Just wondering why is it that in SOME divorce/separations one parent feels the need to "blacklist" the other parent...
Do they think that the children will "choose" them because they are the "better" parent because they have pointed out all the (perceived)faults of their former spouse??
Especially when the children come back and tell you everything and all you can say is mommy/daddy is hurting right now and saying things he didn't really mean...but he's still a wonderful mom/dad and loves you.... Which parent do you think they will look for guidance to in the future?
Even if the children are young and believe it at the time, do you think they arent' going to grow up someday and as mature adults look back on that time...which parent will they have more respect for then??
You know the "higher" one climbs...the "harder" they fall...
Hey L...sorry to hear about your job loss...but i agree with Taps that when one door closes....
If you have a local government employment office you might want to check there as well for listings...
The ones listed above are the only sites i myself know of... If you have a area of expertise...look in the yellow pages for names of such establishments, get an email addy for them and send your resume via email directly to them...
I think someone suggested a temp agency in the meantime, that may be a good idea, you can choose the days you want to work and in that way leave yourself available for interviews...and you will have some sort of income at the same time...
.."As for marriage, I agree that it may not be the unity as it was many years ago. Life and the world in general has evolved into a much more complicated place, since those days long ago. People marry the wrong person, marry for the wrong reasons, and, marry at the wrong point of their life.... those reasons contribute to the astounding divorce and infidelity rates....not the "piece of paper" itself. Just my thoughts on the topic...."...
On my wedding day i had started the day off with..umm..you guessed it alcohol... I wanted a french knot for my hair so they had to style it while it was still wet to keep it smooth..
We had gotten a Spitfire convertible as a wedding present and we had a 4 hour drive ahead to our "honeymoon"...well i had a headache and undid my hair...it blew ever so "picturesque" behind me with big streamers on the car and a big "Just Married" sign...
Then i needed some coffee...so he stopped at a coffee shop..I happen to glance in the window pane...and lo and behold my hair was still "streaming" out behind me (picturesque remember)...there had been so much hairspray and with it being damp still it dried that way....
In a two seater convertible...there is no where to hide...
What is one of the most "idiotic" things you have ever done??
Don't know why i remembered this today...but when i was about 18 my roommate and i - who had been drinking - decided to "perm" my hair (and i know what you're thinking...i already have curly hair...but you know...alcohol was involved!! )...well to top if off..we only bought 6 rollers...
...yes Ed we all thought you wanted to "jump us"...
However...the ladies in your past would have also learned from you that you gave them "just because"...
Just because we're conditioned to believe certain gifts come with a price...does not mean we cannot be conditioned to believe that those same gifts come with no strings attached...
That is actually what i read as well...and i have to admit I didn't know she had shaved her head until i read this thread...and then looked it up (thank goodness for Google... )
Just curious though...if your neighbours wife had shaved her head...would there be a thread on here about it today???
If you think you are a loser, then generally everyone else will as well...if you think you're not and others think you are...then you need to re-evaluate why...
I guess the best description of a "loser" i can give is someone who just does not "fit"...
To tell you the truth...I really don't know what a loser is...
Being the middle meant i wasn't "the eldest"...and i wasn't "the baby"...so growing up i remember not really knowing where i fit in...
My older sister was "the perfect example of a child"...and my younger sister was the one that "could do no wrong" (especially when my mom knew she would not be able to have any more children)...
I was the "wikked one"...and a rebel for sure...you name it I got into it...perhaps it was my way of getting attention...
I don't think that ALL the issues have been resolved, since i still feel i try harder within our family to "get recognition"...
I'm seriously wondering if you emit some sort of "pheremone" or something...
Or if men feel that if a woman is "attached" then she must be "worthwhile"...so where they perhaps weren't willing to take the chance before (because of her single status) they are now...now that someone else has "tested the water"...
Why is it as soon as a woman committs herself to a relationship....men start "crawling out of the woodwork"???
She could have been single for years...but the minute she becomes "attached" all kinds of men decide now is a good time to ask her out??
I've actually said it in a humourous way, but its really a serious question...just wondering if there is some "male instinct" that cause men to want to have what someone else has, show themself to be "better"...
I'm sure this applies in some way to men as well...but i'm speaking strictly from my own point of view here....
RE: Wintery Nights
Hey Willow...Clay can tell you...I'm one "hot blooded woman"!!