So you don't think that if you are "absent" (for whatever reason) and they see your child involved in something they should not be doing, they shouldn't step in?
How comfortable are you telling family, friends, co-workers or even mere aquaintances that you met your partner - or is looking for a partner - on the internet?
I have to admit the first thing that came to my mind when I read your original post was...is that what you go to church for?? To meet women...potential wives???
Secondly after reading this post (I read no further), I was rather irritated to find that you believe you have the right to decide who has a real and who has a pretended relationship with God - that's rather judgemental of you...isn't the relationship between man/woman and God between the two of them...how did you get thrown into the mix?
Today my 13 year old daughter told me about an application on "Facebook" which was an alleged ruse by p*dophile to pinpoint "children" (It had to do with them changing their profiles to a cartoon character)...
Regardless of whether or not this is true..it just makes me sick that these are the "monsters" I let into my home...via Internet!!
There was a time one only worried about the monsters lurking in the streets...and that home was where you were safe...now it just seems as if there is no where "safe"...
I do know about all the parental controls for children and computers by the way...that's not really the point...its the fact that though the internet is a great thing...it also has a downside...
My first after school jobs were in retail...and though I went on to do other "careers"...after my children were born I went back into retail (as most mothers will tell you its the only field that really accommodates "mothers" and their schedules)...however I've always loved it and have remained - and moved up - within this field for many years now...
But...
Not sure that at my age I can keep up with the demands of my job...it is a fiercely competitive field, so later hours, weekends, and the pushing from head office to be the "best" is really wearing on me. Budget cuts and recession has made it necessary for one person to do the job of three, so it has become a physically demanding job as well...
Is it too late to decide that i need to do something else?
However, is flirting really harmless? Can it be misconstrued as genuine interest (or is it genuine interest?)...Can one step over the line doing this..or is there some unspoken ground rules that is automatically understood up front?
I'm old school...I looked for certain features that i wanted to (genetically) pass on to my children...I looked for whether or not he would be a good provider, acceptable to my parents etc etc...that's who I married...
When I was dating...I just looked for..umm...you know...
Over the phone or on the internet people answer mundane questions however they may feel...
I find first dates a good opportunity to SEE how they answer those same mundane questions...first dates are usually a great time to find out exactly what you do have in common...and whether or not the "chemistry" is there...
I also use that time to see how he interacts with the general public and how comfortable or uncomfortable he is socially...
My ex's parents had him late in life...and he was an only child...he hated it...and though they both passed away when he was in his late 30's, what breaks my heart to this day is that my children missed out on having these loving wonderful people in their own life...that they did not live long enough to see how wonderful their grandchildren turned out...
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Takes a "village" to raise a child?
So you don't think that if you are "absent" (for whatever reason) and they see your child involved in something they should not be doing, they shouldn't step in?