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Don't Rock The Boat.....

Oh...and words that will forever haunt me...

..."Can you grab me a ______ while you're up..."...

Don't Rock The Boat.....

I'm sure the guys have things they wished they could have told their partner that it really bugged them...so what is it guys??

I know my "ex" used to call home before he got here to ask if i needed anything (this is back in the days of beepers...remember those???? )...and it never failed the minute he reached home, i would remember we needed something for the house (I didn't drive in those days either... )

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Another thing that i really hated is when he told his friends he couldn't go out because he had to "babysit" the kids...what the hell...they are his kids too...he wasn't "babysitting" he was being a parent....

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*sigh* I used to hate when he woke me up to tell me he was late for work...what was i going to do...turn back the hands of time???

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Honeydipped you kill me!!!

RE: Male mini skirt dilemma

Anyone who really knows James (Abra) will know his humour is uniquely his own and truly does not mean to offend....he is actually a wonderful person

RE: Lady friend HELP

sometimes Darren you don't have to DO anything at all..it "just happens naturally"...

If she is as comfortable with you as you are with her..the attraction is also there on her part i'm sure...when that first "kiss" comes...its going to have been a "mutual" thing...not a preplanned move on your part...

You may be thinking that you're too chicken to broach the subject, but that's because you are putting TOO much thought into it...sometimes the opportunity presents itself with no effort on your part whatsoever...and who knows if you're out to the pub with her tonight...what says it may not be tonight that it comes up....

Good luck

Don't leave anything to chance my friend...Myself personally...i'd rather take the chance and lose a potential friend, than not take a chance and lose a potential life mate...

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That was one of my pet peeves too...he would wipe around the bathroom sink...but leave it full of whiskers!!

It also bugged me that he threw his "balled up" socks in the laundry..and i had to open them up to wash...ick

AND....(yes there's more!!)

I hated when he told his friends he couldn't go out because he had to babysit the kids!! WTF..they were his kids too!! he wasn't "babysitting"...he was being a parent...oh yeah...I forgot that was MY job to (as someone else mentioned on here!!)

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I know that we have all apparently "learned" from our experiences...but i was just more curious as to the things they did that really annoyed you...but you bit your tongue in order to keep peace...

The helping me clean up after dinner was one of them...the other was how he thought he "cleaned up" after himself, but that included leaving his balled up icky socks in the laundry basket i guess for me to open...and whiskers in the sink...even though the bathroom counter had actually been wiped down...

Those are more of the kind of things i'm asking about here...

Don't Rock The Boat.....

I know what you were thinking...hahaha....however...

Just wondering how many different things there are that men and women in relationships DON'T say to each other because they "don't want to rock the boat"...

I know one of the things i dreaded the most is when my "ex" had ever offered to help "ME" clean the kitchen after supper....first of all it always rubbed me the wrong way that he thought it was MY job...and second his idea of cleaning the kitchen and mine were two different things...(for example...I think that the pots and pans on the stove should be considered "dishes" and get washed too!)
Using your hand to throw all the crumbs off the counter is not really considered cleaning the counter...and the dog/cat should not be used to "sweep" up said crumbs....

I'm sure i did things to annoy him as well... ....

So my question to you is were their things you DIDN'T say, but had really really wanted to???

Don't Rock The Boat....

I know what you were thinking...hahaha....however...

Just wondering how many different things there are that men and women in relationships DON'T say to each other because they "don't want to rock the boat"...

I know one of the things i dreaded the most is when my "ex" had ever offered to help "ME" clean the kitchen after supper....first of all it always rubbed me the wrong way that he thought it was MY job...and second his idea of cleaning the kitchen and mine were two different things...(for example...I think that the pots and pans on the stove should be considered "dishes" and get washed too!)
Using your hand to throw all the crumbs off the counter is not really considered cleaning the counter...and the dog/cat should not be used to "sweep" up said crumbs....

I'm sure i did things to annoy him as well... ....

So my question to you is were their things you DIDN'T say, but had really really wanted to???

RE: What are equal rights?

Ummm....yep...and then they sit them down in assemblies dedicated to "racialism"....lol....

I have found the better way is to educate my children that racialism exists...and find different ways to deal with it...being bi-racial themself and having parents of two very obvious different colours have made them have to deal with it from the word go...

BTW...I would be asking the school if there is anything that says MY child CANNOT stay full day (I would need to see it in writing though... ) and if there isn't...then i would inform them that starting tomorrow my child will be staying all day....and certainly i would wish them all a very lovely day....

There is more than one way to skin a cat...
So if you can't beat them...join them!

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RE: A den or Fun or Hypocrisy?

LOL...it has always been that way for me Jane...and not only here on the forums...I will say though that when most people get to know me..they either like me or they don't...which is just fine by me...

People have a right to their opinion, and sometimes they are very "passionate" about what they believe...and so they should be, however, they fail to understand that they way to bring someone around to seeing it from their point of view...or perhaps even changing someone's view...is not by attacking or by mud slinging, but by stating the facts about what they believe....

Its like i said before lots of people are willing to jump on a bandwagon over a theory that sounds good...yet they have no idea WHY they believe it...it just sounds good and thats all they know!
Questioning them allows them the opportunity to question it themselves and see if they truly believe what they are saying...yet they see it as an attack and behave as such...

I have changed my views on lots of things based on the solid arguments of people on here and in my day to day life....i am not opposed to that..its how i learn and grow...

