Have done it on both here and on another site. One turned into an abortive attempt at a relationship. The other is still in the process of deciding what it can be.
Didn't have much choice but to tell the family at the time ... hard ta go meet someone over three hundred miles away (both were) without at least some explanation. My family was supportive .... friends were .... flabbergasted. Have definitely taken a lot of good natured teasing about meeting someone on line so far away and running there just ta see if it was worth taking further.
Most all whom I have told seem ta envy the fact that I can take the chance, are uncertain if it can ever work out, but very understanding and supportive.
worked half a day at a McDonalds about 25 years ago ... saw the uniform I had ta wear the next day <G>
And walked out of a machine shop once when the owner wrote a bad check fer payroll and told me ta deposit it to my account instead of cashing it. He swore it would be good by the time it went thru ... didn't need that drama
Married a young lady who was almost thirteen years younger than I. The age difference had nothing to do with the divorce ... married life was fantastic and ta be quite honest ... we had a happier .. more stable lifestyle than many I've been involved with closer to my own age. As long as my age isn't an issue to my partner ... will gladly enter another relationship like it despite the disparity in age.
Like all questions of this kind .. depends entirely on the two ppl involved
think that's fair ... happen ta know she didn't have any accounts she used when I was visiting other than the one ya all see. Deb ... time ta put up or quit being childish!
excellent summation ... I'm in full agreement. Your life is defined by both the good and the bad ... wishing the bad never happened is as pointless as blaming your troubles on everything except the real cause. Living without ever having loved must be one of the bleakest most desolate experiences anyone could ever suffer.
Like the idea but spice it up ... make your character use their empty houses for all sorts of illicit activities and they return ta find things like police waiting ... dead bodies ... homes trashed from the raves he threw there .... thieves are just so .... errr ... common <G>
I think fer lots of us it's easier and maybe better ta have the chance ta get ta know someone b4 approaching ... can't do that on the traditional singles scene!
as to original questions:
1. don't have an answer ta fit all the facts. 2. some are willing to take the chance others aren't ... works both ways. If two ppl take the chance ta get ta know each other and aren't afraid to admit it might work out ..... instant match. 3. I know I came onto the sites ta be able to SAY I was moving on after the divorce but the truth was I knew how unlikely it was anything that happened here would go beyond chatting (my choice ... not cynicism). I think a lot who get on the sites are the same way ... some never get past the hiding behind the computer screen or the "safety zone" thing wikkid talks about. 4. personally ... I've lived thru so many disasters that seem to be brought on just by the attitudes and moral values (or lack thereof)predominant in this area that I no longer care to look here. I'm confident that if something is meant to be between two ppl ... life and love will find a way to make it work no matter what the distance is. Won't reject local opportunities out of hand ... but will definitely take the chance on a long distance deal if we hit it off. 5 sometimes time is the only way ta answer some questions. 6 u hit the nail on the head there ... anyone can dazzle and shine for a short while ... real hard ta do it day in and day out 24/7 Even the hard core veterans of the forum wars in here only spend a fraction of their available time on here being witty, brilliant, understanding, and wise. But that's what the ppl you meet believe to be the core u. A lot are so unrealistic as to expect ya to be that way all the time. So yes ... as soon as they see the gritty stage the brilliant artist is performing on ... they lose interest. They don't want the reality forever ... they want the dream.
Looks like most of it goes back ta two things long distance being less likely to get too serious and ppl being on the sites even tho they aren't really ready to get involved.
Paws made a good point ... long distance offers lots of things that us refugees from disastrous relationships find appealing. It is easier ta not take past a certain point until we want to. It is easier to control the flow. And ultimately it is easier to walk away when ya get scared that things might be too serious if ur not quite ready ta be there.
And as to the ready or not issue ... only know that for sure if the online relationship comes to fruition in the real world. But remember, it's like they say about the lottery ... ya can't win if ya don't play!
Hope this doesn't get anyone too upset but here goes:
Depends on what ya call good. If ya mean a guy that wants ta settle with one woman, treat her right, be financially stable, and devote all his efforts to keepin her happy, I'll tell ya where we are.
We're the ones u ladies leave behind cuz we're gone too much because we're workin ta support the lifestyle you tell us u want, aren't as exciting as that bar room stud ya met last night ... aren't as rich as Bill Gates ... trust me ... I've been left by the best of ya for all o those reasons.
Is it any wonder we're getting hard ta find? When ya spend ur life trying ta make a happy life with just one woman and get crapped on over and over ... eventually ya quit tryin.
All of ya want to know where the good ones are but then then when ya find one ... u decide u wanna be with someone "better". The rest of us just give up and get used ta bachelorhood.
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RE: finding a good man
good thing I don't drink much beer ... too lazy ta get my own