years, somewhat. I only started putting lotions on my face in very recent years.
Thanks, curvy...but I actually don't mind telling my age. I've never felt a need to hide it. It is what it is and the truth will always out, so I'm dead honest about it.
Now....my weight....well, that's another issue altogether!
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RE: If you do something wrong
I'm not sure I agree with some of the answers, except morally. By this I mean that while on the surface it sounds like the right thing to do, to come clean and confess wrongdoing. It sure seems like the only logical response. But here is where I have a problem with this....If I had cheated on a lover or spouse (which I am firmly against and have never done), why is relieving MY burden and causing pain to the other person of greater importance than considering that person's pain? I do wrong, I feel guilty, I have to confess, me, me, me, me. What about the other person? They now have pain and hurt, but it's the right thing because now I feel better??
I see everyone's point, I really do. And, again, I understand why people respond the way they have. But is it really the right thing for the other person?
Just wondering.