BTW...I have had several messages of "apology" from some folks on the international site...I guess in hindsight they saw that they were being petty about a question genuinely posed...and the fact that regardless of what...I very seldom "mud sling" but i will say what i have to...in a polite way of course...

RE: Fly by.....

Well we got a dumping of snow!

However i don't think its as much as they thought we would get...but GOOD GAWD its freezing outside!!

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....and then there's that....

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When i think back to all i had to do to accomplish my studies...how many "wake up" tablets i ate (that's where i learned to eat coffee beans by the way)...how many doors i had to beat down to let them give me just one chance...I just want to faint....

RE: What are equal rights?

I would be curious to know why the "aboriginals" have whole day class and why my child is only entitled to half day...

Then I would request a copy of my "school/education" rights from the Ministry of Education (I've had to do this in the past)...review what you as a parent should expect from the school when your child is there...and how is your child's rights being affected here under these circumstances...
I would want a written explanation NOT from the school (no at this point i want it from the head honcho) as to why being Aboriginal entitles one to a "different" curriculum in school...(of course so that i can understand their position... )

Do you not have a school trustee representing your area??

And by the way...I have also taken on the "educational system" since the first day my daughter stepped foot in school...I have never been invited to join the PTA...

RE: Kind of upset...bit of a work dilemma

I'm sorry doll...I know that feeling all too well...

I say don't do it if its not what you want...not even as a temporary measure...you don't know what other opportunities you are passing up by being tied up there and waiting responses from others...you can only be an asset to your company if you are happy within the company...let the position open up for someone who enjoys "sales" (I myself cannot do this...)

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You rock!!...you're doing so much better than me this morning wording things...and i've had like 6 cups of coffee already...not to mention...shovelled a driveway of snow that came up to my knees!!!

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Thanks Allan...

Yes the Housing Tribunal deals with issues concerning the "Landlord/Tenant" act...

My past "law" experience has been in criminal law and the public trustee's office...I've taken on Revenue Canada (there is on winning with them by the way...and that lasted 6 years), as well as the Canadian Pension Office....which i did win with....but i would have to get back to studying to take this one on....

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My friends and collegues are saying the same thing...its really more about the "confidence" i exude when i walk into a courtroom...my appearance takes second place there...

Like you i dress according to the occasion...very few people at my children's school even know i have tattoos...and when i worked at the courts before NO ONE knew i had them...back then the only thing i would allow myself was stilletto heels with my business suit...and garter belts and stockings...

Even now..how i dress for work is out of the norm for me, we are only allowed the "subdued" colours of navy blue, gray or tan slacks, and white shirts...which must have a collar...

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Thank you sooooo much....

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No..I have had my tattoos since i was 18...and my "piercings" are limited to my ears...

What i was worried about is the exact "mentality" that i am getting here...

I had actually forgotten that i had changed my profile pic yesterday just for something different...wonder if i would have been entitled to different responses if i had left the one of Clay and I I've had up until yesterday....


I have stated my reason for asking the question now, but i did not word my original thread that way...not sure how my "appearance" became the topic...

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Thanks Jane for putting into words what i feel daily....

I gave my reason for asking this question, and just from the majority of replies on the int'l forum I already know what i would be dealing with...and i'm not sure i want to be doing that at this stage in my life...many years ago you better believe i had the stamina to "take on the world"...and prove myself...now....

What really really bothers me is that I asked a general question...did not imply it was about me in any way...wanted to know what people thought had the biggest impact about THEMSELVES...yet..as always..it always reverts back to the "appearance" of the poster...

And frankly i forgot i had switched my primary profile pic yesterday...just for a change...I wonder if i would have gotten a different answer if i had left the picture up of Clay and I...and is that what it really takes to get a decent answer???

RE: I have a dilemma

You could use the recent "freeze" and all the snow we're getting as a reason you're "antsy" to get out there and enjoy it all...ask if he'd be up for something like that (tell him you've been waiting all season for this....)

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Hi Oceans...thank you...

However even though this was a general question, and was not worded at first to imply that it was personal (I did ask what people thought made the biggest impact about THEMSELVES)... you will note...you most certainly did not give me the benefit of a doubt that i may have a great voice, or be good conversationalist...or that my perfume may be something you would like....

As a matter of fact, most of the answers pertained to me...even though like i said it was a general question....says alot...

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Hey Alex...My "professionalism" within the courts has never been questioned....though i did push the envelope sometimes (just wikked i guess... )

I do love the "job" itself...I love a good argument...but just from the comments on this thread alone...I can see what i would be facing constantly...unless i project myself to accommodate what is the "norm"...i will be butting heads every day...don't know if i want to keep doing that at this stage in my life...

Years ago I had the stamina to take on the world and fight for my right to dress and appear however i wanted as long as it was within their guidelines and i got the job done....

Some things just never change....

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The reason i am asking this is because i have been offered a new venue as a career...a Tribunal Rep (for the housing tribunal)...

Because i have worked within the court system before those that are encouraging me to do this know that i am quite capable of "arguing a point" based on facts...(I don't allow personal feelings to hinder my thought process in law)

However...I do happen to know what kind of "appearance" i have, and i'm wondering how willing would people who's "homes" are at stake here be willing to allow me to represent them....and would they have enough confidence in my ability...

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Yes...I just saw that....