Marriage and opinion-freewill
I am writing a book entitled: “The Human’s Opinion that Divides Humans”. Knowing how opinion-freedom or freewill works and having read in many profiles: “I am…” and “I want…”, I understand that the writers do not fully understand marriage; they want to “take” and never “offer” anything or they do not really want to get married.I am twice divorced and I have learned the following from my life experience:
If anyone that is married or intends to get (re)married really looked at himself/herself and succeeded in achieving, or honestly tried to achieve inner peace and gentleness, and could commit himself in every difficult circumstance to saying: "I am not judging you neither am I accusing you nor asking you to justify this, that or the other.
Instead I am letting everything go and enduring it silently and meekly, not because you insulted me out of meekness, but because since the day I agreed to become your spouse, I promised myself that I would never put you in the difficult position where an apology for the bitterness you cause me in life is necessary".
If that were the case, then family life, despite the problems it always has, would be free, peaceful, happy, and it would complete the man and his wife in Christ and no-one would ever be able to impel them to break up their marriage and family. It is well known that the completion of man is achieved only in Jesus Christ.
The key to unite man with a woman and both with God, not externally or sentimentally but truly is Deification* by God's Grace. This is the most important purpose, the final purpose, for which our Creator and Maker created man. However, if the man and his wife do not take the right stand on this basic issue, then they will fail in the other purposes of their life. Therefore their life as a whole will have no meaning.
In marriage the man has to want to live for his wife and the wife to want to live for her husband and each one to deny himself/herself and take up their cross daily, and follow Jesus (Luk 9, 23). Do you not know that…you are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your body (Cor.6, 19-20). Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others (Cor 10, 24). Only in this way, we may have a real “marriage communion”.
Finally, we have to repent and to live according to Jesus Christ's commands so as to console our souls which, no matter how much they have been poisoned and confused by sin, crave after the light of Christ.