Marmitegirl Forum Posts (77)

RE: My xmas present

I will add you to my list. I am halfway through my shopping but still have another seven people to buy for so one extra won;t make much difference!
I will be poor in Janusry though as my credit card is taking a hit this year!

RE: sunny morning

It's grey and damp here.

I have a class to teach at 11am and once that's finished I am being taken out for lunch.

RE: Attitude??

I agree with that.

I also wanted to post this which was sent to me in an email recently. I've no idea who wrote it but it's very funny.

How to Shift the Blame
The Textbook Guide.

1. First, tell her that the timing to discuss it isn't right. Remember, it's never a good time to 'talk'.

2. Before hearing a word, tell her she took everything wrong and is being 'too sensitive'.

3. Get a rotation going: Monday and Wednesday she's 'overreacting', Tuesday and Thursday she is 'blowing it out of proportion' and on weekends she is 'imagining things'.

4. Change the subject. Say 'you're starting your period aren't you?'

5. If this doesn't work, pick a fight. Be very combative but repeatedly point out that she was the one who started the argument.

6. If she has six good points and you have one semi-good little point place all of the emphasis on your one semi-good little point.

7. Don't Veer. Keep asking about your one semi-good little point over and over, then demand a quick answer. If she hesitates use this as evidence that you are right.

8. If she is clearly right, find fault with her that has nothing to do with the incident, and use that.

9. Be sure to create your own imaginary panel of experts (composed of people she's never met). Say 'Even Joe and Jim agree with me and think you are being completely unreasonable'

10. When she tries to explain the same thing in a different way, roll your eyes.

11. Appoint yourself her in house therapist. Say. 'You do this to yourself. Why do you do this to yourself?'

12. Keep count of how many times she repeats herself and be sure to say 'You're repeating yourself'.

13. It's like boxing. Jab with the left, uppercut with the right. Then run.

14. As Mohammed Ali used to say: 'Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee'. Float by dodging the issue and sting by asking her why she can't let it go.

15. Keep dancing and stay light on those feet.

16. And remember, it's always her fault. Thta's your story and you are sticking' to it!

RE: Aggresive Women...

There is an attempt on this thread at a total put down of someone when noone else is aware of what happened and obviously is only something which happened in the last few months and is a personal issue
In light of later posts and with the knowledge that the poster here thinks in this way of another poster and going by the this poster stating 'I do not wish to bring personal issues in here' or words to that effect then the quoted post is probably about as passive aggressive as you can be!

It's quite ironic.




I have to be somewhat aggressive in my job in order to motivate people but I keep it in a teasing manner and always check that my manner is working for a person. If it isn't I need to change it with that person as they will get nothing out of their time in my gym/class and time spent with me.

RE: Someone New

I react just the same as that.
If it's someone purely asking something then I respond but luckily I don't get much mail and mail isn't something I want as I'm only here for the forums.

RE: Deal with it, or not?

Not personally but yes, a friend of mine has experienced this.

He was an unemployed drinker and was an argumentative type even when sober.
I think it only lasted about a month.
I think she got back with him briefly as he wouldn't go away and getting back with him was to give him a taste of his own meds!
It was over a year ago but he was in touch with her again in the summer. He contacts her about every 3 months.
He's a nutjob!
I met him once and had no idea why she was seeing him.

RE: Put your Dating Experiences into a word...

Amazing.

That counts for all of them and some very special memories as well.
No complaints so far in my life.

RE: Once you cross over that line from friends to lovers...

It depends how adult you are about it.

I do think people need some space after a break up so the less contact straight after gives healing time.
It depends how the break up went too and what happened to cause it.
I'm still friends with my ex's and I'm friends with the partners of those ex's too.
It's all about respect for people.

I do also agree with another poster about keeping your knickers on.

RE: are women turned of by men who take drugs??

It's a total turn off for me.

RE: what you need the most in your partner?

Respect.
And the need to ravish him.

RE: What is it about being in...

This reminds me of someone from the forums who mailed me (I can't remember who it was now as it was a while ago)and complained that the posters here and their postings were basically quite banal.
I suggested he leave if it wasn't to his taste.
The conversation carried on for a little bit and I ended up reading a page of his posting history which was in the same style as those he was berating.

RE: Bitter Ex's...

So very true!

These also tend to be the people who act totally differently to the way they preech.

RE: Why is it......

