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RE: Should a parent be accountable

Thought i'd also add this...only heard about it on the weekend...

There is a part of the city down town called Jamestown...it is mostly government assisted housing...and the heart of a lot of "gang related" activities...
To date the city has not been able to do anything and trying to speak to the parents have garnered them the same answer each time "I can't control what my children are doing"....

Well here is the new plan...anyone found associated with "gang related" activities...their whole family will be removed from the government assisted housing....their has been an uproar over this, however...I guess all these parents who have to date claimed they can't control their children, better come up with something if they want to keep that low cost housing over their head....

RE: Should a parent be accountable

I say parents should be accountable...that's why they are the parent and their kids are the "child" in the relationship...if children knew all they should know to function in society they would be born as "adults" and fully aware...
I will admit that society and the government has stepped in and tied the hands of good solid parents by throwing the net over the whole lot...

I do remember my mom telling me you can't straighten a tree that's already grown crooked....(meaning that i needed to make sure to instill in them from young what was acceptable to me and not wait until they were grown before trying to do that)

And my Aunt telling me...a 6 year old that i cannot control will become a 16 year old that i cannot control....

I felt very inadequate and unprepared when my children were young...the "discipline" thing was way beyond me...I had never liked to see my children cry, nor be the cause of their crying...but i perservered...and today i have 2 happey healthy well behaved children...they are well liked wherever they go and they make their father and I very proud....so i guess all those days and nights i cried over being a "mean parent" paid off....

They are entering the "teen" stage...and yes that is a whole new ball game...but the foundation was already set years ago...

RE: Scared of Love

I know i've said it before but when i met Clay it was not with the intention of "hooking up"...it was to meet a friend..make a friend...

Obviously that did happen...along with something else...so I guess what i'm trying to say is that whatever is meant to happen is going to happen...
And then again, perhaps because i didn't go to meet him with any sort of "expectations"..I was able to be myself and allow him to see the "real" me...(the one that people don't think exist because of my appearance...)

I am willing to put all my effort into making this relationship work...if it lasts then i will have what i have always wanted, if it doesn't...then what i will have learned is that i am still capable of loving, worthy of being loved and i will be content with that...

Its no use "anticipating" Lorraine...you have made the first step by opening yourself up to being loved by someone, now its time to take the second step...and that is to meet this person...each step after that will only get easier...

Good luck!

RE: Scared of Love

I don't have any advice of my own to give Lorraine...when it comes to matters of the heart...I am out to sea...

However..a friend sent me this bit of advice i'd like to share with you....

..."Just be patient with your heart. "....sage advice if you ask me..

Would You Date Someone With Children if You Have None of Your Own??

You made sense to me Rose...

I know I had about 3 seconds to decide whether i should "keep quiet" or not when it came to Clay's daughter...so i opted for doing what comes naturally for me...and it seemed to have been the right choice...

However I may have lucked out as Clay gave us plenty of space to make our relationship and did not try to make it for us...I am never an "afterthought" when we are together...I am always his girlfriend...and his daughter is always his daughter...so "how to behave" was not a fearful thing for me...and I always made it a point to discuss everything with him...this has worked for us...

RE: If u can?

Just had a look at the picture i took on Saturday...Good Gawd!!!...

Whaddya know...I AM real!!!

RE: Your CS secret crush?

Guess its not a secret anymore....


But it did come as a shock to me!!!

Would You Date Someone With Children if You Have None of Your Own??

I must say...I agree with FB here...and moreso because i am now caught in this position...

This weekend Clay's 14 year old daughter called me "mom"...I don't think she realized she did it...I think it just came out that way..but what it tells me is that she has begun to see her father and I as a "couple" and me as a "mother figure" (not her mother..but a mother figure) in the home...because she is of an age with my own daughter...I have always spoken to her and treated her the same as I would my own child...good or bad...LOL

So what FB said here is exactly how i've been feeling since i left there yesterday...that its not just "Clay and I" here...there is another young person's feelings to consider in this relationship...

Two things running through my mind is..."am I in too deep"...or have I reached the point of "no return" (in my relationship with him)...

RE: Death of an Ex

I am very sorry for the shock this has put you into...

However, you cannot imagine that your agreeing to let him become part of your children's life or calling him after Christmas would have change the hands of time...his path was already set and you most certainly did not have a part in that...

If you believe in a "higher being" then you must know his impromptu visit at Christmas after three years and you agreeing to let him in to see the girls...was all that was meant to happen...because the "visits" and "keeping in contact" afterwards...was never to be...

So believe me when i say...you could have called him a hundred times after Christmas...and agreed to let him be part of the girls life again...but that was not going to change what was about to happen between his brother and himself...

My heart goes out to you...but please don't carry burdens that are not yours to carry....

RE: Which Do You Prefer?

It is by "nature" men are born "hunters"...so i for one am willing to let them do what comes naturally to them...

RE: How are you feeling right now and why?

Thanks L....I appreciate it...I do love Clayton..and know he loves me in return....I have always been the first to bolt from the minute the "L" word makes an appearance...

