..."If somebody has stopped wanting to help themselves, what do we do as civilised people?"...
If someone has stopped wanting to help themself...what do you propose then Phil...how exactly does one go about forcing others to want to have a will to live...a will to fight...a will to accomplish something in their life....
I'm not sure what the formula is for instilling the drive i have to do something worthwhile with my life in others....what have i missed here?
..."If somebody's given up, that's tragic."...
Yes it is Phil...my heart breaks for them, but do i feel guilty because i will not allow anything to pull the platform out from under me?...No way!!
Just the other day we had a snow storm over here....the guy next door is happy to sit inside and collect unemployment, me?...I was out there shovelling like a mad woman....I sat in the driveway and CRIED when i had to shovel it for the third time...every inch of my body hurt and the snow was piled HIGHER THAN ME on both sides of my driveway...you know why i continued shovelling Phil?....I have two children to look after...and a job that i owe a responsibility to...
I could have sat home on welfare....but i CHOSE not to...I also owe it to my children to teach them not to accept handouts if they are capable of making a way in life on their own...
No Phil...they didn't have the same opportunities...just as i didn't have the same opportunities that perhaps Donald Trump did...however, I don't envy him...
All i know is i want the best "MY" life has to offer me...and i know that its not going to happen unless "I" make it happen for me..
Fortunate and Gifted?...No one really realizes their fortune and gift until it is compared so someone else's misfortune...
Have i seen it?...Yes Phil...its what "drives" me...its what "encourages" me when i am at the end of my rope...its my empathy and compassion for them that strengthens me to be a better person
Can i save the world? No....
Can I educate myself as to the suffering so i don't contribute further to it...yes
The highlight is that i'm still here...standing on my own two feet - if there is more of a highlight...i'm still waiting
The worst moment was losing my beloved father-in-law this year
I thought my children wanted to live with their dad...i would change that moment in time when i drove off and left them behind...(they live with me now by the way) but i wish i could erase that moment from their memory....
But aren't your choices are...I'm going to stay down here...repeat the cycle with my own kids...or I'm going to believe that THIS is not my life was meant to be...and do something about it?
Remember now...my start in life was in a small village of a third world country....
And not to be antagonistic to anyone, but don't the "my hard life, poor me...no avenue to be better, my age...etc etc" fall into the same category of "I wish"?
But if you imagine this site as a "bar", it goes without saying that not everybody you make eye contact with or look at you are going to approach and start a conversation, or for that matter even acknowledge they are in the same room as you...
To me that is how the "viewed" feature works...
Then there is going to be the he looked, she looked, she looked again, he makes his move...
The one thing this feature provides that you would never get in a "bar" setting, is once someone has caught your eye you can go into their profile and learn a little more about them, in a "real" world setting, you can only imagine, and then take a chance...
I'm originally from the islands...and their "Christmas" dish has always been pork...and if memory serves me right it was always the whole pig turned on a spit...
I just thought it would be fun if we all pretended we would all be together for New Year's Eve...
Imagine a long buffet table set out before us..empty at the moment, but you've all been invited to bring a dish...whether it be an old favorite or a national dish you always eat during the holidays...
What will you be bringing?
Note: Desserts and alcoholic beverages are welcome!!
To what purpose would it serve to reply....or to even get irritated? To me its no different than the men of my age group sending me ridiculous messages...
Though my profile says just here for the forums, ultimately i'm on a dating site...who am i to tell anyone who and what age is appropriate for them to want to date?
I don't think there are any "guarantees" regardless how a relationship starts out....it could be online...it could be someone you met in your day to day life...
If a relationship started online doesn't last, i think its just easier for everyone to lay the blame on meeting "online", but i don't believe its necessarily the reason why....
It could also be because of meeting online they already subconsciously sabotage their own relationship because they don't truly believe meeting someone in this fashion is "real"...
Someone i had written a testimonial about removed it after a (female) friend of his told him that having me write how wonderful a person he was, but not being interested myself, was saying that there "must be something wrong with him"
It was the furthest from the truth...he was all he said he was on the profile...and i did NOT meet him with the intentions of "hooking up"...he happened to be in the vicinity where i was working and stopped by...
I think someone else here said it...i have lots of great male friends, but none that i would consider a "romantic" involvement with...
RE: Chase or be Chased?
Well since its for social sciences...(This is not going to be a popular answer...)
I like to be chased...it appeals to the "feminine" side of me...I like to be caught...(see above reason)...
I hate to be thrown back because all the qualities that caught their eye at first seems to dull in captivity....