I agree with all of that and it seems to be due to too mush sun, drinking and a poor diet.
The bags under the eyes give it away.
Poor posture adds to men looking older as well and if they haven't practised good posture for years then it's unlikely to be fixable by the time you're 40.
They still want a hottie on their arm though which is a bit of a double standard in my opinion!

RE: Do You Resent Who You Are?

I find it really sad to ses that anyone feels resentment for themselves.
Once something has happened it's done there isn't any point in analysing it after the effect as it's a waste of negative emotional energy.
If a person is consistently kicking themselves over thier choices maybe it's time to rethink the choice process itself.

RE: For ladies only...would you ever shave your head?

I have.
I did it for charity years ago.
I still have the evemt on an old video somewhere.

RE: anger!

I very rarely get angry but if I do I take myself out of the situation making me angry.

I know a couple of people who seem to thrive on anger and making a complete mountain out of everything.
They tend to swear and awful lot.
They look older than they are.

Angry is a waste of energy and time and I don't like spending mine with angry people who you have to walk on eggshells with.
If I have no choice but to spend time with them I carry on happily and just ignore them.
That makes them more angry usually.

RE: What kindof memories do you have about your married life ?

I wasn't married and have never been but we were together for 7 years and I only have the fondest of memories.

RE: What bothers you more?....excess flab on your.......

I don't have any excess flab.

RE: All Blonds are liars

Too damn funny!

Ahem.
Why don't you ask next time if she is a natural or dyed?
Also, don't forget that a woman can be blonde atop and dark below just the same as a man can..
Do you usully rant like this? Scary!

RE: band naming

ZeeLM (Zombies love music)

RE: Do you believe love happens

I have no idea. I haven't ever met anyone from the net and to be honest I'd probably only use it for dating if I wasn't having any luck in the real world as I do meet a lo of new people in my daily life as it is.

RE: CONFESSIONS,,,

I confess that I am incredibly excited about buying my own franchise! Whoop!!

RE: U just received an interesting inbox message/great picture-To good to be true...

I haven't ever received an interesting email.
I will wait with baited breath..

Having said that, I'm not here for dating so don't pay any attention to mails and I don't read profiles either unless a person has asked for a profile review.

RE: Is infertility becoming more frequent?

Infertitilty is on the increase as the lifestyle has changed.
People are more sedentary and don't always eat a healthy balanced diet so don't get the vitamins and minerals they need.

Lady in Dublin, I just found the following website which is uK based and information on nutrition.



I had a laporooscopy last year.I was tested within four weeks of speaking to my doctor and asking her to refer me, it was confirmed and I was prescribed Cerazette the mini pill. Within a few months I was pain free and still am.

How many times have you asked your GP to refer you again?
If they are refusing to refer you then you should chnange doctors.
If the problem is endo then it will only get worse, not better.

RE: ARE YOU JELOUS IN A RELATIONSHIP?

I've never had any reason to become jealous in a relationship.

I don't do drama either so any drama and I'd just quietly walk away.

RE: Are there any decent guys left in the world?

Of course there are decent men out there, just as there are decent women out there too.

People just need to be careful who they choose to go out with.
I've always been careful and haven't experienced any bad relationships as yet.
I've dated a few who I've decided not to see again but never gone into a relationship if I'm unsure.
If I see a trait I don't like then I'm gone for dust.

RE: PERCEPTION

I found this quite interesting as I do tend to stop and smell the roses.
If I am in a hurry to get somewhere due to a delay then I won't though and usually if I am in a place such as mentioned then I'm busy and on my way somewhere and wanting to be on time out of respect for whoever it is that |I am meeting.

In this instance I wouldn't have stopped even if I had all the time in the world because I don't like violin music and it isn't 'roses to be smelled' for me.

RE: Is there a height limit for your needs? Both Men and Women

Yes, I do it for that reason too! I had a lovely shopping trip earlier today.

Chasingcars.
Yes, I do love killer heels, not quite monster ones though but I still want the man to seem a fair amount taller than me when I'm wearing them.

Robbie.
Damp men?? I'm confused!

RE: Is there a height limit for your needs? Both Men and Women

I'm only 5ft but Like a man to be 5ft 10in or taller.

I wonder how many people measure their height as they get older?
You do get shorter as you age.

I confess that I also like to ask hot men to reach things off shelves for me in shops!

RE: Vegemite and cheese???

I feel obligated to post considering my username!

I don't like Vegemite but I love Marmite.
Marmite and cheese sandwiches are lovely as is cheese on toast with marmite.