But he has been patient and encouraging to me...and in doing so has only caused my love and respect for him to grow that much more...

Not only does he love and respect my wishes in return...his understanding goes beyond our "own" needs to that of my children and current lifestyle...he is tolerant and giving and conducts himself as a man should....knowing that I have responsibilities that all my love for him cannot make me walk out on...but still willing to wait...what else could i have asked for...

RE: Where did you...

Since i was little i have heard the moniker "wicked" attached to my name...as a matter of fact...I still do...lol...so it seemed appropriate....

Ask Clayton and Willowsay...they can tell you first hand how wikked i can really get...

RE: How are you feeling right now and why?

Thanks Lorraine...the fact is Clay IS perfect for me...but thats what scares me the most....so far me loving someone has not ever worked out in my favour....so wary as to why i think this time it would....

RE: How are you feeling right now and why?

I just got home from spending the weekend with Clay...and I miss him...

The more time I spend with this man..the more i realize how much i absolutely adore him... (I was actually thinking quite the opposite would happen...I'm very good at coming up with reasons why i can't "love" someone.... )

How Do You Do It??

Thank you....

For all of you that don't live in Ontario...I had to brave a blizzard last night to get up to Waterloo...it was worth the trip!!

I am still here now and its snowing so beautifully outside...trying to convince Clay to go for a walk in the snow with me...

Today we met Willowsway (CS member)...she is such a riot and I'm so glad i had the opportunity to meet her...the three of us went shopping and had a blast...well her and I did...we just happen to have the same sense of humour....

For all of you that suggested the emails and phone chats during the week...anticipating the weekend...

Right now that all we have until we can make alternate plans...its those "plans" I'm afraid of...

Time To Fly....

...". We as parents just need to teach them from right and wrong and hope and pray that they will learn and follow our advice and teachings to them"...

That is the most we can hope for...

I am watching my girls become "young ladies" right before my eyes...and am amazed at how quickly the grow...and though i am sad at the thought of them no longer depending on me...I'm even sadder at the thought of them not having the opportunity to spread their wings and fly...and become all they have potential to become....

Time To Fly....

For the most part most of us have heard how mother birds push their "fledgling" baby birds out of the nest when its time for them to learn to fly and leave the nest....

Now these baby birds don't know they can fly...but their momma does..and she does what she has to...she gives them that "push" so they can spread their wings and learn to fly....

If the mother bird didn't do that...how would these chicks know they can fly...so its up to HER to make the call...right?

Does anyone else here see the connection to these "bird" habits...and yourself as a parent??

RE: Bacon

That's my opinion too...any "salted" or "cured" meat can stay refrigerated for much longer than undressed meat...(hope that came out right)

RE: favorite childhood toy?

Thumbelina

What Would Make You Jealous???

I've never really seen "jealousy" as a game...rather an emotion that you cannot help but feel...however one that can be dealt with differently as one matures....

Is that a fair statement??

RE: The last say

Yep Dougie....I seem to know a few of those "rocks"...

RE: Inner Peace

Reading always helps me achieve some sort of peace...

However...I have a living room that only i sit in...It is decorated in an Oriental theme and i try to incorporate "feng shui" in there..also i have a large hexagon tank of tropical fish...nothing can make me calm right down like watching those fish in that living room...very serene...very quiet...and i can spend hours sitting in there doing absolutely nothing....

How Do Men Fall In Love???

I don't think being a lesbian is something someone just wakes up one morning and decides to do...like cuttig their hair or something...and i don't know why you think that being in a lesbian relationship will not have any ups and downs as a male/female relationship....

You seem to have "sworn off men" by your comment Brunette....may i remind you the "son" you love so dearly is part of the male species......

RE: How many other dating sites are you on ?

I had been on two...but of late just CS...cuz i'm only here for the forums and my friends....

I have been on CS for a year...the other site I had been on and off for a almost a year as well though i didn't go on there much

RE: Can this be right?

Next time take your own bottles, pay the 3.99 for the water and tell them they can keep their $10.00 bottle....

Have a great day Trace!!

RE: What is your most valued possession?

My inner peace....

RE: The last say

...". Do you find that you have to get your last word in to make a point"....


YEP!!!

RE: i'm a doctor new to this forum

I think its the University Of Doogie Howser....



J/K...but where did the doctor go???

An Invitation To The Voiceless....

You're right in that aspect Ed...after a year of being on here..and genuinely trying to "date" people i had met...I realized that for the most part...alot of these people were just content to "date their computers"...lol

I stayed on the forum because i enjoyed the banter and adult company i found here...great way to unwind after a long day at work sometimes...spent alot of time on the international site because of the time difference, you could always find someone to talk to....

I had actually given up on really meeting anyone on here...and had just become accustomed to the fact that if i'm going to meet someone they are just going to "walk into my life" somehow...but i had cease my active searching....my profile even said so...

And then the inevitable happened....you stop looking...and they crawl out of the woodwork!!!

RE: So... What are your names anyway??

Pleased to meet you Martina...I am Ursilla