Children that do have "disabilities" do need to learn how to cope with those disabilities because they have to live the rest of their life with them...and who better to teach them than a loving parent!
I don't understand why there are some parents who will fight tooth and nail for their "disabled" child to be treated as an equal and those who just use it as an excuse....and then of course there are those who use the "disability" excuse only when its "convenient"....
Like someone said, the past is the past and i understand that...and really i do continue to make wonderful memories now...but...
Just after my kids were born i was a stay at home mom, we had a little tiny "war home" (no basement, no upstairs etc etc) I had a million flowers it seemed and i would dress the kids after breakfast and go out and "garden" and cut fresh flowers for the house...stuff like that...it was just a very peaceful and contented time in my life....
After reading your post here...i decided to try a thread on the international forum based on the same thing, just for a "multicultural" view on this....
My my..... its no wonder we have a generation of "unruly" children!!
I am the mother of two teenage girls...and i had my share believe me!!
There were many dinners out that we left half eaten, many church services that i stood out in the foyer with them, lots of family functions where i had to leave early....
But it didn't stop me from taking them out in public...it was the ONLY place i could teach them how to behave in public!
What i didn't do was try to excuse their behaviour as them just being kids...because that would have just led to me having a pair of unruly teenagers!
"they lack maturity"....which is exactly why the adult needs to be in charge....(as I've said before behaviours are a learned/taught process)
I don't think you need to say to them to "shut up", but if they are being annoying why wouldn't you say to them they are being annoying? How else would they know that it is inappropriate at times to be loud?
I think its a little unfair to suggest that if people can't handle children during their dinner they should stay home, what gives the parents with loud children more right to be in that restaurant over the people without? (And that is not always the case because there are people who do dine out with their children without incident)
BTW...alot of couples that are dining out are probably trying to have a night out without their own children.....
Why should my first instinct be to create an "excuse" to justify their behaviour?
Though what you said is true, and the child could have medical issues that are not immediately obvious, and you are probably more sensitive to it because of your friend....but i'm sorry i disagree....I am no more able to first think of an excuse why they are misbehaving than i would if i saw a grown person misbehaving....(JMO)
And personally I don't think people not appreciating their "night out" or a church service or something of that nature constitutes not tolerating children in public. If I were in an amusement park or something of that nature and i saw children running screaming, food flying...I would not even bat an eye....
I understand your answer....however...if the parents are not to blame (not sure i like the word blame though) who is? Society? The doctors? The food we eat? Why does something/someone else need to shoulder the "blame"?
Do you think that perhaps that may be the reason it happens more and more...because if the mentality is "they're kids...so what"....when does a parent think is the best time to teach a child how to behave in public?? (Behaviours are learned/taught process isn't it??) And certainly you can't teach your children how to behave in PUBLIC at HOME....they are two different environments...
btw...i am not knocking your answer...i am merely asking a question regarding it...
Myself personally, I have decided it is not my "responsibility" to "fix" everyone that is in my life...not my responsibility to make everyone happy, content and satisfied with their life at the end of the day..
Just wondering if other single parents out there is finding it hard to enjoy Christmas (or the Holiday Season) and juggle having to find time for the kids, your home and working in retail....
I am currently working in upper management for a company that has now told us that we cannot have the weekend after christmas off, we have to work christmas/new years eve and boxing day... HUH???!!!
I know that they would be welcome to spend the Christmas with their dad...but *selfishly* I feel I deserve to be with my kids for the holidays because its a "happy" time for them and i want to share that.
Obviously I got into retail because it accommodated my hours and my need to be there for my kids...(while my "ex" got to further his career... ) as i also worked around his schedule....
Just wondering if other single parents out there is finding it hard to enjoy Christmas (or the Holiday Season) and juggle having to find time for the kids, your home and working in retail....
I am currently working in upper management for a company that has now told us that we cannot have the weekend after christmas off, we have to work christmas/new years eve and boxing day...
I know that they would be welcome to spend the Christmas with their dad...but *selfishly* I feel I deserve to be with my kids for the holidays because its a "happy" time for them and i want to share that.
Obviously I got into retail because it accommodated my hours and my need to be there for my kids...(while my "ex" got to further his career... ) as i also worked around his schedule....
Your documents that you sign (when securing a loan) serves as confirmation that you have allowed any given establishment the right to put a lien against your house, your car or personal belongings.
It is filed (and payed for) by the establishment initiating the lien. It is a simple enough procedure, and courts are not involved at this point unless there is a dispute over the lien or if the establishment decides to invoke their right to seize their lien.
Liens are removed generally when the loan is payed off as part of the closing paperwork...if not (and it happens), you have your own paperwork showing the loan payed as proof that the lien is no longer valid.
Of course...the "home" phone number goes a long way.....,
Its just that i've been listening to my little sister talk about her new relationship...and wondering...though things may seem "perfect" on the surface...its all those little "un-noticeables" (because they have a plausible excuse) that should be convincing her....
In his biography "The Audacity of Hope"...Obama was quoted as saying that he grew up in a predominantly non-religious home...(his stepfather viewed religion as not particularly useful)
Though his father was born and raised in a Muslim household...he was a confirmed "aethiest" (his father left when he was 2 and returned to Kenya)
Obama himself did not get exposed to religion until he started working as a community organizer in the black churches...he was baptized in 1988 at Trinity United Church of Christ....
I think the author of this thread is reading far too much into a name...perhaps in hopes of a president that will advance the muslim faith....however i do not see - granted from all that i have read on Obama, so its not personal knowledge - that Mr. President places as much value on his name as does the author here.
My name is Ursula...it is German...anyone who knows me and has met me knows for a fact that I AM NOT...it was just a name my parents chose....
Its the kind of answer i give my own girls, when in fact the presents I buy for them easily costs me a week's worth of work (they're teenagers)...however they are used to these kinds of answers and it is taken in stride...
I don't pretend to understand all the intricasies of politics, nor do i care to....since this campaign started I have always believed that Hilary Clinton made the best and most strategic move...
I believe his "colour" will definately play a part somewhere down the line...Obama has been handed an America at its most vunerable and weakest state...
If he doesn't "heal those wounds" (as someone else on here stated) I'm sure "race" will come into play...if he does somehow manage to get America back on its feet and a nation to contend with....it will be the end of his term...and Hilary will once again run for presidency and inherit a newly revamped America..(JMO)
As the first black American President his job may be in the United States, but he will be setting a precident and therefore it becomes "world wide"...
Good Luck Mr. President...whatever colour your skin is!
I don't think my fiancee is a "mummy's boy"...he is her pet, though that may be because he is her only son...
However, he has always dated "older" women...and i am older than him myself...but to me from being an outside observer, and listening to him speak of his experiences...having spent alot of time with his mom, has made him more "comfortable" in the company of older women.
His first long term relationship was when he was 19 and she was a 45 year old woman whom he ended up living with for a few years.
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its no wonder we have a generation of "unruly" children!!
) as i also worked around his schedule....
Disruptive Children In Public
Well said!Children that do have "disabilities" do need to learn how to cope with those disabilities because they have to live the rest of their life with them...and who better to teach them than a loving parent!
I don't understand why there are some parents who will fight tooth and nail for their "disabled" child to be treated as an equal and those who just use it as an excuse....and then of course there are those who use the "disability" excuse only when its "convenient"....