Anyhow, to go back to the original question (and i only read the first and last page of this thread)...not interested in the "fighting" if that was what the last page implied happened in between....
When i first joined this site, it was because i was single (that was some 4 or 5 years ago), what has kept me on this site (or at least coming back) is the forums...
I made some great friends here, kept my wits sharp with some of the topics discussed (and yes we got into heated arguments as well)...it has nothing to do with my marital status...
If a person has stated on their profile they are married but looking for fun...then you have two options...yes or no...and then you move on...staying back to judge them or analyze what exactly they are looking for is a waste of your time... In case it was missed....married people don't just look for a bit on the side on dating sites...it happens in RL as well!
I have to admit...I am engaged to a wonderful man, my girls are teenagers now (when i started on here they were 10 and under)...and as much as i have been leading a pretty busy life...I still miss my friends i made on here and the some of the great threads we used to get involved with.....
I agree with casual....I don't believe there are specific rules for this.
I think that through your online messaging and chatting you can determine if this is someone you'd like to perhaps meet in person...
It has been known (especially on dating sites) for people to fall madly in love with those they have been chatting with...meet them in person and NO CHEMISTRY!!
However, unless you are interested in "dating your computer", my theory was to get it over and done with and not invest an excess amount of time with someone where the relationship had no potential. (JMO)
I have been on and off this site for a few years...I have met lots of the people i chatted with on here both from Canada and the US...some of them I still have contact with.
I know the purpose is for us to meet people and move on (which I did)...but i've missed my friends and the great times we had on the forums here...
Just wondering if any of the "old crowd" is still around and what are you all up to these days?
A couple of the women on here have already expressed how i feel about this subject.
YOU have to be comfortable with your size for others around you to be comfortable with it.
I agree that all men have their own personal preferences, then again so do women...I don't believe its necessarily a derogatory thing if a man does not prefer my curves.
I LOVE being curvy....I would never want to lose that...(and yes you can be healthy with curves!! Go figure )...
The man in my life as well as the men i have dated were surprised to find that my own attitude towards being a curvy woman, changed their own outlook towards ALL curvy women.
I had this very experience right here on CS a couple of years ago....we both had read each other's profile saw what the other was looking for and decided we were not it (he was 5'4" my profile said 5'9" and taller, his profile said slim/slender and i am very proud to say that i am neither!! I am very curvy!)...
Anyhow, we were introduced by another member who used to follow my posts here on the forums, thought our PERSONALITIES would match and hooked us up....
We were together for a year, one of the best years of my life...and to this day he is still one of the greatest loves of my life...other circumstances caused us to go our separate ways, but height was NOT one of them.....
But you're right if there is a sale on shoe going on...I'm all over that!
However...I do call and let them know I will NOT be showing up...not late...i'm just not showing up because i can't begin to tell you when i might be through looking at all the shoes!
By the way...I spend EVERY single day on my lunch...yep...looking at shoes!
I was with her last night (Paula is her name by the way)...I think she is beating herself up over this moreso now...
She has always been a forgiving person, a gentler person (well gentler than i will ever be...lol) but she's trying so hard not to fall into the same pit falls as she did with her ex...but she had been so used to foriving Billy all his hockey games...she's finding it hard to hold her ground with Rob and his football games...
I told her if it will make her feel better...tell him that she forgives him...but does she want to date him...nope
It's only there second date, and i know she really cares for this person, but i say get out of it before you're so immersed in it that you'll forgive anything, and it becomes a vicious cycle...
She was a "sports widow" to her ex-husband, i don't want to see her do that again...sports is one thing, but not at the expense of your relationship....
I have a younger sister who is recently back into the dating scene...she was supposed to have her second date with someone last night...it didn't happen...
He was watching the football game with his brother and some buddies and i guess it got out of hand...and well as a result, he woke up with a hangover this morning calling and begging her to forgive him...
I said to her, tell him his apology is accepted but you are not interested in dating someone who could not even pick up the phone out of sheer decency to tell you plans had changed...AND if he could pull a stunt like that on your second date...well what have you got to look forward to in six months....
My older sister disagrees...she thinks he's apologized...he's admitted he made a BIG mistake and that he was inconsiderate...and that she should give him another chance...
What do you all think?
(I told them i would be asking you all for your opinion...)
I personally think he keeps coming around because he KNOWS he owes you that money...what he's waiting for i'm not sure...
But if you've had enough, and feel like "the past" keeps chasing you...then tell him how you feel, what you think he owes you and be done with it...he'll either step up to the plate, or disappear forever...and if he does disappear it won't be anything lost....
I think there is a lot of great advice from the women on here...lots of perspective...
Its hard to jump into "married" life when one has been single for a period of time...just not used to having to answer for your decisions...but does not mean you are doing anything wrong.
His friends may have egged him on, making sure he hadn't gotten "P-whipped" by getting married...
I think you should let him know how you feel...let him know what you would have found more acceptable, come to a compromise as to how this situation would be dealt with in the future if it should arise...then drop it and move on...
As a single parent i tend to "give in" to my girls perhaps a little more than i should...
My daughter will be 14 shortly...she has her eyebrow pierced and her nose pierced (I know i know), but that was the result of "deals" we had made regarding her school marks.
She is an honor roll student, a straight a student and has been for the past 3 years, she is also on the student council...
Now she wants her belly button pierced....is she too young for this?
I'm scared to make the same deals that i have the past two years, because obviously i've lost...I just assumed with her active social life she would not have been able to pull off straight A's and the end of the year...
Any suggestions? I really hate making her feel that all of her hard work at school goes unrewarded...its all i've ever asked of her...is that she focus on her school work...and she does
By the way I have mine pierced so i can't say that its unacceptable to me...
My theory has always been one suitcase for shoes and neccessities only...the other for clothes and anything i "need" i'll just buy when i'm there!
I have no real advice for packing...its something i suck big time at...
"mix and match" outfits are usually a good idea - but i'm sure you already know that!
I never end up wearing half the stuff i carry, because the "natives" are usually acclimatised and i'm not, and can't wear my stuff!! (I usually end up looking like a homeless because i wear the same thing practically every day!)
Financially my kids' dad is very generous as well...
He is NOT understanding that what these children want cannot be bought with money!
What i resent the most is the fact that he thinks "I" am the one that is sabotaging his relationship with the girls...I have NEVER said anything bad about him to them...as a matter of fact NOTHING (not even getting to say I told you so...) is enough for me to hurt my children in the long run....
Its his lying to them, and mouthing the words "I love you" rather than showing them he loves them is the reason the girls are clinging to me more and pushing him aside...
Just want to know if there are any other single moms out there today that would like to bash their ex's pin head in because your children are so hurt today that he chose to spend bringing in the "new year" with someone other than them....
Ladies you can post anything you'd like on here regarding "women" issues... Or if you'd like to just share something...boast about something, brag about new babies...etc etc....
All the "dreams" you had as a child and while growing up...did they age as you did...or are they still as uncomplicated and "new" as when you first dreamed about "it"...
We all revert back to our "primal" instincts (alpha male doing the chasing etc etc...)
Because we would like to think we have "evolved" beyond that mentality..we strive NOT to revert back...but somewhere deep inside us the "chase and be chased" game still appeals to us...subconsciously its what comes naturally for us to do...and have done to us...
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