anyone who empathically believes they know what they want..they are usually wrong.
thats how love works....deny protest muah as you will.... we all have a better chance of controlling and knowing our fate in life then knowing what smil;e we se next being the love our life... history itself, even poets, philosophers. yes Common sense and logical reasoning these tools so many hold in such high regard..... cannot be applied to the science of Love.
to this day even this posting this drivel I stil finsd hard to accept.... but those who have found this elusive most comforting and euphoric sensation will attest... its beyond understanding in the sense that 1 plus 1 equals 2 its beyond the laws of sceince man holds most dear. it is those who believe Love can be explained are still seeking the overwhelming power of it.
I be of this group sadly I'm admitting this....,. still seeking the sense and logic of it all.
Its saturday, and honesty to a question such as this could be more than should be expexted being its a Saturday. alas i/we cannot remove a thread that requires an honest answer...; My bad
Life when potential love is concerned unpredictable, I'm hoping this fact is gonna be agreed upon by the masses of CS.
heres the Question do those that feel this attraction should they: react as, this is how my mother or father or big sister or big brother did. does how you've seen others react to "love knocking on their door" affect how you react to attraction felt?
As I was growing up I was always assured of a News Years day meal of plain bean soup or potato soup,
When I finally asked "Why we had to eat that stuff?" .My dad explained, this is a poor mans meal. the least expensive meal a family can have. and by enjoying this meal on this day we are assured that the new year will bring about a better life... It seemed to work for my dad and I guess if its good enough of a ritual for him its damn good enough for me. however i have changed/embellished the recipe on both soups
there are many aspects to a good healthy relationship as i see it. Each have strengths in different areas. no matter how these strengths where developed , by how parents raised us, or attained skills or even are likes, dislikes or hobbies. In todays world however I believe both should have the ability to be a provider and contributor in all aspects from domicile to employment to repairs to kitchen and yard work. I think one experience at marriage taught me that.
Maybe thats a reason the"pretty dumb" gets the attention. their needs, wants and desires are more readily visible and easier to read. as to loving the unknown we should all seek out the unknown to know, understand and comprehend its effects on us.
Show me a intelligent person that does not seek to know the unknown before committing to what it can offer.
To love something is to truly know something, thus "Amor Fati" We all can pretty much know the expected outcome when we direct our attention to a "pretty dumb".
I do not want the love I share to be considered a Chess match but more a joining of forces, an alliance between to individuals who both possess strengths and weaknesses. It is this Union that will be perfect not the individuals that make it up. amor fati love of fate and believing above all else fate will serve you well. strange evryday every decision impacts our fate. we choose to be a singular entity amongst the masses. damn ,aybe one drink to many during lunch what so ya think
new relationships are always precarious trying too hard can be the ruination of new relationships.
Still as you have said its an investment.
Like most investments one that will reward you greatly is usually the one with the biggest"what if" factor, .and those where over a long period of time will show steady dividends throughout its life.
never been a believer in love at first sight....Ok once or twice but that was long ago.
quality cannot be so quickly judge in a human.
An intelligent person is far more likely to be seen as player because of this quality over quantity thinking. The adage "Do not place all my eggs in one basket" comes to mind. where those who belive love conquers all even when in its infancy stages.. Damn do I miss having that mentality.
my posts here are thoughts (year ends kinda stuff) I have been having about myself. I do not deem myself a player but my intelligence tells me not to commit to rashly...yeah to recapture the belief that one or 2 fantastic nights are enough to build a relationship on...those days are gone for me.
I still wonder if "overthinking", over analyzing and setting ones requirements in a partner in the beginning of a relationship to such a high standards could be the culprit of many intelligent people still remaining single.
A object when new functions perfectly, when choosing a partner when they are "new" they are as you somewhat flawed or have yet to adjust or grow into the position of being a perfect mate.
I believe thats the task and building blocks of love. growing together, learning and knowing each other to accept and compromise. Change is inevitable, being single or otherwise. Knowing the future when alone is and always will be a much easier task for an intelligent person, being single is easier when wehave used our intelligence to provide for ourselves for so long.
Afterall intelligent people can always find a multitude of ways to satisfy whatever yearnings, wants and needs arrive on their own.
Maybe thats a reason the"pretty dumb" gets the attention. their needs, wants and desires are more readily visible and easier to see.
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still miss her to this day
who should be the one to follow thru on an attraction?
thus once again I have presented a question that plaques me as to the fact most hold to the claim they do not understand what I'm saying...as is the way of heartfelt inquiries that are not always understood... but a thank you to those who did respond.